Yale University and the University of California have done research on "How Social Relations Affect Mortality".
They followed up 7000 people for 0 consecutive years and found that:
People who are helpful and get along well with others have significantly better health and life expectancy than people who are often malicious and narrow-minded.
Moreover, the mortality rate of the latter is 2.0 to 0 times higher than that of normal people.
俗話說：心寬一寸，病退一丈。
It can be seen that the key to health preservation is not external maintenance, but the nourishment of the soul.
Be more considerate of others, less harsh, let go of one thought, the world is wide, and the body and mind are safe.
01
As the saying goes: all diseases start from the heart. As long as people live in the world, as long as they get along with others, there will inevitably be contradictions and conflicts. But a lot of times, it's not the thing itself that torments you, it's the mindset you have when you look at it. There is no room for sand in his eyes, and he is often dissatisfied and resentful of others, which has caused a huge consumption of his physical and mental health. In the novel "Wuthering Heights", Heathcliff's experience is a typical one. After being adopted by Shaun, the owner of Wuthering Heights, Heathcliff falls in love with Sean's daughter, Catherine, but is thwarted by her brother Hindley. Frustrated, Heathcliff went out to start a business and returned rich three years later. When Catherine returned to his homeland, she was married, and she was resentful and began a series of revenge attempts. Under his deliberate planning, the revenge plan went smoothly. But Heathcliff is not happy, his personality becomes more and more distorted, and he becomes more and more mean to those around him. Later, even the servants could not bear the gloomy atmosphere of the manor and fled one after another. And he himself, with an empty body of wealth, has no happiness at all, and lives in endless unwillingness and pain every day. In the end, he was tormented by the negative energy accumulated in his heart and described as withered, riddled with diseases, and died. As the old saying goes:薄福者必刻薄，刻薄則福益薄矣。
Being popular is too narrow, not looking at people's goodness, only remembering people's faults, it seems that the spearhead is aimed at others, but in fact, it is yourself who consumes.
Those qi held in the heart will sooner or later turn into a disease accumulated in the body.
Hao Wanshan, a famous doctor, recorded a real medical case he experienced.
Many years ago, a 14-year-old middle school girl, accompanied by her father, came to see a doctor.
The reason why she fell ill was because she was excellent in her studies and failed to be selected for the first batch of school members.
The girl felt that she had been treated unfairly and was so angry that she couldn't eat or sleep every day.
Her parents tried their best to comfort her, but the more she thought about it, the more unwilling she became, and after a while, she developed symptoms of retrosternal blockage.
Later, the girl was diagnosed with achalasia and underwent thoracoesophageal surgery at a major hospital, which was cured.
Coincidentally, thirty years later, Dr. Hao Wanshan saw her again.
此時的她，已年逾四十，卻依然性情偏激，因為時常與家人爭吵而導致舊病復發。
Suffering from illness, she asked Dr. Hao how to get rid of the root of the disease.
Dr. Hao could only shake his head and sigh: "This question should not be asked to me, but to yourself." ”
人有三大折損：怨、懟、恨。
What people are most afraid of is to be resentful and suppress negative emotions in their hearts, which is like planting a time bomb for their bodies.
When it accumulates to the limit, that is, when the body and mind break down and the sickness erupts.
02
The reason why many people are accustomed to criticizing others and holding on to their mistakes is nothing more than a psychology of being unreasonable.
But in fact, no matter how this approach is calculated, it is a loss-making account.
Because no matter who you can't get along with, you will end up with yourself, which is exhausting and hurtful.
Knowing how to be lenient with others, being humble and avoiding anger is the best medicine for a wise person to nourish his body and mind.
Writer Mo Yan once recalled an experience from his childhood in a speech.
Once, he accompanied his mother to the neighbors to pick up the remaining ears of wheat from other people's fields, but he ran into the owner of the house.
At that time, there were many people picking ears of wheat, and when the other party saw that their orphans and widows were easy to bully, they stretched out their hands and slapped their mother a few times.
Looking at the other party's vicious face, Mo Yan secretly made up his mind that one day he would seek justice for his mother.
