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A few days ago, I saw a blogger talking about Su Shi, and she mentioned such a point:

Su Shi was not born to be Su Dongpo, he became Su Dongpo little by little.

In the poems, you can see his reckless impulsiveness in his early years, and his internal friction after setbacks.

In his pain, he slowly became open-minded; From imperfect, slowly become perfect.

深以為然。

In his early years, Su Shi was actually a thorn, reckless and sharp, offending people everywhere.

Smart and wise, but cynical, and has a lot of problems with people and things, which directly leads to the ups and downs and difficulties of his fate.

Su Shi wrote a poem:

Everyone has adopted a son to be smart, and I have been mistaken by being smart all my life.

惟願孩兒愚且魯，無災無難到公卿。

Translated:

Everyone who raises children wants their children to be smart, but I am smart and mistaken by smart.

I just hope that my children will be stupid, as long as they are safe and sound.

On the surface, this poem says: It doesn't matter if the child is not smart. In fact, it was Su Shi who was scolding.

It means that the officialdom is all there, and there is no ability, but it is smooth and smooth to the minister.

The last two sentences are both banter and ridicule.

You must know that this poem was written in Huangzhou, when he had just experienced the Wutai poetry case, and was convicted of his words and almost died.

But he just wasn't honest, and he couldn't help but write poems and satirize.

satirizing the new law and satirizing hundreds of officials, so Su Shi was demoted in the early years, which is really not wronged.

Later, when Su Shi was demoted for the second time, his wife Wang Yanzhi's first reaction was to go to the study to burn something.

For fear of being caught.

Su Shi is extremely talented and knowledgeable, so he looks at people and things differently, and there is no door on his mouth, and he has to tease anyone who is not pleasing to the eye.

The words are sharp and precise, and often make people unable to get off the stage.

At the time of Sima Guang's funeral, the Taimiao was holding a celebration.

Su Shi attended the celebration in the morning and went to Sima Guang's mansion in the afternoon to pay his condolences.

Cheng Yi blocked the door and didn't let Su Shi in.

Cheng Yi said: You just finished singing, how can you come to the funeral?

蘇轼反駁，孔子只是說哭完不能唱歌，沒說唱完歌不能哭喪啊。

After speaking, he also ridiculed Cheng Yi in public for being pedantic and rigid, and made fun of him as "uncle and grandson".

One of the two talks about "love" and the other talks about "reason". In fact, there is no superiority or inferiority, but the concept is different.

But Su Shi couldn't get used to him, so he used the topic to ridicule him.

Cheng Yi said that he couldn't do it, but he also got an insulting nickname for nothing, and his face turned red with anger, and the two of them formed a bond like this.

Cheng Yi is the leader of the Luo Party, and his protégés have countless old days.

These people suddenly became Su Shi's enemies, and many of Su Shi's bumpy lives in the future were due to these people.

Su Shi once patted his belly and asked his concubine.

What's in your stomach?

Chaoyun said: A belly is out of place.

This is an excellent footnote to Su Shi's early years.

There are always people who are not used to it, there are always things that are not used to it, banter and ridicule, and make enemies everywhere.

The direct result is: external transfer, depreciation, external transfer, and depreciation.

Most of his life was wasted on the road to exile, and most of his energy was spent fighting against the hidden arrows and guns from the officialdom.

Later, he slowly understood the truth of pitching with the times, being tolerant and tolerant.

After middle age, he slowly put away his thorns, reconciled with Wang Anshi, and smiled with Zhang Dan.

吳軍說：When people reach middle age, they must learn to reduce their friction.

Be gentle and lenient with people and things, so that life can reduce a lot of resistance.

Not only can you save your own energy, but your life can also be smoother.

02

In the previous article, Su Shi sarcastically said: Stupid people have no disasters and no difficulties, and they have risen all the way to the minister.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, stupidity is not a kind of wisdom.

If you are wise and foolish, it is difficult to be confused.

The more "stupid" people are, the fewer thorns, the easier it is to get along with world peace, and the smoother the road of life.

The smarter the person, the more arrogant and the more thorns, the greater the friction with the world, and the twists and turns in life.

This was the case in the early years of Zeng Guofan.

自視甚高，目中無人。 看誰都不順眼，處處和人發生矛盾。

鹹豐皇帝下詔求意見。 曾國藩上書，把鹹豐皇帝說得一無是處。

said that he was shrewd in small things and confused in big things; scolded him for being too small and would not be a director.

Emperor Xianfeng had just ascended the throne, and he was so angry that he fell directly.

Although he lacks experience in governing the country, he is by no means as unbearable as Zeng Guofan said.

If it weren't for his subordinates to stop him, Zeng Guofan was only afraid that his life would be in danger.

