Adolescence is always a stage full of doubts and challenges。
One day, Ms. Zhang took her teenage son, Xiao Ming, to see a pediatrician.
In the waiting room, Ms. Zhang paced repeatedly, looking nervous.
Seemingly ordinary mother and child are in the clinic, in fact, because of Xiao Ming's "ulterior" little secret.
The reason why Ms. Zhang took Xiao Ming to see a doctor was a little surprising.
She found that Xiao Ming secretly took her cousin's underwear back to her room,and wrap around their own pajamas。
When parents who don't know the details see these inexplicable behaviors,The first reaction of emotions is often extreme shock and confusion。
Ms. Zhang naturally concluded that her son was behaving abnormally,It is even suspected that something is mentally wrong。
These behaviors of Xiao Ming actually represent a curiosity about sex and the human body.
Children in adolescence can sometimes seem difficult to understand due to physical and psychological changes.
And these changes and behaviors are not because the child is "crazy",Rather, they are exploring and learning about this world full of unknowns in their own way。
In the doctor's office，Ms. Zhang finally mustered up the courage to describe Xiao Ming's behavior。
Her voice was low and staccato off, apparently from extreme embarrassment and overwhelm.
The doctor nodded as he listened,After Ms. Zhang finished speakingThe doctor's response surprised her.
The doctor told her,This is actually a very common phenomenon during adolescence。
Children have a strong curiosity about sex at this stage and exhibit a variety of exploratory behaviors.
The doctor also noted, which is not uncommon and is not a manifestation of mental problems,Rather, it's a way in which he is self-discovering and trying to understand new things。
The doctor's explanation made Ms. Zhang difficult to accept for a while, and she even put a question mark in her heart.
But the doctor's words are also slowly relieving her nervousness,Make her aware that overreacting to your child's exploratory behaviour may only make things worse。
The key to it all,In fact, it comes down to the lack of sex education in the family。
The doctor especially emphasized，Many parents ignore the importance of sex education as their children grow up, after the child enters puberty,and overreacts to the child's curiosity about sex。
The doctor gave a common example of how many parents never discuss sex-related topics with their children.However, when the child shows sexual curiosity during adolescence, he is extremely shocked and repulsed。
If you think about it,It's not hard to understand。
Sex education is not just about informing about actual sexuality,It is more important to guide children to see themselves and others in a healthy way。
During adolescence，Children may experience things like puppy love、Curiosity about the body of the opposite sex, etcThis is where proper sex education becomes even more important.
Parents can communicate openly with their children, buy valuable books, etc., to help children establish correct sexual concepts.
After this incident, Ms. Zhang began to reflect on her own approach to education.
The doctor's advice made her realizeThe role played by parents in the child's adolescence is irreplaceable.
At this stageIt is especially important to give children enough understanding and tolerance.
After returning from the doctor, Ms. Zhang decided not to blame Xiao Ming blindly, but chose to talk to him calmly.
Back home,She sat down and the child began that belated conversation。
She told Xiao Ming，The changes in adolescence are something that all people experienceShe also had a lot of questions about the body and sexuality as a child.
She encourages Xiao Ming to ask any questions boldly, and she will try her best to give answers, while also respecting all his feelings.
Ms. Zhang's changes had an immediate effect.
Xiao Ming no longer feels that he is being misunderstood, but I felt my mother's understanding and support.
He began to be willing to share his confusion and curiosity, the relationship between mother and child is also more harmonious and intimate.
Through this matterIt is not difficult to see that adolescence is not only a critical period for children's growth, but also a critical period for parent education.
At this stage,Parents should try to get rid of the shackles of traditional conceptsto take the initiative to understand your child's changes and needs,Give timely and appropriate guidance。
The only way to do this is to establish healthy and open communication in the family，Only then can children grow up healthily in adolescence, which is full of changes。
Education and growth is a lifelong learning process for all parents.
And in the process,Every communication and understanding, are the most powerful support for the healthy development of children in the future.
Understanding, inclusion and proper sexuality education can build a bridge to health and maturity for children.
I hope that every family can walk hand in hand on the road of children's growth and meet the challenges and beauty of youth together.