Parents are the first and irreplaceable teachers of children, and children are inseparable from the close relationship with their parents throughout their lives. College students are in the late stages of puberty, which happens to be a critical period for psychological weaning. Just like physiological weaning, psychological weaning can also bring a variety of psychological conflicts to college students. Interaction anxiety is one of the important aspects.

College students are faced with the arduous challenge of stepping into the adult society and surviving and developing in it, and the complex interpersonal relationships make many college students have varying degrees of anxiety. So, does the parenting style affect the social anxiety of college students? If so, what parenting styles are conducive to or detrimental to the formation of a healthy and positive social psychology for children?

Parents' 4 behaviors affect children's mental health

Favoritism

Parents will show excessive doting, accommodation and favoritism to their children, which will lead to the formation of selfish and willful personalities ——— "self-respecting". In this way, children will be overly self-centered in the process of interpersonal communication, do not consider the feelings of others, do not have the patience to listen to others, are unwilling to take responsibility, are unwilling to cooperate with others, and cannot integrate into the group. Over time, they will be snubbed, rejected and isolated by everyone, and gradually they will develop social anxiety, always worrying about whether others will accept them. Nowadays, many children are only children, and parents pour all their love into their children alone. If you don't love your child in the right way, it may also cause anxiety about your child's interactions.

Overprotective, interfering

Due to the high expectations placed on their children, it is easy for parents to be overly protective and interfering with their children. Parents begin to think about their children's future when they are very young, and they are afraid that their children will be influenced by bad thoughts and bad behaviors, so they impose too many restrictions on their range of activities, and even make many regulations on choosing friends. In addition, many parents pay great attention to the future development of their children, in order to let their children avoid detours and setbacks, they do everything, arrange everything for their children perfectly, and consider every step very thoughtfully. This may seem like a good thing for the child, but it's not. This kind of excessive protection and interference of parents makes it difficult for children to have a sense of trust and security for the first contact, and this lack of trust and security will develop and continue with the growth of children until they become a sense of insecurity about the people and the world around them, thus affecting the smooth interaction between their children and others in adulthood, resulting in more evasive and hesitant attitudes and lack of initiative in their interactions. At the same time, children who rely too much on their parents, lack the necessary exercise, and do not have enough understanding of their own abilities, are prone to low self-esteem and self-denial, forming the characteristics of weakness and lack of autonomy.

Rejection, denial

Children who are often rejected by their mothers may become timid and unconfident in their interactions, be cautious in their dealings, fear of being blamed, and even have low self-esteem and tend to avoid social interactions so as not to "show their ugliness". By paying too much attention to their words and deeds, and deliberately concealing themselves in the hope of being recognized by the outside world, these children appear more nervous, cramped, and clumsy in social interactions, leaving themselves in a state of anxiety and fear. Therefore, mothers should give their children more support and affirmation. Only by getting the appreciation of their parents, children will appreciate themselves, and then appreciate and recognize people, and a person who really knows how to appreciate himself and others is easy to be left and right in the relationship, like a fish in water, and there will be a lot less unnecessary anxiety.

It is advisable not to treat your child in a monolithic manner

Parents' love and understanding of their children is the basis for children to develop trust and good feelings towards others, which can help children better understand themselves and form positive and confident character traits. At the same time, children also learn to show love and understanding to others in their interactions, and if they are kind to others, they will be easily accepted by others, and naturally they will not have too much anxiety about interactions. Therefore, parents should neither insist on going their own way and use authoritarian or even violent means to solve problems with their children, nor should they be indifferent and adopt a laissez-faire attitude, but should communicate and exchange with their children more, support and encourage them.

How to guide children to develop a sound mind

(1) Determine the viewpoint and worldview of the value that is correct and reasonable.

With a correct outlook on life and the world, young people will be able to have a correct understanding of life, the world, and society, and will be able to correctly observe and analyze objective things and handle things calmly and properly. Improves tolerance to frustration and psychological conflict, thereby preventing the occurrence of psychological disorders.

(2) Don't expect too much from how things will be handled.

On the basis of a full understanding of their own abilities and characteristics, young people should set goals for their studies, work, or other aspects. And this kind of goal should be achieved through hard work, do not blindly determine some goals that are out of reality only with good intentions and enthusiasm, let alone blindly participate in unrealistic competition, and do not have too high expectations for yourself, otherwise the goal will be disappointed, suffer setbacks, and be prone to psychological disorders.

(3) Be good at mastering the changes in self-correcting emotions.

In real life, teenagers will inevitably encounter negative emotions due to bad stimuli, distress after exam setbacks, and anger after classmates quarrel ...... For these, in addition to finding relatives and friends, classmates, and teachers to confide in them through heart-to-heart talks, they should remind and warn themselves to control their emotions in time. In addition, we should do our best to participate in some positive cultural and sports activities to prevent the emergence of negative moods and relax our minds. It's also very beneficial for maintaining your mental health.