I often hear some parents complain that when their children reach college, they contact you when they ask for money, and the rest of the time they seem to have no such children.

This phenomenon should not be rare, because I have heard such complaints more than once, and this is the most common problem of our family education - children are growing, but parents are still staying in place.

A child's growth is not only physical growth, but also not just watching the child grow taller and be admitted to college. In fact, the growth of children is all-round growth, with physical maturity, ideological independence, and individual character stereotypes. As for parents, the concept of parents educating their children stays in primary school and junior high school, or the kind of nanny-style education, all-inclusive and all-inclusive control of children, and parents always regard their children as their own "products" in their hands and tied to their homes.

Children should be independent and parents should be in control, which is a common problem in family education after children become adults. And where is the problem? This should be the problem of parents, whose ideas do not progress in proportion to the growth of their children, leading to contradictions.

Xiao Yan, a girl who is about to graduate from her senior year, is scolded by her mother as a "white-eyed wolf" all day long, and she usually doesn't know how to contact her parents, and she calls to ask for living expenses. And when Xiao Yan told his mother that he was not feeling well, his mother would complain that Xiao Yan was doing evil. As for the usual living expenses, Xiao Yan's parents only give her 500 yuan per month.

3 yuan, whether it is enough in college, I think everyone knows very well, according to the standard of 0 yuan a day, this 0 yuan is not enough. Even in a second-tier city, it is difficult to last a month with a living expense of 0 yuan. I really don't know what it means to be a father. Maybe it's because he has a lot of children (0 children, two girls and one boy), and it's not precious to have more children.

The greatest sorrow of family education is to educate children to become enemies. And the root of educating children to be enemies is caused by the solidification of parents' ideas, controlling everything for children when they are young, and treating children as opponents. When the child grows up, if the parents do not change their education methods, they will naturally become enemies.

Growth, not only children are growing, parents also need to grow with their children, change together, and improve together.

Proofread by Zhuang Wu