In the evening kitchen, the aroma of food fills the space, and Mom is busy preparing a sumptuous dinner for the family.
At this moment, there was a sudden sound of hurried footsteps outside the door, breaking the silence and warmth. The door was pushed open, and the daughter of the first year of junior high school, Lili, walked in with a sad face, her head so low that she almost touched her chest, and she clutched an exam paper tightly in her hand.
There were still a few crystal tears hanging from the corners of her eyes, shining faintly in the light.
At this time, my mother stopped her busyness, wiped her hands with her apron, and asked softly, "Lili, what's wrong?" Lili raised her head and replied in a choked voice: "Mom, I didn't do well in today's math exam, and the teacher criticized me again." ”
As she spoke, her tears fell again.
Mom's heart tightened, but she tried to make her voice sound as calm and gentle as possible. She gently stroked Lili's head and comforted, "It's okay, kid, just work hard next time." ”
However, Lili's emotions were not alleviated, she still frowned, and muttered: "I'm really too stupid to do anything." ”
Such a scene may be familiar to many families.
Adolescent children, faced with pressure from academics, appearance, interpersonal relationships, etc., can easily fall into self-doubt and low self-esteem. They crave recognition, but they are afraid of making mistakes; They want to challenge themselves, but they often feel overwhelmed.
In fact, Lili is such a child.
She is introverted and sensitive, always feels inferior to others and is afraid to stand out in the crowd. Although her mother often encouraged her and praised her, she still lacked self-confidence, always walked with her head down, and did not dare to look at people.
This mood is especially common during adolescence, when children begin to focus on their outward image and become conflicted and confused inside.
Psychologists believe that adolescent children are facing a conflict between self-identity and role confusion.
They are eager to understand themselves, but they often feel lost and helpless.
In this process, the guidance and support of parents is particularly important. They need to help children challenge negative perceptions and build a positive self-image.
For Lili's mother, she can try to communicate with the school psychology teacher for more professional advice and help. At the same time, she also needs to adjust her emotions and face her children's problems with a more peaceful and understanding attitude. She can encourage Lilido to participate in social activities or interest groups to help her build confidence in her interactions.
Of course, this process takes time and patience.
Adolescent children tend to have mood swings and rebellious behaviors, but this is also a necessary path for them to grow up. As parents, we need to accompany them through this stage with more love, tolerance, understanding, and respect.
If Lili's inferiority complex has seriously affected her daily life and study, then it is recommended that parents take her to a professional hospital for treatment in time.
After all, for children at this stage, mental health is just as important as physical health.
Imagine that some children may be busy in the kitchen, and they can cook delicious ravioli at a young age, which is their unique talent; Some children like to make hands-on crafts, their creativity dancing at their fingertips; There are also children whose minds move freely through three-dimensional space, showing amazing spatial imagination.
These are hidden treasures for children, waiting for us to discover and cherish.
However, when children stumble on the road of growth, it is inevitable to make mistakes.
Therefore, we need to look at children through the lens of development. When they make even a little improvement over the past, it is worth rejoicing.
This way of thinking will make them more courageous to face challenges and enjoy the fun of the process, rather than being afraid of the unknown outcome.
The key is that as parents, our words and actions will have a profound impact on our children.
When we guide them with a positive attitude, they will also learn to solve problems in a positive way and experience the beauty of life. At the same time, we also need to deal with our emotions and look at our children's future with hopeful eyes.
At the same time, we need to respect our children's independence and autonomy in the process of communicating with them. Listen more to their inner voices, less blame and complain, and more understanding and companionship.
Tell them that their parents are their strongest support, no matter when and where.
To sum up, the troubles and confusions of adolescence are something that every child will experience.
But as long as the family gives enough support and understanding, these troubles will become a stepping stone for their growth.