Only if you are not firm with yourself will you look outward

You're going out, you're going to pick out the clothes in your closet, and you don't know which one is the most beautiful to wear, so you're going to ask for other people's opinions.

If others affirm your outfit, you will think that you look good, and if others deny your outfit, you will feel that you are not good-looking.

You choose a partner, and you don't know if your partner is someone who deserves to be loved, so you ask for other people's opinions.

When others affirm your partner, you feel that you are not faulty, and when others deny your partner, you feel that you have a problem with your vision.

It is never the criticism and ridicule of others that defeat you, but your denial and questioning of yourself.

Only if you are not firm with yourself, you will pay attention to other people's eyes, other people's mouths, and other people's hearts.

Other people's opinions only represent other people's perspectives

You simply don't know that other people's thoughts can't influence you at all, that's someone else's opinion and perspective, not a definitive answer and standard.

You have to know that people say you're ugly only because they think you're ugly, and they're expressing their opinions, not the facts.

People say you're stupid just because he's using his own standards to measure you, but that's just his narrow standards, not the truth.

Sometimes, even what others say about you comes from what kind of value you can bring to the other person.

After all, no one dares to ridicule their boss for being ugly, and no one dares to deny that their boss is incompetent.

But people will be very casual about people who they are not afraid of offending, because after the other person's measurement, you can make the other person pay too little to be negligible.

Only if you are not sure of yourself will you be disturbed

In fact, other people's ideas have no reference value at all, and if you will be disturbed by others, there is only one reason: that is, you are not sure of yourself.

A stay-at-home mother will feel worthless because her husband is not sure of her, and that is because she has long recognized in her own heart that money is more valuable.

A girl who feels anxious about her appearance because her boyfriend is not sure about her is because she has long decided in her heart that she is not beautiful enough.

A man will feel inferior because his girlfriend is not sure of him, and that is because he has long believed in his own heart that money can measure a man's value.

Everyone else is your doppelganger

In fact, no matter who interferes with you with the help of negation and ridicule, it is essentially because you are not firm and unsure of yourself.

Everyone else is your doppelganger, your doppelgänger who denies and questions yourself, they are not others, but people who are reflected in your own heart.

Believe it or not, if you think you're wearing something beautiful, you'll be dismissive even if others belittle you.

If you think your partner is good, you will be firm and calm, even if the whole world is against it.

If you think you're beautiful, even if others say you're ugly, you'll feel that there's something wrong with their aesthetics.

If you feel worthy, you'll feel your best, even when the whole world denies you.

Please always believe in yourself, only in this way can you not be influenced by anyone, you can not be anyone's puppet, and you can be the most true and free self.