Miao Miao is seven years old this year, she occasionally draws on a blank piece of paper, and her mother Zhang Ping only thinks that her occasional interest and entertainment do not pay attention to it. One day, Zhang Ping's friend Wang Fang took her daughter Lele to Zhang Ping's house to play, and accidentally Lele saw a painting on the sofa and asked, "Auntie, who painted this?" Zhang Ping smiled and said, "It should have been painted by Miao Miao." ”
Lele felt that Miao Miao's painting was very good, so he took this painting to Miao Miao, and couldn't help but say to Miao Miao: "Miao Miao, the painting you painted is so beautiful!" Miao Miao said happily: "Thank you, I also think my painting is very good, and let me tell you, I haven't learned to draw!" Lele looked at Miao Miao with admiration and said, "Really? Then you're amazing, you're so talented! Miao Miao, who was praised, was very happy, and pulled Lele and began to look for something to play.
Zhang Ping saw this scene in his eyes and couldn't help but say: "Alas, this kid really doesn't know modesty, what's wrong with being so flamboyant?" Wang Fang patted Zhang Ping on the shoulder and said, "It's okay, she doesn't look bad, Miao Miao knows where her advantages are, which will still help her future development." There are some children who simply don't know where their strengths are, and they don't carry them out. If Miao Miao thinks that she is very good at drawing, you might as well send her to an interest class and let her give full play to her expertise in this area, her talent in this area is there, and it happens that she is also interested, then her achievements in this area may be great. ”
Zhang Ping said helplessly: "Really? I'm afraid that she will be complacent, too confident in herself, I don't think it's very good, so proud. Wang Fang smiled and said, "No, you believe me." This child, she is able to face her strengths, her strengths, which means that she can withstand praise, and although she is proud, she will not be complacent. I believe that if she can play her best in this area, she will get better and better, so you might as well give it a try. "Okay, I'll try" Zhang Ping nodded, agreeing with Wang Fang's opinion.
A few days later, Zhang Ping sent Miao Miao to a painting cram school, and sure enough, Miao Miao's teacher said that Miao Miao was very talented, and she was very serious about painting. Although Miao Miao is proud, she is only limited to being able to discover her own strengths, and she will not be complacent. In a few months in the interest class, her grades far surpassed those of other children, which made Zhang Ping overjoyed.
Miao Miao is a child who can face his own advantages, and in the face of Lele's praise, Miao Miao happily accepts it. Because Miao Miao knows in her heart that she does have this specialty, accepting praise from others will make her happy, and it will also make her more willing to work towards this aspect.
Children who are able to recognize their own strengths are also able to receive praise from others, because these children often know that their own strengths are worthy of praise.
I am indeed better than others in this area, so why not be able to accept the praise of others? These children who are able to face their strengths head-on, and will not be swayed by other people's words, they recognize their strengths from the bottom of their hearts. They are not vain, so they do not rely on the praise of others to solidify their strengths, nor do they deny themselves because of the negative words of others.
Pride is something to be sure of, proud children, they know what they are good at, and they will make full use of their strengths in the future life to help everyone solve problems.
Proud children never doubt their own merits, and they think that they are good in one or another way. So for the praise of others, if this is the case, then they will be very happy to accept the praise, and will not feel that others are complimenting him.
There are some people in life who will be fluttering because of the hype of others, and feel that they are very powerful. But proud children are different, they know that they do have that aspect of expertise, and when others praise him, he will not be fluttering, which is relatively speaking, which is still a plus.
There is nothing wrong with a child being proud of his or her strengths, and some parents will think that their child is too flamboyant. Just like Miao Miao's mother, she feels that Miao Miao is too proud, afraid that it will affect her future development, but this is not the case, Miao Miao knows where her advantages are, Lele praises her as she should be, and that is the praise that Miao Miao deserves.
Miao Miao is not wrong to accept praise in such an atmosphere, she knows that she has this specialty, when Miao Miao's mother decided to send Miao Miao to cram school, Miao Miao must be very happy in her heart, she will be more willing to work hard to play her expertise in this area, it turns out that this is indeed the case.
Therefore, it is necessary for children to clearly understand their strengths, and children who are too modest may gradually think that they are indeed not as good as they said when they were modest, and they will not have the motivation to play their strengths. Some children do have a talent for drawing like Miao Miao, but if the parents are always preventing her from being proud, then when others praise her, the child will always say to herself: "No, no, I have no talent, that is, I draw casually."
It is not difficult to imagine that these children are really casual in this regard in the end, and if people always feel that they are not good, they may bring psychological hints to themselves: they are indeed not good. Therefore, there is nothing wrong with children being proud of their strengths, they know exactly where their strengths are, and they will not be blinded by the praise of others when they enter society in the future. Parents should allow their children to be proud, which is not necessarily harmful to their future development.
Today's topic: What are some of your child's unique strengths? Will your child be proud of it? How would you deal with your child's sense of pride?