Parents are the most important guides in their children's growth, and they will teach their children to learn to distinguish between right and wrong and guide them to the right path through words and deeds. However, sometimes parents may deal with their child's behavior by imposing restraint and coercion, calling it "I'm all for your good." Although this practice has good intentions, it may have a negative impact on the child and seriously restrict the healthy growth of the child.

Excessive parental restraint can lead to a child's lack of ability to think independently. Parents often like to say "I'm all for your good" and "insist on guidance" when their children make decisions they disagree with, so that children lack the opportunity to think for themselves and lose the fertile ground for growth. For example, when I was a child, my parents would push me to complete all my schoolwork and extracurricular activities every day, and even my playtime was "guided" by them. As a result, I have not been able to plan and manage my time for a long time, which will affect my future studies and career.

Excessive restraint can damage a child's self-esteem. Many parents will warn their children with "I'm all for your own good" after their children make mistakes, so that they can follow their own rules. Such an approach can make children feel that they are unable to make their own decisions and that all power is in the hands of their parents. Even, some children have lost their self-confidence since then, and have become negative and depressed. Take the example of a friend who liked to smile when he was a child, disobeyed his parents' teachings, and often violated house rules. Once, he was criticized by his parents for not completing his studies seriously, but for some reason, his parents' words made him seem to become an imbecile child, which caused him to fall into a long period of self-doubt and fear.

Faced with this situation, how should parents change? First of all, parents should respect their children's independent thinking and actions, and parents can start by encouraging their children to make choices. For example, when a child makes a mistake, parents can combine the actual situation, talk to the child, find the root of the problem together, and solve the problem rationally, instead of using orders to make the child obey, in the process, let the child give full play to his own wisdom and let the child come up with the best solution.

Secondly, parents should pay attention to their children's emotional needs, and when their children need support and encouragement, parents should give praise and affirmation to stimulate their children's confidence and courage to implement their own ideas. Parents should spend more time paying attention to their children's life and growth, giving them enough love and support, so that they can have enough security and confidence to grow. Finally, parents should fully communicate with their children, through patient communication, parents can listen to their children's opinions and ideas, try to understand their children's inner world, trust their children's choices and decisions, and provide them with necessary guidance and protection.

In short, in the process of educating children's growth, we should fully respect children's right to choose and autonomy, and should not blindly force children to follow their own rules. Parents should give their children as much space as possible to make their own decisions, guide them to understand what is right and what is wrong, and help them make the right decisions in their studies and life. Only in this way can children grow up in self-exploration and experimentation, develop their potential, and become independent and assertive individuals.

Proofread by Zhuang Wu