Many years later, Mo Yan finally met the person who beat his mother again in the market, and the other party was gray-haired.
Mo Yan rushed up and wanted to teach him a lesson, but he was pulled by his mother: "Son, the person who beat me back then is not the same person as this old man, let him go." ”
The mother's eyes were kind and firm, which touched Mo Yan deeply.
Mo Yan's mother lacked food and clothing all her life, but she was able to live a healthy life to the old age, thanks to this benevolent and generous wisdom towards others.
仁人之所以多壽者，外無貪而內清靜，心平和而不失中正，取天地之美以養其身。
A person's state of mind in the world can best determine his health state.
When Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese culture, was sent to accept transformation, he was criticized by many colleagues and students.
Many years later, Ji Xianlin was rehabilitated and reinstated, but he did not intend to retaliate.
Even when a student who had participated in the criticism of him wrote a book manuscript and wanted to ask him to recommend it, he did not care and readily agreed.
Ji Lao, who lived to be 98 years old, once summed up his positive attitude towards life in three words: "Don't mumble".
It is to always face everything with an open mind, and never repeatedly dwell on what has happened.
There is no cause of the heart, and the longevity is slow due to the cause.
A person who is forgiving is healing himself while forgiving others.
They are always open-minded and never hide the negative energy that intrudes on the body and mind, so they are always healthy.
03
In recent years, "health preservation" has become a hot topic, and endless health concepts and methods have also emerged.
Many people pursue food and medicine supplements, and do not hesitate to pay a lot of money to buy health.
But as the saying goes: health without nourishing the heart is equivalent to throwing gold.
If the mentality is not good, all the maintenance that is limited to external forms is just a matter of sacrificing the basics.
I have a colleague who has been practicing yoga for a long time and never touches junk food.
Three meals a day must be light and less oily, and they are also equipped with a full range of health care products.
However, since this spring, she suddenly began to lose weight violently, and after going to the hospital for examination, she was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism.
Doctors told her that hyperthyroidism mostly stems from poor mood.
In fact, she has always had something in her heart.
Her mother-in-law had strongly objected to her husband dating her, and although the two later got married, she could not let go of it.
Every time she saw her mother-in-law, she couldn't help but sneer a few words, and the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law deteriorated even more.
As soon as her husband went back to visit her parents, she couldn't help but think about it, lest her mother-in-law speak ill of her behind her back.
In the long run, no matter how many supplements you take, it will be in vain.
Many of us toss and turn on the road of health preservation, but we forget the true meaning of simplicity.
What is the essence of health preservation?
《黃帝內經》中早已給出答案：恬淡虛無，真氣從之，精神內守，病安從來？
人的精氣神若能安寧內守而不耗散，疾病就無從發生。
And if you want to be good at your body, you must first cure your heart.
Singaporean philanthropist Ms Koh Zhe came from a poor background and suffered hardships in her youth, but she lived happily to the age of 113.
Just because she pursued kindness to others all her life, she devoted her time and energy to public welfare in her later years.
Someone asked her the secret of longevity, and she said, "I don't say bad things, I don't want to, I don't do bad things." ”
Professor Zhou Youguang has suffered a lot of sins in the turbulent years, but he rarely gets angry with people, let alone loses his temper.
他袒露自己活到百歲高齡，並沒有什麼方法可言。
Only practice the five principles: do not give up, do not be angry, do not be lazy, do not worry, and do not be greedy.
These stories have verified a truth for us:
Cultivating compassion is the highest state of nurturing.
The more tolerant people are, the less they will be held back by paranoid thoughts, and the more they will be able to face problems and deal with emotions calmly.
繁思易寡壽，性善病自退。
When you are tolerant and benevolent to others, you will live a carefree and healthy life.
04
Remembering what Mr. Yang Jiang said:
"In this life, you must take care of yourself, nothing but health is yours.
Less angry, less calculating, more happy, what if you lose your health and win the world? ”
Many times, if you want to open up and let others go, you are actually treating yourself well.
是非置於笑，對錯皆釋然。
縱有三千煩惱，也能活出事過心寧，只生歡喜不生愁的姿態，這才珍惜生命最好的方式。