Rebellious psychology is a problem that many parents will encounter in the process of their children's growth.

Although children are a vulnerable group, if they rebel, their power is not small, and it is a headache.

In dealing with this problem, some parents have also become smarter through communication and learning.

They are no longer on top, but look up at the child like a little brother or sister.

Just to educate the children well and to seek a harmonious and peaceful family atmosphere.

Some parents are not so open-minded and still treat their children with the old way.

As a result, children have a lot of resistance to their parents.

In fact, whether the child will rebel against his parents will be clear by looking at these 3 details.

01 Parents always discourage their children's motivation

Perhaps the parents' desire to "hope that their sons will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes" is too urgent.

So much so that some parents do not see the progress their children have made when educating their children.

They always discourage the child's motivation and negate the child's achievement.

But they don't reflect that they set too high a bar for their children.

Such an approach will undoubtedly make children feel frustrated and helpless, and then develop a rebellious mentality.

For example, Xiao Ming got a good score in an exam and went home happy to report the good news to his parents.

However, the parents said lightly: "What is this achievement, it is far from being excellent." ”

Such words are undoubtedly like a basin of cold water that extinguishes Xiao Ming's enthusiasm.

After many times like this, Xiao Ming became resistant and rebellious to his parents' evaluation.

Parents should give their children more encouragement and affirmation to stimulate their children's enthusiasm and self-confidence.

Even if the child's results are not satisfactory, parents should guide the child to progress with tolerance and understanding.

02 parental suffering-style education

Some parents take a bitter approach when educating their children.

What to say, "Mom and Dad work so hard every day, it's all for you." And so on.

They inspire gratitude in their children by telling stories of their hardships.

This kind of education can easily evolve into moral kidnapping, and children feel a heavy psychological burden.

However, the spiritual needs of children are neglected.

For example, Xiaohong's parents often tell her about the hard work they put into getting her to school.

They hope that she will cherish the opportunity and study hard.

However, this has put Xiaohong under a lot of pressure.

She felt that if she didn't get good grades, she would be sorry for her parents' efforts.

Over time, Xiaohong began to dislike her parents' education methods and became estranged from her parents.

When educating children, parents should focus on cultivating their children's independent thinking ability and sense of autonomy.

Instead of tying up children through moral kidnapping.

Children should be encouraged to pursue their dreams and interests.

03. Parents are too controlling

As children grow older, their sense of independence and self-awareness grows.

And some parents have too much control over them.

They try to control everything about their children.

This will undoubtedly suppress the development of the child's personality and make it difficult for them to become independent.

Parents who are too controlling will not be able to raise happy children, which will only trigger their rebellion.

For example, Xiao Gang is a boy with a lively personality and a thirsty sense of adventure.

However, his parents kept a tight grip on his behavior.

They didn't allow him to do anything they thought was risky.

He began to rebel against his parents' control, deliberately committing rebellious acts to express his dissatisfaction.

Children are individuals.

Parents should respect their children's individuality and choices and give them appropriate freedom and space.

Allow them to explore the world and try new things.

Parents should focus on cultivating their children's self-confidence and independence, and avoid over-controlling and discouraging their children's enthusiasm.

Only in this way can a healthy and harmonious parent-child relationship be established and children be more sunny.

Proofread by Zhuang Wu