常言道，養兒一百歲，長憂九十九。
As a parent, almost all the worries in this life are focused on the children, and from the moment the child is born, it is destined to worry about all aspects of them.
Even when their children have grown up and left the house to work, their parents' hearts are still concerned about them.
Even if the children already have a love partner and even start to think about getting married, the parents still can't let go of that concern.
The hearts of parents come from their deep concern and love for their children, and they only hope that their children can live a happy and happy life.
Many parents will check their children's marriages before they enter the marriage hall.
Therefore, it is crucial that forward-thinking parents will give 3 important reminders in time before their children get married.
One
Don't just focus on appearance, but pay more attention to character.
The relationship between people begins with appearance, respect for talent, character, kindness, and finally character.
Partners who can go to the end are often because of each other's good character. No matter how high the appearance is, if it is accompanied by bad character and bad behavior, it is difficult to maintain a long-term relationship.
When two people live together, the most important thing is to be tolerant, understanding and respectful of each other. If the other person's character is not good, then tolerance, respect and understanding in life will no longer exist, and it will be very tiring to get along like this.
Some people may also have violent tendencies, and it is undoubtedly dangerous to live with such people.
Those who are scheming and ill-intentioned will bring misfortune to their married life.
Forward-thinking parents will remind their children that when choosing a partner, it is not only about appearance, but also about the person's character.
Two
Don't mistake ability for character.
Truly forward-thinking parents will remind their children not to mistake their ability to work for a sign of character when evaluating a partner.
Even if you see that the other person is excellent at work and has a strong ability to make money, if he has a problem with his character, such as calculating, unscrupulous to achieve his goals, emotional instability, easy to lose his temper, has a bad attitude towards others, and does not know how to leave room for others, then such a person is not suitable to be a lifelong partner.
The most important thing in getting married is to look at the character and quality of the other party, not the ability. No matter how high your education or how successful your career is, if you don't know how to respect you or accept your family, then being with such a person will only make you suffer a lot of grievances.
Three
Get to know each other's family background.
When your children are ready to get married, you will naturally support them, but before you do so, you need to find out whether your children fully understand each other's family background and their qualities. Help your child make the right judgment by asking how much they know about the other family's real situation.
Knowing what is really going on in the other family's family can help parents remind their children how to be vigilant when dealing with the other family.
When parents find that the other person's family background is complicated or not suitable for marriage, they will remind their children to be careful when choosing. Before getting married, it is important to have a deep understanding of the other person's details and intentions; If the other party is indeed a sincere person with good character, then it is suitable to get married.
The reason why parents think deeply about their children is that they want to have a clear understanding of the specific situation of the other family, including the family background, the behavior of the other parent, the mode of marriage and so on, before the child gets married, so as to guide the child how to achieve happiness in married life. It's a move of wisdom and a sign of foresight.
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