You have to do your homework before you get married, and don't regret it until you get married.
If a woman has three things in her hands, she can be a little tougher in front of her in-laws, and even suppress those so-called "elders".
The reality is cruel, most married women are most afraid of the little bad things with their in-laws.
Those mothers-in-law, who greeted each other with a smile at first, began to treat you as an "outsider" after a while.
If you don't learn some means, can you have a good life?
01
Independent personality.
If a woman wants to live well, she must first have a brain, not live on other people's shoulders.
Look at those confused women, knowing that their marriage is unstable, they still want to have a second child, but as a result, family problems are getting more and more serious, but they are plunged into endless difficulties.
No matter what, you have to have a clear mind and know what you can and can't do.
After marriage, a woman with an independent personality never relies on a man and will not sacrifice her career and dignity for the sake of her family.
If you don't want to be a "housewife" who has nothing to do, you have to have the ability to earn money and have independent financial resources.
I know an acquaintance sister who had a good career before marriage, but after marriage, she lost her job because she depended on men.
As a result, the family had no income, her husband no longer looked at her, and there was no chance to turn back.
Independent women are in control of their own lives, and they know that men cannot be relied on completely.
Getting married is just one part of life, but it doesn't mean you have to leave everything you have to someone else.
Think clearly, if you don't want to be dragged behind, you must first have your own "wings" and live a wonderful life by your own ability.
02
Keep making progress in your work.
Before marriage, men have a lot of sweet words, saying "I will support you for a lifetime", do you feel a little relieved to hear it?
This kind of thing can be heartwarming, but don't take it seriously.
After getting married, men feel more and more that you are a "white rice eater", only knowing three meals a day at home, completely ignoring that you can have a career and dignity.
Coupled with no income, slowly he began to dislike you, thinking that you were just a "yellow-faced woman". Have you thought about this kind of ending?
I have a relative in my family who opened a small shop before marriage and has a decent income.
But after getting married, she put all her mind on her family and gave up her career, but the man's mentality was unbalanced and he felt that she couldn't do anything.
After a few years of marriage, the man began to become more and more cold, and she also realized that things had changed, but unfortunately it was too late to regret it.
If a woman does not maintain an enterprising spirit at work and rely on her husband to provide for her, she will always suffer in the end.
Not only will it lose its dignity, but it will also make the relationship become more and more cold.
So, don't let your value be defined only by men, live your own wonderful life.
03
Knowing the eye of a man.
Marriage is not a battlefield for you to fight with your in-laws at home, and choosing the right person is much better than working hard in the later stage.
You must understand that when it comes to getting married, you have to choose the right person, especially the man and his in-laws.
If you choose the wrong one, no matter how hard you work after marriage, it will be an endless cycle. If you choose the wrong one, you will have to pay sooner or later.
Many women are like silly white sweets at first, and they don't understand anything.
When I got married, I realized how deep the family background was and how ugly the in-laws' faces were.
The point is that you have to see it before you get married, and don't wait until after marriage to start regretting it.
Knowing people is not innate, but learned.
If you have more contact with people and understand human nature, your vision will become sharper.
An acquaintance I know has been married three times, each time with a bang, and finally ended in a fiasco.
Look, isn't this because you haven't seen through people's hearts and haven't learned how to recognize people? In the end, I chose the wrong man, and in the end, I reaped the consequences.
Therefore, in marriage, vision is the key to determining fate.