Raising children is not only to provide them with a material foundation, but also to cultivate their strong and confident psychological quality, so why do children have no self-confidence? How can parents develop their children's self-confidence?

Why children don't have self-confidence

1, Excessive criticism

Some parents have too high expectations for their children, often like to compare their children with other children, blindly with "high standards" to demand their children, because it is difficult for children to meet the requirements of their parents, suffer failure, lack of successful experience, and gradually develop the habit of being afraid of retreating, lack of self-confidence.

2. Lack of communication

Parents seldom communicate with their children, and rarely cultivate their children's will and character. There are even some parents who let their children go because they are busy with work, and there is no certain code of conduct, and the children's life is scattered, lack of self-control and self-motivation, which affects the healthy development of children's self-confidence.

3. The child is discriminated against by others

Children are often discriminated against and bullied by their classmates, so they will have an inferiority complex, and often children are prone to fear of society.

4. The child's own ability is poor

If the child's ability development is delayed in all aspects, or if the IQ is not high, the child's performance will be worse than that of the people around him, so that the child's inferiority complex will become more and more serious.

5. Personality factors

Children who are open-minded and cheerful by nature generally do not have low self-esteem, while introverts are more likely to have low self-esteem. Some teenagers underestimate their intelligence level too much because of their mediocre academic and work achievements and lack of outstanding performance, and even lead to a negative understanding of the whole self, thinking that they are "inferior to others everywhere", so they are too restrained in their interactions, unable to let go of their hands and feet, and always worry that they will become the object of ridicule by others.

6. The need is not met

If a student is often neglected, despised and disliked in the group, and does not receive the friendship and care of his peers, he will also feel sad and inferior.

How to develop your child's self-confidence

It is necessary to teach children to treat others correctly about their own evaluations and expectations. Tell your child that sometimes society doesn't necessarily judge a person correctly, but it needs to be treated correctly by the individual. For example, Newton, Edison, and Albert Einstein were all called "stupid" children as children, but they all went on to become great scientists.

Help your child recognize some of his or her successes in the learning process, because the more successful experiences you have, the more confident your child will be. Children often have insufficient awareness of their own abilities, and sometimes they may do things that are beyond their ability and lead to failure, resulting in low self-esteem. Parents should guide their children to do what they can, and their requirements for their children should also be in line with their physical and mental development.

Use positive self-suggestion. When you feel low on confidence in certain situations, consider using verbal cues: "If someone else can do it, I can do it." "If others can succeed, so can I." This gives you the confidence to change the status quo.

Build new excitement. When you're at a disadvantage or facing your weaknesses, you can distract yourself by intentionally changing the subject or doing something else instead. For example, you can shift your attention to the activities that interest you and can best reflect your talents, so as to dilute and reduce the psychological inferiority shadow caused by weaknesses, and relieve stress and tension.