Shenzhen's "rich man who is looking for a son with a lot of money" was scolded by netizens, and his ex-wife has a master

Shenzhen's "rich man with a lot of money" was scolded by netizens, and his ex-wife has a master

Updated on: 18-0-0 0:0:0

If you understand human nature, you will find that everything that is realistic is reasonable, and everything that is reasonable is realistic.

The rich man who was dismissed, and the ex-wife who was pitied for.

"The small man is victorious, and the big man is full of disaster."

This sentence is quite appropriate when applied to Xie Yue, who is now hotly discussed on the whole network.

Xie Yue - a Shenzhen billionaire who once offered a reward of tens of millions of sons;

今年3月成功找到走失24年兒子謝浩男、出手就送給兒子300萬大G的幸運老爸；

A successful man who has 7 factories and at least 0 properties in Shenzhen;

With the label of "success in finding children", we will start the transformation of live streaming and seize all the opportunities to multiply our wealth to the Nth power......

Xie Yue and his son Xie Haonan recognized each other at the scene (source network)

However.

Just when good luck and happiness, traffic and wealth all came together, Xie Yue was boycotted and scolded by netizens.

Netizens scolded him as a "chicken thief, drama spirit, scumbag, and no conscience", which once led to a cliff-like decline in the volume of his live broadcast room.

All of this stems from the fact that netizens found out after many researches: After the loss of his son Xie Haonan, Xie Yue divorced his wife who gave birth to 4 children for him.

married a strong female stepwife who was 13 years younger than him, and was accused of cheating in marriage.

At the reunion banquet where his son returned to recognize his relatives, Xie Yue did not let his son's biological mother and his ex-wife come forward, but let his stepwife regard herself as the mother of the children, preside over the overall situation, and be in the limelight.

Xie Yue and his stepwife not only ate the wave of traffic from their son's return, but also in the past long years, they lived a rich life, but the poor ex-wife made a living by delivering express delivery (also said to open an express station), and the ex-wife was suspected of suffering from depression.

Xie Yue and his stepwife at the reunion banquet for their son's return (source network)

What's even worse is:

Several children, including his son Xie Haonan, who had just been found, were closer to his wealthy father Xie Yue, and were quite estranged from his poor and sick biological mother.

Netizens sighed that the relationship between husband and wife, mother and son, is cold and snobbish to this point. As a result, netizens scolded Xie Yue as a "scumbag villain", while sympathizing with his ex-wife "really pitiful".

So much so that his ex-wife Xu Jianhua's social platform increased by six or seven hundred thousand fans overnight.

Although, Xu Jianhua himself denied that Xie Yue cheated in marriage, saying that the two were separated peacefully, her ex-husband was very good to the children, and the children were also very good to her, and she was just looking for something to do when she opened an express station.

Although Xie Haonan and his sisters in order to dispel the misunderstanding of netizens, they specially took their mothers on a trip during the Qingming Festival, and the mother and son 5 held hands and loved each other......

Xie Haonan traveled with his mother and sister (source network)

But netizens who fall into the mindset of "men become bad when they are rich, and their wives have always been persecuted" still don't believe it.

understands the empathy that netizens always get too deep into the play, but my opinion is different from everyone.

I think that the ex-wife who seems to be weak and miserable is actually an understanding person.

Her great wisdom is full of insight into human nature.

Calamity for the couple, separate for salvation.

The truth about the separation between Xie Yue and his ex-wife Xu Jianhua is that the relationship is broken, the relationship is exhausted, or the man wants to remarry and have a new son, these are difficult for us outsiders to determine.

But there is no doubt about one thing: the divorce of two people, "the loss of his son Xie Haonan", is a hurdle that cannot be bypassed.

The reason why Xie Haonan was abducted was that when Xu Jianhua took the child to a shopping mall near his home to play, he felt that the child was thinly dressed, so he put the child in the shopping mall, and ran home to get the child's clothes, but a thought turned into a lifelong hatred.

There is no mother in the world who loves her children and deliberately loses her children.

But the truth is:

In the disaster of "the loss of his son", Xu Jianhua fell into extreme guilt and self-blame, and always regarded himself as a sinner.

This "I'm guilty" mentality not only made her suffer from depression, but also made her give birth to two little daughters to Xie Yue after her son went missing.

She longed to lighten her guilt by having children.

When she found that childbirth could not save the marriage, she chose to let go - let the man marry a younger and more capable wife, and she lived with her little daughter.

In her hands, there must be unwillingness and helplessness, but it is also fulfillment and redemption - in her ex-husband, she is a "sinner" who lost her son and couldn't hold her head up.

Without him, she can slowly live like a person in the healing of time.

One of the truths that she would rather go to open a courier station than dwell on the rich man enjoying prosperity and wealth is that she needs to rely on her own busyness and reconstruction to complete self-placement and liberation.

