In one's journey of growth, it is inevitable to experience setbacks and hurts.

The process is full of pain and heartbreak, but it also forges us resilience and maturity. It's a double-edged sword.

If you've been hurt by a friend, colleague, lover, or family member and you're bothered by it, there's no need to rush to forgive.

Here are three ways to do it that might be wiser.

01 Save time, heart

Adults often experience that sometimes they want to do something, but find that they don't have enough time and energy.

In fact, the time and effort of adults is indeed a valuable resource.

If someone makes you feel uncomfortable or hurt, you can simply choose not to give the other person a second chance and stop pestering.

There's no need to waste energy with him.

For example, some people like to be vexatious and forceful. You try to reason with them, but it doesn't make sense.

So why waste time? Wouldn't it be better to spend this time for leisure and entertainment?

There are also those who persist in their teachings and are stubborn. Do you think that with a few words to him, he will be able to change his ways?

There is someone who has done you a deep harm, and if you still keep him in the circle, you need to continue to watch out for him and prevent the next injury.

It's a huge drain on you and it's not worth it.

02 說服無用

After being hurt, many people hope that the other party will recognize the mistake and sincerely apologize.

This is a common idea of many people.

But in reality, the reality is not so simple.

You can't convince the other person, and the other person won't change easily. This is usually the result of a high probability.

If you don't believe it, you can watch some film and television dramas. The villain will not apologize in the end, and will not think that he is wrong.

Instead, they will find reasons to say that it is the protagonist's fault.

This is very disappointing for the protagonist.

In fact, the logic of everyone's life is different.

It is impossible for someone who deliberately hurts you to change the logic of his life because of your words.

Don't have unrealistic expectations of him, such as convincing him or reasoning.

The probability of success is low.

03 Increase your knowledge of human nature

In life, when you are hurt by someone, the most important thing to do is to enrich your understanding of human nature.

Know that people can lie and betray. will calculate others, and will make things bad.

You need to add these cognitions to your cognitive base for future use.

Don't waste this opportunity.

For example, if a colleague hurts you, damages your reputation, or robs you of the opportunity to cooperate, then you should strengthen your defense against your colleague in the future and protect your own interests.

In the same way, if your lover hurts you, you should abandon your ignorance and learn to recognize people.

People are most awake when they are hurting, and they should cherish this opportunity to recognize others.

Many of the lessons taught in a person's life do not come from books, but from others.

There are always people who show us the good and the bad of human nature. It's all normal.

In short, it is very important to pack up your mood, move on, and stop your losses in time.