古語雲：“人生不滿百，常懷千歲憂。 ”

Many people have lived for decades, but internal friction has squeezed for hundreds of years.

When you reach an age, you are still afraid of this and that, or you have to be like this, resulting in no way to live a good life. Eating delicacies from the mountains and seas, but his appetite is not good, and he scolds and scolds the people around him, giving him a face.

A really smart old man who lives a life with zero internal friction and is mentally transparent.

01

往事歸零。

Along the way in life, there are failures, successes, stumbles, and inability to figure it out, inability to see through, etc.

Finally, if you still use the thinking of the past to live the rest of your life, your obsession will become stronger and stronger, but you can't solve anything.

It's better to say "forget it", come freely.

Just like Su Shi, a writer in the Northern Song Dynasty, who opposed Wang Anshi's reform of the law, fell into the Wutai poetry case, and opposed the wrong practice of the old-fashioned party to change the law. As a result, he was degraded again and again.

When he was in Huizhou, he took his family to farm and dig wild vegetables.

As soon as he looked up and found that the scenery around him was so good, he suddenly understood:“此間有甚麼歇不得處？由是如挂鉤之魚，忽得解脫。 ”

Away from officialdom and less power, life is truly liberated.

 

If you desperately keep your money and status and don't let go, then you are the "prey" in the eyes of others. What you're holding is actually a bait given to you by others.

Let the past be in the past, and today will be a good start.

與人交往，恩怨歸零，握手言和。

Hatred is not a family treasure, nor is it the courage to live, but the root of your happiness.

When you hate others, you squint at others with your eyes, and give people a look on their faces, but in fact, your body is out of shape. If you don't believe that you look at yourself in the mirror and show hatred, you distort your face and body.

Take the initiative to shake someone's hand and say "I'm sorry." Then the other party will also give you a step, and you will no longer care about each other.

Put away the experience, zero the knowledge, and start over.

Don't open your mouth to redeem "think about the beginning, I was back then", but think of yourself as an ignorant person and learn something every day.

Throw away empiricism, and you will find that society has changed a lot, and you have a lot to learn.

When people are old and can keep up with the times, then they can do everything by themselves, and they will also enjoy the dividends of the times.

After retirement, work is zeroed out and life returns.

Don't work hard, don't think about who will hire you again, and don't compete with young people for jobs.

Immerse yourself in life, do some housework, hold hands with your wife, and walk around.

If you have to make money, then use the online platform to make a little money, don't care about how much, only care about happiness.

When people are old, they are a "zero", which means that there are infinite possibilities. If you think about it, you can be positive.

02

Life is minimal.

Why do you always wear the most conspicuous and more expensive clothes? That is, there are symptoms of material deprivation.

Why do you always have to go to the group for fear of being isolated by the people around you? That's because you're afraid of being alone, and it's impossible to enjoy being alone at all.

Why do you think a big house is the most suitable place for retirement? In fact, it is your desire that is at work, and it is you who can't see through the truth of life.

In the final analysis, if you want to live a high-quality life, you are comparing with others, hindering face, following the trend, and consuming money as the "winner".

 

There is a question on Zhihu: Why is our material life getting better and better, but we are not happy at all?

Some netizens replied: "If you have a good one, you want better, and if you have a better one, you want the best." ”

Today's old people, compared to the sixties and seventies of the last century, are good enough.

There is food and drink, you can dress warmly, and you can also go outside to see.

also lost the habit of simple life step by step. The troubles of life begin here.

In addition to the necessities of life, we really don't need a lot of things.

Adopt the habit of living minimalist, and you will find that your retirement fund is not much, but you can still have more than enough every year.

打個比方。你一個月只有一千五的退休金，也沒有儲蓄，但是你做好生活規劃，買東西能貨比三家，盡量下午去菜市場，衣服都是在換季的時候購買。那麼你肯定會有存款。

 

古人雲：“六十不建屋，七十不添衣，八十不祝壽。 ”就是傳導老人，別消耗金錢，別瞎折騰。

There are no fixed rules for whether to build a house, buy clothes, or make a wedding wine, but it is the best arrangement to do not do it and do less.

Money is not everything, it is impossible to spend all the money, no matter how old you are.

03

Pleases yourself.

Zhang Ailing wrote a philosophical article "The Detour That Must Be Taken".

At the intersection of youth, the young man chose the wrong direction, and his mother stopped: "This road cannot be taken." ”

Young people don't believe it, so they have to go.

The mother said, "I used to go that way. ”

The young man did not look back, but continued to walk.

Yes, children and grandchildren have their own blessings. There are many detours that need to be walked by yourself, and parents cannot replace them.

Too many old people think that they are experienced, so they repeatedly demand that their children have to draw scoops according to the gourd. But the child doesn't listen and hates it.

Why do you want to impose your own thinking on others? Even if the other person is your child, he is still a free man.

 

If the old man gets along with outsiders, then there is no need to force change. Really, let others be others, and you watch from the sidelines, not indifferent, but let go.

If you let others go, then you let yourself go. Don't be yourself to follow others, don't be submissive to anyone.

Whatever you want, as long as it is legally and morally allowable, you can do it.

Maybe your hobby is very different, but it's good that you are happy; If you like the food and others hate it, that's okay. Others go to the West, you can go to the East.

04

The most difficult thing about being a human being is not that you have no money or a house, but that you can't handle the relationship between yourself and external objects and yourself.

People will grow old and die, but you can age a little slower and age more naturally.

Live a life of zero internal friction, don't get entangled, don't change others, don't obsess over the past, don't obsess over material desires, don't look down on anyone, and don't go against your heart.

A handful of sunshine in my heart, every minute and second is warm.