The most common mistake people make is to forget where they came from.

This sentence is appropriate for Mr. He, who is the first in the hot search.

Following the plagiarism incident, in the past few days, the top technology track Internet celebrity He has been scolded for being the first in the hot search.

Who is Mr. Ho?

A few years ago, he was just an unremarkable college student.

他家境普通，但就是靠著對科技的熱愛，發佈相關測評視頻，迅速走紅，在b站上有超1200萬粉絲，全網坐擁幾千萬粉絲。

The rollover was caused by an experience he shared on Weibo about an online ride-hailing driver asking for praise.

He said that in the past, when the driver asked him for praise, he would verbally agree, but he didn't order when he got out of the car.

Currently, other growth has been completed.

Unless the driver's attitude is so good that he really wants to fight, he will simply refuse and get out of the car and leave.

He is very proud of this transformation.

It is called a people-pleasing personality and a way to exercise sincerity and courage.

At a cursory glance, there seems to be no problem, and many people are disgusted by the act of asking for good reviews, but when you think about it, there is something wrong.

1. For the behavior of online car-hailing drivers asking for praise, he did not give praise at all before, and this time he not only did not give praise, but also refused in front of the driver.

2. The object he used to exercise his courage was not the strong, but the people at the bottom who begged for a living.

Therefore, it was his remarks that caused a huge heated discussion on the Internet and a lot of scolding.

"The service industry is not easy, why take other people's livelihoods to exercise your so-called thankless courage?"

Classmate He, who prides himself on being sincere and emphasizing that he comes from an ordinary family, may not have malicious intent in sending this statement, and it is indeed his inner thoughts.

But he couldn't imagine that these thoughts of his own were somewhat arrogant and superior.

If you encounter a driver with a poor attitude or poor service, you can not give praise or complain, but it is actually inappropriate to refuse the behavior of asking for praise in front of this group and glorify it as a way to overcome the "pleasing type" personality.

In fact, Mr. He and online car-hailing drivers are not the same kind of people?

As an Internet celebrity, doesn't he often ask at the end of each of his videos: Everyone likes, puts coins, and forwards?

His behavior is not fundamentally different from the behavior of online car-hailing drivers who ask for praise.

While asking fans to give them a thumbs up, they are so indifferent to the driver's request for praise, isn't this a proper double standard?

He is disgusted by the praise of ride-hailing drivers, so why can't we dislike his praise?

Indeed, many netizens have run directly to his video and used the "boomerang" style to imitate the precise counterattack:

"I used to watch videos and say I must like them, but I didn't click on them at all after quitting, which is my way of exercising sincerity and courage."

Why is the rollover so serious this time?

Because he didn't understand a logic:

往上拒絕才是拒絕討好，往下拒絕是叫欺軟怕硬。

There is nothing wrong with refusing to please this logic itself, but you do not achieve it by rejecting people who are stronger than you, but by trampling on the people at the bottom who are inferior to yourself, which is called bullying the weak and fearing the hard.

As netizens said, it's very simple not to please others.

When you interviewed Apple CEO Tim Cook, you bluntly said that Apple's products have been too poor over the years, isn't it also a refusal to please?

Why don't you do that?

Because he knows very well in his heart that it doesn't matter who you can't afford to mess with, and it doesn't matter who you step on.

The so-called refusal to please is really just a fig leaf for his lack of empathy.

Like classmate He, he doesn't dare to refute the capital upward, and he will embarrass the driver downward, which is not considered to exercise courage, this is clearly watching people put off the dishes.

In fact, if you think about it, why do online ride-hailing drivers ask for good reviews?

It is because according to the algorithm of the platform, if the praise rate is less than 95%, it will face a throttling.

Drivers have to run 10 more orders a day to make up for the loss of bad reviews.

A like that you don't think cares about is closely related to their income.

They're just a bunch of ordinary people who are trapped in an algorithm and want to feed their families.

Those of us who are from poor families know that it is not easy for online car-hailing drivers, as long as it is not particularly excessive, it is more or less understandable.

But as a top blogger who sells hundreds of thousands of videos and earns tens of millions, he has completely detached himself from this class, and he is completely incomprehensible.

The sadness of online car-hailing drivers, former college student He may be able to understand, but now he is full of superiority and no longer needs to endure hardships, so he can't empathize with ordinary people.

In fact, as an elite, he also came step by step from ordinary people.

He has also been looked down upon, and now he doesn't want to make an umbrella for others, but instead tears up other people's umbrellas and treats low-level workers from an arrogant angle, which is the fundamental reason why he was scolded.

Media person Hong Huang once said:

"China's elite has become completely ignorant of the lives of ordinary people."

Li Jiaqi, who is worth hundreds of millions of dollars, said to ordinary people, "Where is 79 yuan expensive, reflect on whether you don't work hard enough." ”

一條廣告35萬的羊毛月，嘲諷大學生“為什麼找不到工作，想整頓職場卻連職場都進不去。”

An economist ridiculed the laziness and stupidity of the peasants who sweated profusely in the fields, and that the peasants should all live in the cities.

Many celebrities and elites have long lost their empathy and will not look at problems from the perspective of ordinary people.

They like to point the fingers, but they have no idea what the average person is going through.

They think they have the truth about how the world works, but they never enter the world of ordinary people.

It's a kind of magic, but also a deep sadness.

In fact, the sense of superiority is like underwear, everyone has it, but you must not show it to others all the time, otherwise it will only make people feel disgusting.

And truly cultivated people will never write a sense of superiority on their faces.

There is a little story that left a deep impression on me.

In front of the cake shop, a beggar trembled and said to the clerk:

"I'm going to buy the cake, the smallest one."

The clerk saw that he was in rags and smelled bad, so he wanted to kick him out.

But the boss stopped it, and instead took out a small but delicate cake from the cupboard, respectfully handed it to the beggar, and bowed deeply:

"Thank you for your kind attention and welcome back again!"

The beggar was shocked, this was a treatment he had never had before.

Someone wondered, "Why are you so passionate about beggars?" ”

He replied:

"Although he is a beggar, he is also a customer. In order to eat our cake, he did not hesitate to spend a long time to ask for a little money, which is really rare, I do not personally serve him, how can I be worthy of his love? ”

The other party asked again:

"In that case, why take his money?"

He smiled and said:

"He's a guest, not here to beg, all he needs today is a cake and a respect."

This is respect and equal treatment from the heart.