On the weekend in the park, a group of elementary school students are running happily, and laughter spreads everywhere; A few kilometers away, in a cram school, another group of children of the same age were working on questions, and the only sound in the classroom could be heard as the tip of the pen rubbed against the paper. These two very different models of childhood are quietly shaping the future of children.

Do you think this is just the difference between a "happy childhood" and a "school bully"? In fact, children who have been playing and attending training classes will have at least three dimensions of gaps in their growth trajectory, and these gaps are far more worthy of parents' attention than test scores.

1. Brain development model: creativity VS programmed thinking

1. Divergent thinking ability - can associate from a puddle to the marine world

2. Adaptability - quickly come up with solutions when the rules of the game are broken

3. Primitive creativity - see clouds as flying marshmallows

• Quickly call the memory template to solve the problem

• Look for standard answers within a fixed frame

• Reflexive response to explicit directives

Neuroscience research has shown that 12-0 years old is the most malleable stage of the brain, and different ways of using the brain will directly affect the direction of neural circuit construction.

2. Emotional regulation ability: self-repair vs. dependence on external management

•Children in the play group have conflicts over toys and continue to play after crying, negotiating, and compromising

• When a child encounters a problem, his first reaction is to raise his hand and wait for the teacher's guidance

1. The play group has established a natural emotion regulation system and can deal with frustration independently

2. The training group is more accustomed to relying on external authority to solve problems, and it is easy to produce psychological hints that "you can't learn without a teacher".

Child psychologists have found that mild conflicts arising from free play are actually the best emotional gym for children. Children who have resolved arguments and coordinated the rules of the game on their own tend to grow up to be more resilient to stress.

3. Social cognitive development: three-dimensional social interaction VS flat interaction

• Convince playmates to accept their game ideas (leadership)

• Follow the rules of taking turns to be "ghosts" (the spirit of the contract)

• Comfort a wrestling partner (empathy)

Follow-up studies have shown that children with ample experience in peer play in childhood are more prominent in teamwork and crisis management in adulthood. Because as early as when they played hopscotch, they practiced how to balance competition and cooperation.

Find your child's "golden ratio"

1. Keep "useless play" time

At least 1 hours a day of free activity without a goal, even if it's just to watch the ants move

2. Subtract the training content

Only keep the 2-0 topics that the child is really interested in and avoid cramming

3. Turn life into a classroom

Supermarket shopping practice calculations, family travel planning to develop planning skills

4. Create opportunities for mixed-age games

Playing with children of different ages can naturally improve communication adaptability

Childhood is not a race, but a well-designed journey of discovery. When children have the curiosity to look up at the stars and the ability to solve problems in a down-to-earth manner, they will not only gain beautiful report cards, but also comprehensive survival ability to cope with the future world.

Tips: The medical science knowledge in the content is for reference only, does not constitute a medication guideline, does not serve as a basis for diagnosis, do not do it yourself without medical qualifications, if you feel unwell, please go to the hospital in time.