In this fast-paced, high-stress society, each of us is under pressure from all sides to a greater or lesser extent.

In order to cope with these stresses, some people gradually develop some behavior patterns that seem like "good habits".

However, what you may not know is that there are huge psychological hidden dangers behind these habits, and they may even lead to depression.

Today, we're going to dive into these three potential "killer habits" and see how many of them you've hit.

1. Excessive self-reflection: Falling into endless self-blame

Many people have had the experience of repeating a small incident during the day when they lie in bed at night, feeling that they are not doing well enough, and even begin to doubt their own ability and value.

This kind of excessive self-reflection is actually a kind of psychological self-punishment.

Excessive introspection often stems from the pursuit of perfection and the fear of failure.

People want to reach a higher standard by constantly reflecting and revising their behavior.

However, this quest is often unrealistic, as no one can be perfect.

When there is a gap between reality and ideals, people fall into an abyss of self-blame and frustration.

So, how do you break this vicious circle?

First, we need to recognize our limitations and accept our imperfections.

Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, which are important factors that make up our unique personality.

Second, when we feel frustrated or lost, we can try to comfort ourselves in more positive ways, such as telling ourselves that "I have done my best" and "this failure does not mean that I am worthless".

In addition, cognitive behavioral therapy is also an effective tool.

When we find ourselves caught in a vortex of excessive introspection, we can try to use this method to adjust our way of thinking.

Specifically, it is about shifting attention from past mistakes and deficiencies to current problems and solutions, so as to avoid falling into endless self-blame.

2. Withholding Emotions: Suppressing emotions is equivalent to chronic suicide

In the minds of many people, being strong and independent is an essential quality for adults.

When encountering difficulties and setbacks, many people will choose to hold back and bury their negative emotions deep in their hearts.

They believe that this is the only way to stay calm and sane and to be better able to cope with life's challenges.

However, this practice is actually very dangerous.

Long-term suppression of emotions will lead to the continuous accumulation of psychological stress, which may eventually lead to various psychological problems, such as anxiety disorders, depression, etc.

Moreover, holding back can lead to strained relationships and alienation.

Because when we are reluctant to express our feelings and needs, it is difficult for others to understand our inner world, which can lead to misunderstandings and estrangement.

It is very important to learn to express emotions reasonably.

When we encounter unpleasant things, we can try to vent our emotions in appropriate ways, such as talking to friends, writing a diary, doing physical exercise, etc.

At the same time, you should also learn to listen to the opinions and suggestions of others in order to better solve problems and relieve stress.

3. The Pursuit of Perfection: The Trap of Perfectionism

The pursuit of perfection is one of the common characteristics of many people.

They have very high expectations of themselves and others, and want to be the best and the most perfect.

However, this quest is often impractical because there is no such thing as perfection in the world.

When there is a gap between reality and ideals, people who strive for perfection will feel very disappointed and frustrated.

In addition to disappointment and frustration, the pursuit of perfection can lead to other psychological problems.

For example, it can lead to procrastination.

Because of the fear of failure and criticism, perfectionists often choose to postpone action or lower their standards to ensure their "perfection".

Although this can temporarily avoid the pain of failure and criticism, it will lose more opportunities for success and room for growth.

In addition, the pursuit of perfection can also lead to interpersonal tension and alienation.

Because when we demand too much from others, it's easy to feel dissatisfied and disappointed in their performance.

In this way, we lose the foundation and motivation to build good relationships with others.

So, how do you get out of the trap of perfectionism?

First, we need to recognize our limitations and accept that neither ourselves nor others are perfect.

Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, which are important factors that make up our unique personality.

Second, we can try to lower our expectations and not set too high goals and requirements for ourselves.

At the same time, learn to appreciate your own strengths and strengths and those of others, rather than focusing on your weaknesses and shortcomings.

The above three seemingly "good habits" behavior patterns actually hide huge psychological hidden dangers.

If we don't pay attention to it and correct it, it can lead to depression and other psychological problems.

We need to be vigilant at all times, detect and correct our bad habits and ways of thinking in time.

Only in this way can we have a healthy, positive mindset to face life's challenges and difficulties.