Hello Teacher,

I noticed that there was a girl who seemed to have a crush on me. But whenever I tried to get closer to her and wanted to know more, she took the initiative to back off and deliberately kept her distance from me.

This baffles me. If she really likes me, even if it's just a crush, and now that she's got my attention and I'm trying to find out, why would she choose to stay away?

I really don't understand this kind of behavior.

In my opinion, even if she has a secret crush, now that I am actively approaching, it is equivalent to giving her a chance, why doesn't she grasp it?

Could it be that I was thinking too much, and her actions were not like my performance at all? Am I misjudged?

Although I was skeptical, I felt like it wasn't the case after re-verification. Therefore, faced with this situation, I myself was confused and did not understand why she did this.

I hope the teacher can help analyze this problem, thank you.

Your fans of Lost Aolin

Confused Aolin:

The situation you are talking about does exist, although it is less common. Some women do behave this way.

It's a woman's own problem, and it doesn't matter much to you. Of course, in the face of this situation, there is no need to think about it, as if it never happened.

Because it's the women who are in a hurry. If she really figured it out, there would be a series of actions next, and we would naturally understand when the time came.

That's the general idea. So why would a woman who likes you but deliberately alienates you do this? Usually because of these three points.

First: I was not ready, but I was discovered in advance, so I had to do it.

To put it simply, women actually have a crush on you at this time, but because you found out in advance, you know that it was originally a crush.

This kind of scene is awkward, and women have to take the way of alienating you to alleviate this embarrassment. However, after experiencing such embarrassment, women will naturally face it after adjusting themselves. At this point, maybe everything is clear.

For men, there is no need to be so entangled at this time, just wait quietly. Next, it's up to the woman to do it.

Second: Pure lack of self-confidence, dare not break through themselves.

This is the most common reason. Because women themselves are not confident, you may have found out now. Even if you don't notice it, she's still in this state.

It's hard for her to break through herself, and at most she has a crush on you. So, my heart is very entangled. In fact, she also wanted to take the initiative, but she just couldn't take this step.

We have to understand this complex feeling.

For men, if you happen to like the girl too, you can actually pursue her. Because doing so, on the one hand, is to give each other a chance, and on the other hand, it is to ease this state of women, which is equivalent to relieving her. In this case, you may be able to make a good story.

Emotional things are like this, if you can take the initiative to seize the opportunity, many times it is easy to reap happiness.

Of course, from a male perspective, the choice is yours. What you want to do, that's your freedom. Everything has to be combined with the reality of the situation. Don't do things you don't want to do in order to fall in love. In that case, you'll be the ones who will hurt you.

Third: Look at your specific reaction before making a decision.

Some women are very experienced in relationships. You could understand that she did it on purpose. Because I want to see how you react by such a move.

If your response is good, maybe she'll go after you in turn. If you don't react well, she will understand that you don't have a good impression of her, and she will give up on her own.

Therefore, women themselves have their own plans. On the face of it, it seems that this approach is somewhat incomprehensible. But if you think about it this way, you understand.

For this kind of woman with rich experience in love, their every move is effective, not just executed. Men themselves must understand this truth.

Of course, for men, there is no need to worry so much. Because no matter what women think, the final decision is yours. If you like it, fall in love with her; If you don't like it, just ignore her. This point is still relatively easy to grasp.

Just, don't dig into it. Because some men just want to break the casserole and ask for the end. Actually, there is no need. At this time, you still have to put away your curiosity. Emotional matters are not as complicated as we think. Until there is clarity, we would do well to remain silent. In this way, there will be no major problems.