Dear female readers, in the world of feelings, we all yearn for a deep and lasting connection with that special someone.
We try to understand each other and capture each other's hearts, but we often get lost and confused.
For example, why can't you eat the man you like?
Today, I would like to talk to you about a method that may allow you to better "eat" a man - selective gratification.
Let me talk about it in detail so that we readers can better understand it.
In the minds of many women, it seems that as long as they invest enough love in a man, they can successfully keep his heart for a long time.
In fact, however, the real key is to "understand him".
It must be clear that men also have their own needs and desires.
When you can actually understand the thoughts that are hidden in his heart, he will develop a very strong sense of dependence on you.
For example, when he has a setback at work, perhaps what he needs is not a long talk of comfort, but just a quiet hug and patient listening.
It is necessary to "understand his exhaustion, understand his pressure, understand his unspoken emotions."
In this way, he will deeply feel that you are the one who understands him best, and not just the one who loves him.
Once you are able to do this successfully, then gradually he will become more and more inseparable from you.
It's like the warm harbor he finally found in the vast sea of people, giving him endless comfort and peace of mind.
He will find that your existence is so indispensable to him, and your understanding and understanding have become the most cherished treasure in his heart, so that he is closely attached to you in the world of feelings, and it is difficult to let go.
The so-called selective satisfaction,The implication is that you cannot respond to all the demands of the other party without principle.
It's like giving candy to a child, and if you give it without moderation, your child will soon stop cherishing the sweetness and even take it for granted.
In the world of feelings, this principle is also followed. As someone said, "Don't be responsive to his needs, but know how to be reserved at the right time."
For example, if he occasionally asks you for help with something, you can decide whether to agree to him or not depending on the situation.
If you always meet all his needs unconditionally, then over time, he may gradually lose his respect and cherishment for you.
However, if you say no once in a while, and then lend a helping hand to him at a critical moment when he needs it most, he will be more grateful and more aware of your importance.
It's actually a clever way of managing feelings. By properly grasping the degree of satisfaction and rejection, it is possible to maintain a balance in the dynamics of feelings.
Neither let the other person be despised by excessive satisfaction, nor let the other person feel disappointed by excessive rejection.
It's about making the relationship stronger and more vibrant.
It's like playing every note precisely on the emotional score, and together they play a harmonious and moving movement.
Let this feeling, under the guidance of the wisdom of selective satisfaction, continue to sublimate and bloom with more brilliant brilliance.
Even if you love a man deeply, you must not lose your original self. Understand that "you are yourself first and foremost, and then your lover."
Because only by maintaining our own independence can we maintain a clear mind and self-independence in personality when giving satisfaction to men.
So, you have to have your own life, develop your own hobbies, and manage your circle of friends.
Don't put all your energy into him, because doing so will not only make you lose yourself, but it will also put him under a lot of pressure.
When you can always be independent in the emotional world, he will definitely appreciate you more and more, and he will be deeply attracted to your unique charm.
At the same time, you will become more confident and happier.
Such a state will make the relationship between you more healthy and long-lasting.
Keeping to yourself means that you can still have your own piece of the world in your relationship.
You are free to pursue what you like and interact with your friends.
This will make you richer and more interesting instead of being a person who is completely attached to the other person.
You have your own thoughts, opinions, and values, and you are not easily swayed by others.
In this way, you will exude a unique light that will keep the other person fresh and curious about you at all times.
And because of this independence, you will have a stronger inner strength, be better able to cope with various challenges and changes in the relationship, and it will be easier to know what men really want?
Dear friends, selective satisfaction is not a calculation, but a wise way to get along. It can make us more calm and confident in our relationships, and it can also make men cherish us more. Of course, this does not mean that we have to deliberately play with our feelings, but we have to manage them with our hearts.