The four great talents in Hong Kong have their own strengths, and there is no doubt that Cai Lan knows how to eat the most.

He has a habit of asking someone for a meal before deciding whether to make further contact, whether he is making friends or discussing business.

Cai said:

You may not be able to see the face, but you can't escape the "demon mirror" of eating the face, you want to understand a person, and you can get a glimpse of what kind of person the other person is.

In many cases, character is reflected in the details of life.

And the performance at the dinner table is often an accurate invisible business card.

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Writer Li Yue told a story.

Once Li Yue was on a business trip, and a local friend had to invite her to dinner.

The restaurant is relatively high-end, and she has never seen many local cuisines.

The friend was very enthusiastic and strongly asked Li Yue to order a few dishes.

She was very embarrassed, she was not familiar with this restaurant, and she didn't know what dishes were delicious;

Second, I don't know how much money my friend is going to spend to invite her, the point is too good may exceed the budget, and the point is too bad and everyone can't eat well.

In the end, she reluctantly ordered two dishes that she thought would suit her taste.

As a result, my friend said that it was not delicious after reading it, so I changed it without saying a word.

Li Yue was puzzled, since this was the case, what was the point of letting her order food in the first place?

So-called:"Borrow a glimpse of the whole leopard, and convey the spirit at a glance."

It is very selfish to only think about one's own tastes and preferences, and completely ignore others.

People with high emotional intelligence will respect the choices of others and not be arrogant and selfish.

When eating, think about others, not just yourself:

Able to take care of other people's tastes and hobbies when ordering;

The AA system of dinner can take into account other people's consumption concepts and income levels;

When someone treats a treat, the dishes ordered must not be many or expensive, and they know how to stop in moderation......

Ordering food is a small matter, but it is not shallow.

Many people order vegetables, use their hearts, eat vegetables, and warm their hearts.

People who can order food have a sense of proportion and relaxation in doing things, and will not let others fall into embarrassment and embarrassment.

Such people, whether in life or work, have excellent communication skills and good popularity.

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言行顯層次

世界頂級禮儀大師威廉·漢森說：

"A good observer only needs to have a meal with you to understand your parents' life background and your educational background."

Every move, swallowed and swallowed, is the epitome of a person's upbringing, and the embodiment of inner cultivation is both simple and intuitive.

At the beginning of Nidec's establishment, it was only a third-rate company and could not recruit famous college students.

Chairman Yongshou Shigshin decided to relax the restrictions on academic qualifications, and even members of the public can participate in the interview.

結果來了兩百多位面試者，層層篩選後，還剩下十幾位。

In the final session, Eternal Shigenshin mixed in and invited them to a meal together.

Some people will flip around with chopsticks after each dish is served, and talk about the dish with food in their mouths:

"It's so light."

"This tempura is not authentic at all."

"Whoever orders so many vegetables and eats vegetables at such a high-end restaurant."

……

Some people wait for their favorite dishes to be served, and then bring them to their faces, with a posture of being the only one in the world.

At the end of the meal, many people asked when the final interview would start.

Yongshou got up and told them that it was over, and those who did not follow the rules during the banquet could leave.

In the square inch of the dinner table, there are hundreds of salient beings.

Literate people always speak softly when eating, and in public, they are considerate of the feelings of others.

I will not complain and blame the waiter loudly because I am not satisfied with the dish.

When speaking, he will also take into account the feelings of others, and will not make jokes without a sense of proportion.

The interaction between people is inevitably staggered, and it is indispensable to push the cup and change the lamp.

True upbringing is hidden in a small dining table, hidden in the usual three meals a day.

The subtleties are seen in the style, and the millimeters are determined.

At the dinner, what can really make people feel happy is not the grade of the meal, but the level of people.

03

Wine tastes character

A real estate tycoon told a story in an interview.

He once worked overtime until late at night and went to a restaurant to eat alone, and there was a group of drinkers at the next table, drinking and making noise, and the real estate tycoon suddenly heard his name.

