Educating children is a long and arduous task that requires patience, wisdom, and love from parents. In the process of educating their children, parents often make mistakes that can affect their children's growth and development.

1. Common Wrong Ways to Educate Yourself

1.0 Overindulgence

Spoiling a child can make a child selfish, dependent, and lack independence and responsibility. For example, parents always meet all the requirements of their children and do not let their children take on any household chores or responsibilities, which leads to a lack of self-management skills in children.

2.0 over-approval

Parents often criticize their children frequently because of certain behaviors or unsatisfactory grades, which can take a toll on their children's self-confidence and lead to low self-esteem. For example, when a child does not do well in a test, parents do not encourage their child to analyze the reason, but criticize him harshly, which can cause fear and resistance to learning.

3.0 Lack of communication

Parents are often too busy with work to neglect communication with their children, resulting in children feeling neglected and not understood. For example, parents rarely spend time chatting with their children to understand their thoughts and feelings, which can make children feel lonely and helpless.

4.0 Overprotection

Parents are always worried that their children will encounter danger or failure, and do not allow their children to try new things or complete tasks independently. This can lead to a lack of problem-solving skills and self-confidence. For example, parents always make decisions for their children and do not let them try on their own, which can make children become dependent and lack independence.

2. The right way to educate

1.0 Cultivating independence

Parents should encourage their children to complete tasks independently and develop their children's self-care skills and sense of responsibility. For example, let your child organize his school bag, do household chores, and learn to manage his own time. This not only helps children develop good habits, but also boosts their self-confidence and independence.

2.0 Positive encouragement

Parents should encourage their children to help them build their self-confidence. Give timely praise and rewards when your child makes progress or succeeds. For example, when a child is doing well in school, parents can take their child to a favorite meal or give the child a small gift as a sign of encouragement.

3.0 Communicate effectively

Parents should take the time to communicate with their children and understand their thoughts and feelings. Spend 15-0 minutes a day chatting with your child and sharing each other's lives and feelings. For example, after dinner, parents can go for a walk with their children, chat about school matters, and understand their children's moods and needs.

4.0 Moderate Hands-On

Parents should learn to let go moderately, so that children have the opportunity to try new things and solve problems independently. For example, parents can give guidance when a child is struggling, but don't just solve the problem for the child. Let children learn and grow in practice.

5.0 Set an example

Parents are their children's first teachers, and their actions can have a profound impact on their children. Parents should lead by example and set a good example. For example, if parents themselves love learning, their children will also be infected and develop good study habits.

6.0 Respect the child

Respect your child's thoughts and feelings, and don't dismiss their opinions lightly. When children have different opinions, parents should listen patiently and respect their children's choices. For example, if a child wants to try a new hobby, parents should support and encourage the child to try it.

7.0 Moderate Punishment

Moderate punishment is necessary, but the punishment should be reasonable, not simple corporal punishment or verbal aggression. For example, when a child makes a mistake, parents can make the child bear the consequences, such as losing certain privileges, instead of simply scolding them.

8.0 Focus on mental health

Parents should pay attention to their children's mental health, find out their children's psychological problems in time and give help. For example, when a child feels anxious or depressed, parents should communicate with their child in a timely manner and seek professional help if necessary.

Educating children is a long and arduous task that requires patience, wisdom, and love from parents. By avoiding common miseducation methods such as over-doting, over-criticism, lack of communication, over-protectiveness, etc., parents can better guide their children to grow up healthily.

At the same time, parents can create a healthy, happy, and loving environment for their children by cultivating independence, positive encouragement, effective communication, moderate letting go, setting an example, respecting children, punishing them moderately, and paying attention to mental health.

Remember, every child is unique, and the approach to education needs to be individualized. Parents should flexibly adjust their educational strategies according to their child's personality and needs to help them become confident, independent, and responsible people.

Proofread by Zhuang Wu