She didn't even care how much wealth was distributed at the time of divorce, because her enemy was never a man, but a guilt-ridden herself.

If you understand her guilt, you will be able to understand the death of all couples in the world who "have lost their children" - the children are gone, and their fate as husband and wife is over.

She saw him, he saw her, all he saw was the face of the child who was gone.

In order to save yourself and save each other, separating may be the best option.

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Just like a male reader who once wrote to me, after accidentally killing his child while driving, he insisted on divorcing his wife and becoming a monk.

With such a resolute self-punishment, eat fasting and recite the Buddha, escape into the empty door, and repent and atone for his sins.

The enemy of each of us is never others, but ourselves.

The last hurdle that each of us can't pass is our own conscience.

Therefore, the essence of each of our choices is not the temptation or persecution of others, but the best choice we make in order to save ourselves.

This is what I understand as Xu Jianhua said "peaceful breakup": it has nothing to do with others, only about yourself.

Dad's closeness, Mom's estrangement.

One of the things that Xu Jianhua admired me was that when the whole network scolded Xie Yue, she stood up and said that her ex-husband was very good, her ex-husband's stepwife was very good, and the children were also very good.

Many people said that she was blackmailed by her ex-husband.

In fact, this is also her wisdom - she starts from the overall situation in order to safeguard the fundamental interests of the children.

When she divorced, she gave her two eldest daughters to her ex-husband, and she only took her younger daughter, which was also her wisdom.

Because children will eventually grow up, they need a lot of money and connections to complete their personal growth and transformation.

The children follow the rich ex-husband, or the children have a good relationship with the rich ex-husband, so that the children can get a share of the wealth cauldron of the ex-husband and the step-wife.

She doesn't care if she comes forward at the reunion banquet where her son returns, she doesn't care if the children call her stepwife "Mom", and she doesn't even care if the children are intimate with her......

In all this "don't care", there is the deep affection of a biological mother:

She doesn't care about the face and gains and losses of the "little me", she cares more about the future and pros and cons of the children.

Xu Jianhua and the children (source network)

As long as the ex-husband and step-wife are happy, as long as they are willing to help the children more, as long as the children can occupy a more advantageous position in the complex family relationship, she suffers a little bit of grievances, it is nothing.

Just like a divorced girlfriend of mine, she praises her second-generation ex-husband, and outsiders think that she is still unforgettable.

She smiled and didn't speak, turned to me and said, "Who still loves that old Deng, I'm not all for the sake of the child." ”

The mark of judging whether a divorced woman is smart or stupid is not to see how hard she and her ex-husband tear up, but to see whether she can quietly leverage the interests of her children.

A smart woman will push her children to her rich ex-husband and say good things about her ex-husband everywhere, it is not that she is being manipulated by her ex-husband, but that she is using her humanity for the benefit of her children.

Stupid women are reckless and competitive everywhere, and finally offend their rich ex-husbands and rich wives, and even the children are implicated.

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Xu Jianhua, who delivered the courier, is a person who understands.

With her courageous surrender, she pushed her children to a more open and prosperous life blueprint.

She is good for the children from the bottom of her heart.

She is willing to cooperate with her ex-husband in acting, because she knows that her appearance fee will all fall into the children's pockets in the end.

Mu Qiang's child,

A mixture of human nature.

In this incident, the lost eldest son Xie Haonan is now a very good person.

He knew that he was an abducted and trafficked child, studied hard at his adoptive parents' house, joined the army, was admitted to the double first-class, and is now studying for graduate school.

A lot of traits are in the genes.

For example, with a clear sense of vision, he is very obedient to his rich father.

Xie Haonan, who is doing research (source network)

After Xie Haonan successfully recognized his relatives, his praise for the rich father Xie Yue, the maintenance of the family, and the refutation of rumors by public opinion all showed his knowledge and intelligence.

and a grasp of human sophistication.

I wouldn't laugh at such a kid being snobbish.

I just wish him greater achievements in life with the help of his wealthy father's arm after he succeeds in finding his relatives.

If you know psychology, you'll understand:

The greatest characteristic of children before the age of 6 is to pity the weak, because they are weak themselves, so they feel sorry for all the weak.

And after the age of 12, especially after the age of 0, children are Mu Qiang, because they are eager to become stronger, so they seek strong support.

Xie Haonan and his younger sisters are all children who have grown up or are growing up, and they love their biological mother deeply, but it does not prevent them from admiring a rich father and a strong stepmother.

They still have a long way to go in life, and they need their parents and stepmothers to pave the way in an all-round way.

At this point, they coincide with their biological mother Xu Jianhua: what kind of ugliness is shaken, the family has to neatly hold the family's money bags.