“我昨天剛和***喝過酒，說要投資我兩千萬。”

He looked back and was a little impressed by the man, but he never talked about investment.

The big guy smiled dumbly and silently blacked this person in his heart.

People who drink wine and blow cowhide to the sky have no way to mouth, and their character is not credible.

People of insight can see the subtleties through the wine, gain insight into the character, and know the use of people.

酒量淺卻愛逞能，三杯下肚爛醉如泥，醜態百出者，為人輕浮，不能交；

Those who can drink but pretend not to drink, and do everything possible to persuade others to drink, are insidious and cunning people, and cannot use it;

會喝酒，酒品好，知分寸，懂進退，對別人不勸酒者，委以重任。

People who are really good at drinking and can drink know who they are drinking with, to what extent they should drink, what to say through wine, and what they can't say.

The performance at the wine table reflects a person's character.

Whether a person is worthy of deep friendship, whether he is worthy of trust, whether he is worth entrusting his life, often knows by drinking with him.

04

Writer Su Xin wrote a paragraph in the article:

"Have you ever noticed, all the people who take a taxi together and sit next to the driver, the people who eat together and grab the bill, and the people who buy water and snacks for everyone when they go out to play, most of them will make a difference, because this kind of person has a big pattern and knows how to be willing.

On the contrary, those who hide when it is time to spend money will hardly make a big profit even if they have a small amount of money. ”

深以為然。

There was once a colleague who was nicknamed "Brother Runaway".

Every time we have a dinner together, when it is time to check out, he can always receive a phone call on time for more than ten minutes.

When we settled the bill, he just came back, and muttered, "Why don't you wait for me to come back and pay for it, next time you will definitely let me please." ”

Everyone tacitly knew it, and they couldn't tear their faces, but they didn't want to call him at the dinner.

Later, he resigned to work on new media alone, and he also recruited us together.

But we know what he eats, and no one wants to follow him.

Some time ago, when I had dinner with old friends and talked about "Brother Runaway", I thought that he had seized the opportunity of the rapid development of new media and became a big boss.

A colleague in the know sneered and said, "Still a big boss? I'm delivering food now. ”

After a closer look, I learned that although he seized the opportunity of the rapid development of new media, he deducted employee benefits and squeezed the interests of partners, which led to the studio's reputation getting worse and worse, and it soon went out of business.

I suddenly understood the saying: the pattern determines the ending.

Although some people have flexible minds and are good at drilling, they are actually just clever, and do not have the overall pattern and wisdom of life.

If he only wants to make a profit for himself, and does not care about the interests of others, there will inevitably be no one to cooperate with him for a long time.

Really smart people know how to share benefits, are good at seeking greater development, and earn what they earn.

Those who take the initiative to pay are not stupid than anyone else, they don't calculate those small gains and losses, but they inadvertently gain too many big things.

Such as friendship, such as word of mouth.

The ancients had clouds:A wise man will be obscure in his little things; Those who are ignorant will be observed in small things.

People who are too shrewd think they have taken advantage, but in fact, they have been suffering from the loss of the pattern.

What escaped is Shan, and it is also the way to the future.

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Ma Weidu's son once invited a friend to his home for dinner, but after eating, Ma Weidu warned his son:

"You'd better not have a deep friendship with this friend."

Ma Weidu explained: You can see what kind of person he is from his appearance.

"You see that he has a habit of picking up vegetables, he likes to insert chopsticks into the dish and turn it over, pull it twice to pick up his own dishes, and he doesn't care about others at all, this kind of person is very selfish."

Later, as expected, this friend forgot his righteousness for profit and abandoned him.

Teacher Chen Danqing has a good saying:

"The so-called upbringing, the so-called character, all depends on the small things."

If you want to know whether a person is worthy of deep friendship, don't look at his fully armed appearance, but look at the most trivial places in ordinary life.