Unexpectedly, Sister Lang has been broadcast so far, and the biggest attraction is actually about "emotional intelligence".

坐擁2000多萬粉絲的房琪，和節目組一起偽造“聊天記錄”抹黑隊友，更是暗戳戳的說葉童精力不好不適合她的隊伍……

All at once, the whole network collapsed.

Netizens were all giving her negative marks, and they also picked up some ancient black materials, and by the way, they questioned her copywriting ability.

01

Is the collapse of Fang Qi's house inevitable?

Variety shows are the best place to identify characters.

In "Sister Lang", Ye Tong and Li Yitong wanted to pull her to join their team, but she didn't directly refuse.

Instead, he said: "But I really, really want a stage for singing and dancing, but if I really choose this, I will be very, very worried about Sister Ye Tong's energy." ”

Really, really, very, very ...... These words can be uncomfortable to listen to.

Then she made up again: "Again, I hope Sister Ye Tong has fun, I hope you have fun all the time." ”

So Ye Tong immediately replied: "I've always had a lot of fun, but you doubt my energy like this, I really think you have a problem." ”

It's not the first time she's done this.

Fang Qi served as the captain and performed "Coral Sea" with Peng Xiaoran and He Hongshan. As a result, vocal music and dance were not highly praised by the teacher during the small test.

As the captain, she did not encourage everyone, but shirked the responsibility first.

When Peng Xiaoran clearly proposed that she wanted to add rap to the song, she did not explicitly refuse, but avoided it with ridicule, causing Peng Xiaoran to mistakenly think that her teammates supported her idea.

turned his head and directly dismissed the rap suggestion in front of the music teacher.

Peng Xiao Jiang 全程be like:???!!!

Later, during the interview, she complained that her teammates did not cooperate with her, could not train together, and no one paid attention to the messages she posted in the group......

Not to mention the "fake" chat history in the back.

He Hongshan directly flipped the table after the show was broadcast and released the complete timeline on Weibo.

It wasn't Fang Qi who said that at all, but Fang Qi ignored the work and physical condition of the other two teammates, and forced them to talk to him about the stage.

The way of dealing with complaints in advance has aroused the collective disgust of netizens. Angry netizens directly dug up her black history.

relied on the sentence "The breeze blows the hills, he is strong, he is strong" to get out of the circle, but this is obviously written by Jin Yong.

Some of the other out-of-the-circle copywriters are also very pretentious and have no central idea.

Self-style communication, can't speak, and no emotional intelligence made her collapse quickly.

Fang Qi, who obviously relied on high emotional intelligence and emotional value to get out of the circle, why did she ruin her popularity because of emotional intelligence in the end?

02

emotional intelligence, emotional value,

It's easier to ruin a person?

Emotional intelligence can be understood as emotional intelligence.

It is primarily used to describe a person's ability to recognize, manage, and communicate with their own and others' emotions.

People with high emotional intelligence not only have a good understanding of their emotions, but also control and express their emotions well, forming a good interpersonal network.

Emotional value was first proposed in the fields of economics and marketing.

Professor Jeffrey J. Bailey of the University of Idaho Business School in the United States defines emotional value as the difference between the emotional benefit and the emotional cost perceived by the customer from the perspective of relationship marketing between customers and enterprises.

The emotional benefit is the customer's positive emotional experience, while the emotional cost is the negative emotional experience.

Nowadays, we often use emotional value to refer to the positive or negative impact that a person has on others on an emotional, psychological, and social level, as well as the value of psychological pleasure, satisfaction, or comfort to others.

Emotional value is becoming more and more important, mainly because people are beginning to value emotional and psychological needs.

Source: Seeing China

As the pace of life in modern society becomes faster and people are under more and more pressure, emotional support and satisfaction are more and more important.

In relationships, if we can give emotional support and help to others, we can improve the quality of the relationship.

Especially in intimate relationships, the importance of emotional value is even more pronounced.

At the individual level, the role of emotional value cannot be ignored either.

It can help us better understand our emotional preferences and needs, plan our lives, choose a career, lifestyle and social circle that suits us, and promote personal growth and development.

Let's take Fang Qi as an example.

If she had explicitly rejected at the beginning, encouraged the other two teammates, and not cried in front of the camera at every turn, it would not be the situation it is today.

Emotional value also plays an important role in the business world.

In brand marketing, emotional value is regarded as an important marketing strategy, which enhances the value of the brand by triggering consumers' emotional resonance and guiding consumers to generate consumption behaviors.

Therefore, improving one's ability to provide emotional value has become a top priority for modern people.

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workplace人瞧不起,

But you're secretly learning?

In the final analysis, Fang Qi's handling of human affairs is not in place.

Humanism is considered a form of respect and etiquette, and it is necessary to follow this set of rules in a social circle.

Some people are sophisticated, and the top is mostly a matter of appearance.

After all, no one would say bluntly in front of a sixty or seventy-year-old elder that she didn't have enough energy, right?

North, an American institutional economist, divides the productive forces within the system into "productive effort" and "distributive effort."

"Productive effort" is the ability to expand the wealth of society with a strong ability to innovate.

"Distributive efforts" are aimed at seizing a dominant position in society and achieving greater individual interests in the distribution structure without increasing the total amount of social wealth.

Most of us are doing "distributive effort".

Under this distribution relationship, the talent culture in our system is a typical "culture of distrust".

In the workplace, it's not easy to make everyone happy and everyone around you feel comfortable.

This requires the improvement of high emotional intelligence, language arts, personal ability and other aspects.

Source: Seeing China

面對職場人的需求，很多博主們也紛紛推出了情商課，價格往往為幾十元，其中的熱門產品能賣出十幾萬份。

In the course evaluation, some netizens felt "very inspired", and some netizens said that "I didn't learn anything".

However, before paying for a course, it is important to check whether the instructor's qualifications and experience are authentic and credible.

Many lecturers wear masks, their images are mysterious, and their personal introductions are extremely vague, such as "xx who has been deeply involved in the world for 15 years", "xx teacher, a researcher of underlying logic in society", etc., and the authenticity of their qualifications lacks substantial data.

Relationships are value exchanges, and emotional values are also values.

The younger generation, especially the post-00s and post-0s, particularly advocate authenticity and do not like hypocritical social behaviors.

But now that you have entered the workplace or social circle, you need to adjust your own mentality and emotions, improve your emotional control ability, and give the emotional value to the leader and the people around you, which is positive and beneficial to others and yourself.

Source: Inke Aesthetics