Traditional Chinese families are often a pattern of male dominance and female dominance.

Men work hard to earn money to support their families, and their daughters take care of their children at home, and Shen Zhuoran's son Shen Qing and daughter-in-law Liu Lina, the protagonist of CCTV's hit "The Second Half of My Life", are typical examples of this kind of family.

Shen Qing is busy with work every day, and Liu Lina takes care of the elderly and children, but in this ordinary traditional life, cracks gradually appear.

This careful wife Liu Lina finally couldn't help it, and filed for divorce from Shen Qing, regardless of the other party's doubts about separating, leaving only Shen Qing who was confused, so why did Liu Lina want to divorce? Shen Qing and Liu Lina are a typical middle-aged couple in the play, Shen Qing is working hard outside the home and shouldering the burden of supporting her family, while Liu Lina stays at home, silently taking care of the housework, taking care of her old father Shen Zhuoran and the whole family.

On the surface, this is a traditional marriage with a clear division of labor and complementarity, Shen Qing has unlimited scenery outside and a successful career, while Liu Lina takes care of everything at home and takes care of the family in an orderly manner.

Such a match seems to be an ideal family in the eyes of many people, but under the calm surface, the undercurrent has already quietly surged, and Shen Qing is busy with work and often ignores Liu Lina's feelings.

He thinks that he is working hard outside the home in order to give his family a better life.

And Liu Lina's contribution is just a matter of course.

On the other hand, although Liu Lina silently took on everything, she gradually felt tired and lonely.

My husband is not at home, I don't even have someone to chat with, and I quickly hung up because the other party was busy when I called, and in this situation of little communication, the estrangement between the two is getting deeper and deeper.

Shen Qing's world is career and recognition from the outside world, while Liu Lina's world is family triviality and endless dedication, such differences planted the seeds of marriage breakdown.

The appearance of Shen Zhuoran's first relationship partner, Lian Yilian, became the first tipping point of the marital conflict between Shen Qing and Liu Lina.

Lian Yilian is the head nurse of the hospital, she is 50 years old and gentle and considerate, but with a clear purpose - to covet Shen Zhuoran's real estate and savings.

She quickly established an intimate relationship with Shen Zhuoran, and even moved into the Shen family's big house, which Shen Qing was supportive of, believing that her father needed companionship after being widowed, and Lian Yilian seemed to be a good choice.

However, Liu Lina has a lot of complaints about this, she is keenly aware of Lian Yilian's calculations, and she is worried that her father's property and the stability of the family will be threatened.

On the issue of Lian Yilian, Shen Qing and Liu Lina had obvious differences for the first time, and Shen Qing felt that his wife was too sensitive, and even made a fuss.

Liu Lina thought that her husband was too naïve and did not know how to protect the interests of the family, although this dispute did not intensify on the spot, it made Liu Lina's heart have an extra layer of worry.

She began to wonder if her contribution in the family was really seen and cherished, and then the appearance of another character, Ace Lee, completely ignited the fuse of the marriage.

Ace Li is one of Shen Qing's work-Peach Blossom-, a woman who has a crush on him.

Shen Qing thought that he was clean and self-conscious, and he had never crossed the bottom line, but his attitude made Liu Lina feel uneasy, and by chance, Liu Lina found out that Shen Qing and Ace Li were in frequent contact.

There were even some ambiguous traces, she did not have a direct showdown, but suppressed these doubts in her heart, but the long-term depression and suspicion finally made her emotions on the verge of collapse.

After Lian Yilian left Shen Zhuoran and married a wealthy man, Shen Qing and Liu Lina's lives seemed to have returned to peace, but the shadow brought by Ace Li did not dissipate.

Liu Lina began to reflect on her marriage, she was busy taking care of Shen Zhuoran every day, focusing on the affairs of the family, but in exchange for her husband's neglect and other women's involvement.

When Shen Qing was working hard outside, she may inadvertently enjoy the attention of others, but she can only face the burden of her family alone.

Such a gap made her feel deeply unfair, and finally after a fierce quarrel, Liu Lina filed for divorce.

She didn't get hysterical, didn't explain much, just calmly said: - I'm tired, let's separate.

-沈青聽後滿頭霧水，他不明白，自己一心為家奮鬥，妻子為何如此-無理取鬧-。

In his opinion, small frictions in marriage are just a normal phenomenon, Liu Lina's decision is completely trivial, and he even thinks that his wife may be influenced by the outside world, or just emotional impulses.

However, Liu Lina's divorce decision was not impulsive, but the result of long-term accumulation, she didn't love Shen Qing, but she couldn't bear the pain of being ignored.

She once thought that as long as she worked hard enough, she could maintain the harmony of this family, but the reality told her that unilateral efforts could not be exchanged for true happiness.

The appearance of Ace Li was just the last straw that crushed her, and the real root has long been buried deep in the daily life of marriage.

Just when Shen Qing tried to save his marriage, but couldn't find a breakthrough, his father Shen Zhuoran's will unexpectedly surfaced.

沈卓然雖然年過七十，卻早已為自己生命的終點做好了準備，他提前寫下遺囑，詳細規劃了遺產的分配。

He also left earnest teachings for his sons, daughters and grandchildren, but when Shen Qing opened the will, he was shocked to find that his father did not mention Liu Lina at all, and there was no name for her in the will, and there was no recognition of her years of dedication.

As if she had never been a part of the family, at this moment Shen Qing woke up like a dream, and he began to think back to Liu Lina's role in the family over the years.

Since the death of her mother, Liu Lina has taken over the burden of taking care of Shen Zhuoran, not only to take care of the housework, but also to deal with the various needs of the elderly.

Even accompanied Shen Zhuoran all night when he was sick, and when Shen Qing was busy outside, it was Liu Lina who silently supported the family, but all this seemed to be taken for granted in Shen Zhuoran's eyes.

In Shen Qing's heart, he has never really been taken seriously, and the blankness of the will made Shen Qing face up to his mistakes for the first time, and he realized that his father's neglect of his mother seemed to be repeated in himself.

Shen Zhuoran regarded his wife's dedication as a matter of course, and Shen Qing also did not cherish Liu Lina's dedication, he always thought that his hard work outside was the greatest contribution to the family.

But forgetting that the warmth of the family needs to be maintained by both parties, Liu Lina filed for divorce, not because it was unreasonable, but because she was completely disappointed with this neglect.

Through his father's will, Shen Qing finally understood the truth about his wife's insistence on divorce, which was not only a crisis in marriage, but also a profound reflection on the entire family relationship.

Shen Zhuoran used four relationships to find the meaning of his old age, but he ignored the people closest to him, obviously on his way to find his wife, it was Liu Lina who had been supporting.

Shen Qing used her career to prove her worth, but she forgot that her wife is also an individual who needs to be seen, and Liu Lina's departure is a rebellion against this neglect and a redefinition of her own value.

Shen Qing's awakening in the play came a little late, but it left a profound revelation for the audience, marriage is not a unilateral sacrifice, nor is it a matter of course.

Instead, they need to understand and respect each other, although Shen Zhuoran's will is cold, it is like a mirror, reflecting Shen Qing's blind spots, and also giving him the opportunity to re-examine his life.

Reference: "The Second Half of My Life" TV series