When he went to the local area to train his troops, Zeng Guofan disagreed and seized the judicial power of the local government.

scolded the entire Hunan officialdom, all of them are mediocre people.

His immediate boss, Luo Bingzhang, has a good character and talent.

As a result, he also "commanded" this boss.

Train the sailor, and say directly to Luo Bingzhang: I'll do it alone, you don't understand anything, don't come to mix.

Sending troops for help is also the grandfather's mouth: your lips are cold, if you don't send troops, you will be finished, but anyone who is smart does not need me to remind you.

Luo Bingzhang scolded him for being stubborn and arrogant.

他反而說駱秉章為人刻薄，不好相處。

In this way, he offended the Hunan officialdom, and others restrained him everywhere.

He was tired of running every day to deal with these officialdom methods.

Because he was never able to make achievements, he was finally deprived of military power and sent home.

When he went out of the mountain for the second time, he was already 48 years old.

Only then did he put away his thorns and understood the truth of "being with the light and the dust".

In the face of the county order, which was much smaller than his official position, he also visited the door in person and asked for advice.

Treat colleagues and colleagues with courtesy and thoughtfulness.

Zeng Guofan began to reconcile with the world.

Bao Chao loves money, but he fights bravely, and he is no longer harsh.

His scholars love their names, and he doesn't expose them, but treats them politely.

His subordinate colleagues love to be promoted, and he also tries his best to keep them promoted.

The confrontation turned into harmony, and he began to be accepted by Hunan officialdom little by little, and he was slowly trusted by the imperial court.

如此他才得以調動全國之力，平定叛亂，封侯拜相。

Zhuangzi said in the story of "Ku Ding Jie Niu": The official wants to stop and the god wants to act.

The knife goes forward along the vein of the ox, so that there is no obstacle and the blade will not be damaged.

If this person's ego is too big, always clinging to his own thoughts, and fighting everywhere, either cutting into the bones of the cow or getting stuck in the gaps, the blade will soon be broken.

Good is like water.

A person must be like water, tolerate all things, and do no harm without fighting, so that he can be regarded as truly close to the avenue.

Restrain arrogance, be humble and humble, know how to respect and forgiveness, retain talents, and achieve a career.

03

Wang Anshi implemented the new law in his early years.

Sima Guang and other conservatives believe that the new law is too radical and should be cautious.

Wang Anshi believes that only his own new policy can eliminate the accumulated evils and reform the rule of officials.

In the face of the persuasion of Sima Guang and others, they did not listen to a word, but accused the old school of ignorance.

In front of many courtiers, let them go back and read more books.

The implication: you're all fools, and only I'm right.

The quarrel was fruitless, and with the help of the emperor, he defeated all those who opposed the new law.

The derogatory demeanour, the exiled degraded.

But it turned out that the new law was indeed too radical and seriously disrupted people's livelihoods.

Wang Anshi exhausted his life's efforts for the new law, and in the end, it turned into a bad government that brought disaster to the country and the people.

In Wang Anshi's eyes, only he is right, and everyone else is wrong.

Everything is self-centered, and he always feels that the world is against him everywhere, but in fact, he lacks knowledge and is too small-minded.

Fan Deng once had a point of view:Only by thinking critically can we reduce the friction between ourselves and the world.

Never think you're the only one right.

From multiple perspectives, reflect on yourself and criticize yourself.

In this way, we can understand differences, respect differences, and reduce the conflict between ourselves and the world.

There is a famous man in Donghan named Guo Tai.

Once, he, Zixu and Wensheng went to the market to go shopping.

Wen Sheng buys what he sees, and is greedy and excessive; And Zixu didn't buy anything, too picky.

Others couldn't stand it and asked Guo Tai for his opinion, Guo Tai said: "Zixu has little desire, and Wensheng is amorous." ”

Observe without judging; Only present, not discuss.

The world is a kaleidoscope, and existence is reasonable.

Everyone has their own experience, three views, and positions, and everything has its own history, origin, and law.

Taking oneself as the standard for judging, life can only be limited everywhere, and it is difficult to move an inch.

Learn to respect differences, accept differences, and see everything well, so that the road of life can be smoother.

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I've heard a quote like this:

"There is no right or wrong in anything, only acceptance and disacceptance. Use wisdom to change what can be changed, and embrace what cannot be changed with an open mind. ”

Many times, the friction between us and the world does not come from the outside, but from within.

When I was young, I liked to point out the country and had a lot of friction with people and things.

There are many things that are not used to seeing, and the loss of energy is also heavy. Everywhere the competition, everywhere hit the wall.

When people suffer losses and hardships in middle age, they understand that they are not pleasing to the eye, and many times they are not self-cultivation.

Broaden your own vision and enlarge your own pattern.

Learn to respect differences, keep humility and tranquility, and when the realm is high, everything will be smooth.