Don't care what others think of you,

Because they don't even look at you.

That's a very straightforward statement.

We can't deny most of ours"Self"It's in someone else's hands.

But, we also have to understand. "Others" are definitely more concerned with themselves.

We need to get rid of the shame of presenting ourselves to others.

You are not married to a man,

You are married to a family.

- This is really painful for many people who are unhappy in their marriages.

And many more, such as-

You don't like everyone's obligations,

You have the freedom to hate anyone.

But for everyone,

You have to give basic respect,

Including people you hate.

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The best teacher is called "doing".

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As a mature person,

The measure of your growth is,

How many uncomfortable conversations you're willing to have.

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Step up your game

Whether exercising, accompaniment, or work,

It's not the quantity that matters,

It's about sticking to it.

Stick to doing a little bit every day,

stronger than anything else,

This is much more important than what you do occasionally.

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The surest way to succeed,

It's up to you to define success.

Shoot the arrow first,

And then at the place of the shot,

Draw a bull's-eye.

These little sentences are all derived from Kevin. Kelly's"Valuable Life Advice"。

That's right, it's the same Kevin who has written bestsellers such as "Out of Control", "Inevitability", and "What Technology Wants". Kelly, he inspired the tech bigwigs all over the world.

This book is 234 pages long, and it is full of aphorisms. There is no context, no commentary, and it is clean and concise.

It really was my afternoon dessert, no, an afternoon dessert for our whole family.

On Kelly's 68th birthday, he wrote 0 pieces of life advice to his children.

Some of them are his own perceptions, some are the laws that he has heard from others repeatedly, and some are wisdom from ancient times, all of which are in line with his own experience.

He shared the advice with family and friends and found it to be very popular.

They asked him to write more.

Since then, he has written a few articles every year on his birthday, and in a few years, he has saved 450 articles to form this book.

When it was published in China, he added 40 more.

- He has a relationship with China, and his wife is Chinese.

Develop a sense of aversion to mediocrity.

He spoke of mediocrity, not ordinary.

What is mediocrity?

Medioccrity is the ordinary moment after the ordinary, and you let yourself follow the automatic reaction.

When a colleague questions you, your automatic reaction is justification or anger.

If the child is disobedient, your automatic reaction is to yell......

And then?

And put a lot of energy into making up for the mistakes and troubles caused by automatic reactions......

That's mediocrity.

"Between stimulus and response, we also have the freedom and ability to choose how to respond."

Disgusted with mediocrity, we have to train ourselves to overcome automatic reactions.

As Kevin . What Kelly said –

Use your brain when managing yourself,

Be mindful when managing others.

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Don't be the best, be the only one.

There are a lot of sentences that I like, so I'll record a few more -

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Stay optimistic

This is equivalent to an increase in IQ by 25.

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Listening is an exceptionally powerful ability.

As you listen to your loved ones, keep asking them:

"Anything else?"

Until they say "no more".

You see—

Is it possible to write a long essay for every paragraph?

And—

To raise strong children,

To tell exactly what makes your home unique,

Strengthen your child's sense of belonging to the family.

Let the child be able to proudly say,

"That's how my family is."

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If you want to educate your children well,

can cut the amount of money you're prepared to spend in half,

But double the time you spend with your child.

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When a child

When I ask "why" endlessly,

The smartest answer is:

"I don't know, why do you think so?"

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Look ahead, pay attention to the direction,

And not the destination.

Stay on the right track,

You'll get where you want to go.

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Don't stand in line to eat a famous delicacy.

It's usually not worth it

It takes you so long

Wait time.

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When introduced to someone,

To make eye contact with the other person,

並數到四，

Or say to yourself, "I see you." ”

You will remember each other.

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Read to your child often

It's the best education they can get

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The best thing you can do for your child

It's about loving your spouse.

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The benefits of forming a habit are,

In action,

There is no need to make inner trade-offs.

No more energy expended to think

Whether or not to do this.

You just have to do it.

There are a lot of good habits,

From telling the truth to flossing.

We can think of ourselves as an AI made up of several neural networks.

So that's essentially a problem with neural network training.

We need to take the initiative to train ourselves a few good neural networks, that is, good habits, so that we can automatically respond correctly when we encounter relevant situations.

This is so important!

We can create an excellent self by developing good habits~