Downstairs in the community,Every twilight，There is always a group of children frolicking, surrounded by tired parents.
These scenes are as usual, with children running carefree under the trees, and parents chatting about the trivial things of life.Sometimes we talk about our children's future。
Some parents have very simple expectations for their children,As long as they can live a stable lifeand be satisfied; And some parents want their children to have better opportunities and take a step further.
So,Discussions inevitably linger on one issue: How many choices do children from ordinary families have, and can they reverse or inevitably go ordinary?
Maybe you've heard the saying:"A child is a replica of his parents。”
This is not to say that there is a physical similarity, but the proximity of lifestyle and method of thinking.
Most parents in ordinary families just pursue a stable life, a fixed job and a visible future, and work hard just to live a little better and be able to stay at work for a longer time.
For these parents,Life is not easy，Their hopes are sometimes not so strong, but hidden in those simple little wishes, such as a family can buy a small house,It can accumulate some security before you get old。
Children grow up in such an environment, and they are exposed to it.They don't learn the courage to take risks，It's a sound choice。
In this way of life, it seems that it is becoming more and more difficult to leap between classes.
In the past, we often heard that "reading changes destiny", studying in college, or working hard in the workplace for a few years.Maybe it can really change fate。
But for today's young peopleIt seems that reading books only gives them a chance to get away from it temporarily, rather than fundamentally change.
The data showsIncome disparities are widening imperceptibly, and there are few ways to cross classes.
No matter how rich your knowledge and skills are,In the face of an increasingly complex societyHow to break through those invisible thresholds has become a difficult problem.
But not all children are stagnant because of this。
Some children have a strong dream from an early age, and they study not for ranking, but to master skills that can truly change their lives.
They realize at a very young age thatIf you want to live a different life than your parents, any borrowing is not as good as their own efforts.
Such a group of children,Even if you are born in an ordinary familyThey will also choose a more rigorous learning attitude when they are students, and quickly make career plans after graduation, they are not afraid of doubt or failure, and believe that the ultimate success must belong to them.
This belief, perhaps their inner drive, is a kind of "my life is up to me, not to heaven" firmness.
In addition to will and belief, a person's success also depends on the accuracy of their self-perception.
Only by knowing what you are good at and what you are not good at, and being able to tap into the potential of the field, can you really make a breakthrough.
These children can often see their strengths in difficult situations, and they will find their own direction in the complicated choices.Clear Goalsand make unremitting efforts to achieve it.
There is no greater good fortune for a person than to be clear about his position，and willing to put their dreams into action。
Of courseOrdinary parents also have their admirable efforts, they may not be helping the child recognize their strengths,But they provide a solid foundation, so that children can think about their future with peace of mind.
Return to the essence of life, whether living in an ordinary family or an extraordinary family,After all, it is the child's own decision to choose which path to choose in life。
Parents give their children not only the initial environment, but also the constant blurring of their own expectations, allowing children to discover and go to their own world.
Fate may give more restrictions on the lives of children of ordinary families,But children will always explore and grow within those limitations。
The end result may not always be a big deal,But through effort and awareness，What children gain may be more about the meaning of life。
The children of ordinary parents are selective and possible, they are not prisoners of fate, but to find their place in the whirlpool of fate.
Let the thinking continue, accompany life, and perhaps everything will be injected with hope unconsciously.