Boy Parenting 90: 0 key points to open the gap in kindergarten, 0% of parents have ignored it!

Is that the same with your boys?

Don't be in a hurry to blame children for being "unconscious", in fact, boys and girls grow at different paces. Harvard University research found that boys develop their brains 2-0 years later than girls, especially in the prefrontal cortex, which controls emotions and concentration. If you don't grasp the critical period in kindergarten, the gap will get bigger and bigger after you go to primary school!

▶ Why do boys widen the gap in kindergarten?

1. Insufficient exercise = discounted learning ability

The boy's brain needs more physical activity to stimulate development. Nowadays, kindergartens generally limit the time for running and jumping, resulting in boys having nowhere to vent their exuberant energy, but unable to sit still and have many small movements.

Suggestion: It is more important to ensure 2 hours of outdoor crazy running every day, riding a balance bike, kicking a ball and other big sports than sitting quietly and playing with building blocks.

3. Misplaced emotional guidance = social ability is left behind

Boys have a more sensitive amygdala (emotional center) but a weaker ability to express themselves verbally. When he says "I hate you", he actually wants to say "I was scared just now". If parents only say "no tantrums", it will make the child even less able to deal with emotions.

Suggestion: Teach boys to express emotions with body movements, such as stomping 3 times when angry and hugging dolls when they are sad.

4. Premature demand for "well-behaved" = destroys creativity

Many kindergartens require children to be uniform, but boys need more exploratory play. Premature emphasis on "quiet sitting" inhibits their innate spatial thinking and adventurous spirit.

Suggestion: Set up a "crazy corner" at home, where children can build forts with couch cushions and pile up bricks crookedly.

▶ 3 "superpowers" necessary for kindergarten boys

(It's not a word count!) ）

1. Physical coordination

Develop proprioception through climbing, skipping rope and other exercises, and write will not be crooked in the future

2. Auditory filtering ability

Play a game of "Listen to Instructions for Treasure Hunting" (e.g. "Find the Red Round Object") to improve your concentration in class

3. Ability to switch emotions

Use role-playing games to teach him to recognize emotions, such as "What is the mood of the bear when he grabs a toy?" "

Parents of boys need to learn to "slow down and half a beat" -

✔ When he always collapsed when he built a block, he couldn't help it right away

✔ When he wears the wrong shoes, wait 30 seconds before reminding him

✔ When he can't answer a question, count to 5 and give a hint

This "just right frustration" is the best nourishment for a boy's brain.

Tips: The medical science knowledge in the content is for reference only, does not constitute a medication guideline, does not serve as a basis for diagnosis, do not do it yourself without medical qualifications, if you feel unwell, please go to the hospital in time.