Raising a child is undoubtedly a long journey that is both a wisdom and a test of patience.

During this journey, many parents often feel tired and powerless, which often stems from the fact that they accidentally go wrong in the process of parenting.

For example, a friend reluctantly complained that her son asked for a red envelope on Mother's Day, and she was annoying when there was a small dispute at school. These seemingly trivial things are actually a direct manifestation of the lack of effective communication and understanding between parents and children.

In fact, when it comes to material giving, many parents tend to fall into a cognitive misunderstanding.

They naively believe that the more they give to their children, the happier they will be.

However, this is often not the case, and too much material satisfaction does not really bring lasting happiness to children.

Take my niece, for example, who grew up under the concept of "girls should be rich", and was used to being satisfied, and lost her temper at the slightest mishap.

This kind of "high-matched" material life made her lose her sense of responsibility for life and became extremely squeamish. Parents should understand that material satisfaction should be moderate, not unprincipled. Moderate material giving can allow children to learn to create and cherish without a sense of want, and at the same time understand the value of giving.

The low-level material giving is not stingy, but to cultivate children's sense of responsibility and gratitude, so that they can learn to cherish every hard-won gain.

Companionship is an integral part of a child's development.

On the road of growth, children not only need the time of their parents, but also need spiritual support and comfort. If parents do not devote enough time and effort to their children, children are likely to become rebellious or have low self-esteem due to a lack of attention. Rebellious, often the way they try to get the attention of their parents; Low self-esteem stems from a lack of inner security.

Unfortunately, some parents are not able to give their children psychological positive energy even though they are around them. This lack of companionship can easily make the child's mind sensitive and helpless.

Therefore, in family education, high-quality companionship is particularly important, which can make children deeply feel the love and attention of their parents, and help them establish a healthy psychological state on the road to growth.

Empathy is an extremely important part of the parent-child relationship.

Many parents often complain that their children are disobedient and unwilling to communicate, but the root of the problem is often the parents' own unwillingness to understand their children's emotions. Parents should learn to accept and understand their children's emotions, rather than simply reprimand and belittle. Empathy is not an empty "I understand you", but a complete emotional integration process. It consists of four levels: empathy, empathy, positive response and positive guidance.

Through empathy, the trust and emotional connection between parents and children will be strengthened, and the parent-child relationship will become more harmonious.

Therefore, in order to raise children who are responsible, grateful, and diligent and hardworking, parents must learn to "undermatch" materially and give moderately; In order for children to be healthy, positive and optimistic, parents need to spend more time with their children and give them psychological support. For your child to be close to you, parents need to understand their child deeply, feel their mood swings, and build a deep emotional connection with them.

Only in this way can we truly help children grow into a responsible, grateful, and hardworking person.

Therefore, moderate material satisfaction, high-quality spiritual companionship, and emotional empathy and understanding together constitute an indispensable element in the process of raising children.

As parents, we need to give our children materially and moderately, so that they can learn to create and cherish without a sense of want, and at the same time understand the meaning of giving.

Because accompanying children is not only a simple payment of time, but also a deep support and companionship of the soul. High-quality companionship allows children to truly feel the love and attention of their parents, thus helping them to build a healthy psychological state.

To sum up, raising children is a long and arduous journey, but as long as we love, accompany and understand with our hearts, we will be able to help them grow into a responsible, grateful, and hardworking person.

In this process, parents also need to constantly reflect on and adjust their parenting methods in order to find the most suitable parenting method for their family.