My son Yuan, who is in kindergarten, got a certificate. I first learned about this from the class WeChat group. To say that I am not happy about this news is absolutely false. Although it is only a kindergarten, a certificate of merit represents the progress of the child, how can any parent not want his son to win the award? But compared with my son's award, I am more impressed by the change in my son's education method.

Yuan's Dadi Kindergarten will hold a flag-raising ceremony every Monday, and at the flag-raising ceremony, there is an indispensable ceremony that each class selects an outstanding baby for recognition. It's a shame to say that Yuan has been in the big class this year, but he only got a "progress baby" certificate in his memory. Every week, I see the teacher posting in the parent group that the child is rated as a "progressive baby" or "excellent baby", which makes me think: when will my own baby also have one? I remember the first time I received the certificate back when I was still in middle school, I was very happy when I came back from school that day, and I opened my schoolbag as soon as I entered the house, and happily took out the certificate and shouted: Mom, look! He still muttered in his mouth: It's me this week, I don't know who it is next week, I don't know if it's me or not? It made me laugh.

This is the second time I have received the award, and I thought that he seemed to be a little lacking in motivation to study lately, so I decided to go back in the evening and have a good chat with him. However, unexpectedly, when he was picked up from school, he didn't have the joy he imagined, and if I hadn't told him if he had won the award in the morning, he would have forgotten it. But when I mentioned the award, he immediately remembered it and said loudly: "Mom, I'll show you!" Then he didn't forget to tell me to keep his award certificate together. Thinking that in the morning he was still clamoring to ask for leave and refused to go to kindergarten, I joked with him: Fortunately, I didn't ask for leave and didn't be late today, otherwise you wouldn't have received the award. Yuan nodded earnestly. I then asked: Do you want to take leave from now on? Yuan shook his head desperately.

Psychologist William James said, "The deepest need of human nature is the desire to be appreciated and praised by others." "Praise and praise from parents are indispensable nutrients for children's growth. It is said that really excellent children are praised, and in the next week, when I saw that Yuan was emotional, or impatient with parent-child homework, I talked to him about the award certificate again, and told him, do you want to keep an "excellent baby"? That's not how "good babies" look. Especially when I saw him procrastinate and wanted to scold him, when I thought of the award, I said to him: "You are so surprised today!" I didn't expect you to be so good, and after class, Mr. Qiu also sent a letter to my mother to praise you, saying that you have made great progress. This positive words of encouragement were exchanged for Yuan's smug expression: "Mom, am I not very good!" "Well, as long as you keep it up, next week's excellent baby will still be you." After being tempted by me, Yuan was even happier.

Certificates, especially those in kindergartens, may not say anything, but we parents may also use them to praise our children and inspire their confidence. The self-confidence in the child's heart, after being praised by others, can be burned; The good habit of self-discipline can also be slowly developed under the nourishment of praise. Parents' praise and praise are the indispensable "fertilizer" for children to thrive, and just the right praise can really praise excellent children.

Children are little angels, as long as we usually find more good children, praise our children, children will be better and better, and there will be more and more awards.

(Zhu Shuangling)