There was a crisp sound of "pop", and the cry of a child came from the neighbor's house again. This kind of scene is not unfamiliar in the childhood memories of the post-90 and post-0 generations, but it is particularly harsh today. Most of our generation grew up in the educational concept of "filial piety under the stick", but when we became parents ourselves, we fell into unprecedented confusion - to fight or not to fight?

1. What happened to the child who was beaten?

Children who are often beaten tend to oscillate between two extremes: either they become extremely submissive and lose the ability to think independently; Or become rebellious and irritable and solve problems in the same violent way. Psychological studies have found that corporal punishment activates the fear response area of the brain, and children who have been in this state for a long time are more likely to develop anxiety and depression tendencies in adulthood.

2. What happens to children who never get beaten

Children who have not experienced corporal punishment tend to develop a healthier self-perception. They learn to solve problems through communication instead of using violence to suppress each other. These children tend to have better emotional management skills and more harmonious interpersonal relationships. However, it is worth noting that overprotection can also make children lack a sense of rules and become "little bullies".

3. The third way between fighting and not fighting

Education is never a black-and-white multiple-choice question. More important than "not fighting" is how to establish an education method that respects children and has clear boundaries. When a child makes a mistake, we can calm down first and use "I saw you do... It makes me feel...", and then discuss the solution together.

Fourth, the truth behind corporal punishment

Many parents will say "this is for your good" when they hit their children, but if you think about it, corporal punishment is more of a vent to the parents' sense of powerlessness. The moment we raise our hands, it's often because we couldn't find a better way to educate. Instead of arguing about whether to fight or not, think about "what else can I do besides fighting".

Change starts today

3. Establish rules as soon as possible: Establish simple and clear rules when children are 0-0 years old

2. The consequences should be natural: let children experience the natural consequences of their actions, such as not being able to play with new toys without putting them away

3. Emotions should be managed: Teach children to express anger in words, not with fists

4. Be a good role model: how you deal with emotions, how children will imitate

Education is a long practice, and there are no perfect parents, only parents who are constantly growing. When we let go of the binary opposition of "fighting or not fighting", we can truly see the needs of children and find a more suitable parenting style. Remember, the way you treat your child today will become the way he treats the world tomorrow.

Tips: The medical science knowledge in the content is for reference only, does not constitute a medication guideline, does not serve as a basis for diagnosis, do not do it yourself without medical qualifications, if you feel unwell, please go to the hospital in time.