★ Except for a very small number of people who are talented, the difference between most excellent people in the workplace and ordinary people is their way of thinking, and excellent professionals often have these 7 oriented thinking.
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7 guides
clause 1 Kind is future-oriented. You have to set a clear, positive, exciting vision for your future, a future 5 years of dreaming of life scenes. This vision for the future can generate a powerful motivating force to keep you motivated and forward-thinking. Leaders have vision, non-leaders don't. When you develop an exciting vision for your future, you become a leader in your own life.
clause 2 Kind is goal-oriented. By making a list of what you want to accomplish next year 10 goals, and you become goal-oriented. Choose the most important goals from your list. Make a completion plan for it, and then practice your plan every day until it comes to fruition. This exercise will change your life, and I'll talk about it in more detail later.
Type 3 is excellence-oriented 。 Make up your mind today to do your best in your job and get into the top 10% of your field. Choose a skill that will help you more than any other skill and commit to being good in this area. Improve only one skill at a time.
Type 4 is result-oriented. At the end of the day, you tend to only get paid when you achieve results for someone else (the employer). Have a planning checklist every day and organize your checklist by priority. To focus on using your most valuable time, it's best to keep asking yourself: "What can I do, and only if I do this, can I really change my life?" Then concentrate on it.
Type 5 is solution-oriented. Life is made up of a series of problems, challenges, reversals, setbacks, and temporary failures. The ups and downs of your reactions will largely determine your success and happiness. You should focus on the solution, not the problem. The more you think and talk about solutions, the more you'll focus on them, and the more solutions you'll come up with to solve problems that arise along the way.
Type 6 is growth-oriented. Committed to lifelong learning. In order to earn more money, you have to learn more things. Invest at least as much in your mind each year as you do in your car. If you spend as much money on improving your professional level as you do on a car, you will become rich, happy, and successful.
Type 7 is action-oriented. This is the key to everything. Action is everything. Develop a sense of urgency, seize opportunities and problems quickly, and develop a propensity to act. Be relentless in moving towards your goals. Say to yourself over and over again: "Do it right away, do it right away, do it right away. ”
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Say no to "I'm not good enough"
Everyone is a potential genius. Your job is to unleash your spiritual power by constantly thinking and talking about what you're dreaming of and where you're headed. Refuse to think or talk about things that make you unpleasant and about problems and difficulties. Make it a habit to focus on your most important goals, tasks, and activities. Think and talk about solutions and opportunities, and most importantly, keep moving in the direction of your true dreams in life every day.
Unfortunately, the most common basic assumptions that people make are: “ I'm not good enough ” , which is also probably the worst hypothesis: Feeling that you are not good enough, feeling incompetent, comparing yourself to others with your shortcomings. Feeling deep down that we weren't good enough has led to most of our problems and pain.
Alfred Adler, an expert in psychoanalysis, once concluded: Each of us has an inferiority complex. This is not an inferiority complex. The complex, like ink on a white sheet, is locked and you can't move it. In contrast, an inferiority complex is something you can change and replace.
People usually feel inferior to others in some, if not many, ways. Even these Feelings are not based on facts, and they affect our performance. The key to changing your life, improving your external world, is to reshape your subconscious mind and change your inner world.
Be aware of the biggest obstacle to achieving peak performance – in happiness, health, and all of you What you want to accomplish is your negative feelings. Most of these negative emotions are based on fear and suspicion and are usually triggered by damaging criticism from one or both parents during your early childhood. In fact, you can almost always The adult lesion is traced back to his childhood, i.e. when he was physically or emotionally affected Criticism and punishment of parents.The two negative habit patterns that hinder most people from moving forward are: Fear of failure, fear of rejection or criticism. Making excuses and blaming others is the root of most negative emotions and can reduce your negative emotions and control your self-esteem by taking 100% responsibility for yourself and everything you accomplish.
Change your mind The starting point is to change the way you interpret – the way you explain your experiences to yourself. For example, there are two people who are stuck in traffic while driving to work. A person may be angry, frustrated, and bang on the steering wheel. Another person might say: "It's an opportunity to think, listen to an educational audio program, and catch up on the time missed today due to traffic jams. "Two people, faced with the same situation, have taken different interpretations. When you start explaining things to yourself in a positive way, you start to feel positive about them.
It's never too late to have a happy childhood. This means that most people's negative perceptions of childhood stem from their interpretations of childhood. Imagine that your childhood was sent back to you to teach you valuable lessons that you need to know to be successful, happy, and have a wonderful family as an adult. Then you look back at your childhood and say: "I'm fortunate that the difficulties that happened in my childhood helped me to improve my insight and make me better at home and as an adult. "You can reinterpret your childhood and make it a happy one, as long as you decide to think about it. You are always free to choose about it.
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Feedback, not failure
The psychologist Adler was quoted earlier: “ Courage is only when one feels worthy. ” We're talking here about the courage to put in the work.
There are no failures in life, only feedback. Remember, everything that happens to you happens for a reason. If it's a setback, then think of it as feedback: The feedback you get can help you self-correct, learn lessons, and move forward faster and more successfully next time. If you see every negative experience as a form of feedback that will help you become better in the future, then you will become a more positive and productive person.
In the process of changing your mind and life, your starting point is to dream big. Here are some questions to ask you.
The first question is: If you knew you would not fail in anything, what great dreams would you have? If you waved a magic wand and were guaranteed to accomplish any goal, short or long, big or small, what would your goal be? The answer to this question usually tells you what you are going to do on this earth. It will reveal to you the main, clear goal.
The second question is: If there were no restrictions, what goals would you set for yourself? Some people have a basic premise that they have limitations: They are uncreative, not intelligent, not academically gifted, not as high IQ as others. What if you had all the minds, abilities, wisdom, money, friends, and connections in the world that you could do, be anybody, or own anything? You're going to make it for yourself decide What is the goal? What would you do differently?
The third question is: If you were financially independent now, you could do anything, be anyone, or own anything in life, what would you immediately change? Let's say you win the lottery and suddenly become very rich. What immediate changes would you make in your life? Start thinking about making these changes today, as they are either critical points that are holding you back from success or your critical mission on Earth.
Whatever your answers to these questions are, write them down. Determine the price you're going to pay to achieve those goals, and then work hard to get there. The great oil billionaire H.L. Hunt was once asked: "What's the key to success?" He said: “ The keys to success are: First, you have to know exactly what you want; Second, you have to determine the price you are going to pay; Third, you have to be determined to pay the price. Success is very simple, it happens after you pay the price. First, do what you have to do; Then, you can get the results. It won't be the other way around. ”
Many people say: "As long as I get what I dream, I pay the price. But as Success pioneer Earl Nightingale put it, it's like saying to the stove: "As long as you give me a little warmth, I'll put some wood in it. "That's not the way it is.
By the way, how do you know how much success has been paid? It's simple, just look at your life situation. According to the law of cause and effect, what you put in, you get. Whatever you harvest today is the result of what you sowed in the past.