Recently, more and more people have begun to pay attention to the impact of the family of origin on mental health. In the face of the suppression and ridicule from the original family, many people feel helpless and confused. Don't worry, this article will explore ways to help yourself and stay away from emotional illness through cognitive restructuring, building a support system, self-care, setting health boundaries, seeking professional help, and reading psychology books.
The suppression and ridicule of the family of origin are like hidden "emotional bombs", which may have a profound impact on the mental health of individuals at any time. Being in such an environment for a long time can easily be enveloped by negative emotions such as anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Studies have shown that more than seventy percent of people who have been suppressed and ridiculed in their families of origin have varying degrees of psychological problems, which shows that these negative effects are both common and serious.
For example, if parents criticize their children for a long time, "you can't do anything well" or "you are a failure", the child's self-esteem will be constantly degraded, and then gradually agree with these negative evaluations, falling into the abyss of self-doubt and denial.
Cognitive restructuring can be called the "secret weapon" of psychotherapy, just like changing the mind to a new system. With the help of self-reflection, we need to find out those false beliefs that originate from our original family, such as "I am not good enough" or "I am not worthy of love", and then replace them with a positive and healthy way of thinking.
The specific practices are as follows:
It's important to have a support system in place, it's like a warm haven that provides us with strong emotional support. We can find a support system that works for us by participating in interest groups and joining mental health communities.
For example, participating in a painting interest group and communicating with like-minded friends can not only cultivate hobbies, but also gain emotional resonance. In addition, regular communication with friends and participation in group activities can also enhance the effect of emotional support, so that we are no longer alone.
Self-care is a great way to relieve stress and boost your sense of self-worth. There are a number of self-care methods we can try:
At the same time, maintaining a healthy lifestyle is also essential, and regular work and rest, a balanced diet and moderate exercise can fundamentally improve our mental health.
Setting healthy boundaries can help us avoid being "invaded" by negative emotions and behaviors of our original family members. When a member of our original family behaves or says something that makes us uncomfortable, we need to be clear about our feelings and set personal boundaries.
For example, when parents interfere too much in our lives, we can calmly tell them, "I understand your concerns, but I want to have my own space to make decisions." In this way, take care of your emotional health.
When we struggle to cope with the troubles caused by our family of origin on our own, it is undoubtedly wise to seek the help of a counselor. Today, there are a variety of psychological counseling services available:
When choosing, you should decide according to your own needs and actual situation. Psychological counseling generally starts with an assessment and then develops a personalized treatment plan, and after a period of treatment, we are expected to gradually get out of the psychological dilemma.
Reading books on the psychology of the family of origin can give us more practical advice and guidance. For example, "The Family of Origin: How to Fix Your Character Flaws", a book that dissects in detail the impact of the family of origin on us and provides specific ways to cope, which is suitable for all those who are troubled by the family of origin.
When reading, we can take notes, record the golden sentences in the book and the content that inspires us, and think about it in combination with our own experiences, which can improve the learning effect.
True independence is not about disowning one's parents, but about becoming strong on the inside and having the ability to cope with pressure and control from one's parents. We can gradually get rid of the influence of our original family by cultivating new interests and developing personal abilities.
For example, learning a new skill not only improves our competitiveness, but also gives us a sense of achievement. Many people have achieved self-growth and created their own happy lives through unremitting efforts, and their success stories are worth learning from.
Through the above methods, we can effectively deal with the negative impact of the family of origin. By continuing to pay attention to our mental health and taking positive action, we will be able to help ourselves and stay away from emotional illness.
Disclaimer: This article is only health news/health science, and the content does not constitute medication or medical guidelines, it is recommended to seek medical attention in time if you have health problems.