We often say that the essence of survival is to learn to truly love oneself.

The reason for this is that as we all know, only those who truly know how to love themselves can move towards happiness on the journey of life.

But how can you truly love yourself?

In fact, there is only one key word to comprehend: renunciation.

As the philosophical ideas depicted in the book "The Sea of Life":

“人生的高境界，並非取決於洞察多少事物，而在於能夠超脫多少紛擾。 ”

Life is not only based on our clear knowledge and deep understanding to appear wise.

Rather, we can be rooted in the soil of the present, bravely let go of our burdens, and disconnect from distractions and greed.

Only by treating oneself and one's life in this way can we keep moving forward and improving on the right path.

After all, life is never a process of moving forward with a heavy load, and only by mastering the wisdom of "breaking" can we travel lightly, so that we have the energy to truly love ourselves.

Disconnect from unhelpful mental exertion

I'm sure everyone has had the experience of feeling extremely tired despite not doing anything for the day.

If you have experienced this, then it is likely that you have fallen into the pain of mental exhaustion.

Once you fall into this kind of pain, life is like a quagmire, and it is difficult to extricate yourself.

Yu Hua once said: "Mental internal friction comes down to thinking too much. ”

Many times we are overly sensitive to the words and actions of others, and we think about it repeatedly.

even involuntarily drilled the tip of the bull's horns, constantly replenished his brain, and finally fell into unwarranted suspicion, making himself panicked.

But the truth may be that others don't think and treat you the way you think they are.

You may end up finding that everything you're struggling with doesn't actually mean anything.

You need to understand that it is you who have been tormenting you.

As mentioned in the book "Black Sky Bird": "The biggest obstacle in front of you is only yourself." ”

So, instead of trapping yourself in a cycle of pain, learn to disconnect from these senseless delusions.

Cultivate a blunt sensitivity to life, and the academic conference is a little "confused".

Reduce unnecessary stretches and ease your worries.

Everyone wants to live a happy life and should not allow themselves to be the biggest obstacle to happiness.

Only by disconnecting from distracting thoughts and refusing internal friction can we treat ourselves well and leave ourselves a free space to breathe.

Disconnect from false relationships

As we get older, we become more aware that many of the relationships that seem close are actually very fake.

This fake relationship, built on interests, may seem strong, but it can quickly break down as soon as a conflict of interest arises.

Therefore, in the complex interpersonal interactions, we need to learn to distinguish between what is false and what is true friendship.

For false relationships, it is necessary to stop losses in time, and even if it may offend people, it is necessary to decisively cut off such false connections.

And for true friendship, we also need to be sensible, cherish and not give up.

As Franklin put it:

"True friends are precious treasures who can elevate your spiritual state and enrich your life."

True friendship is like a flower that blooms forever, bringing fragrance to our lives.

People who have true friendship will have a full spiritual world, a happier life, and a more complete life.

And these benefits and goodness cannot be brought about by false relationships.

Therefore, learn to disconnect false relationships and stay away from people who are not in harmony with us.

We must even be brave enough to refuse those villains and bad guys from intruding into our lives in time.

In this way, you will be able to protect yourself and eventually gradually achieve the life and state of life you want.

Disconnect from past obsessions

What people fear most is obsession.

Obsession is like a heavy stone.

If you carry it all the time, you will inevitably be dragged down and even scarred.

A person who is obsessed too deeply cannot be happy in his life, let alone happy.

You have to understand that there are some attachments, and the more you hold on, the more painful they become.

Just like the tight spell on Sun Wukong's head, every time it is triggered, it is painful.

If you want to get rid of this pain, you must learn to let go of those past obsessions.

American psychologist Harriet Lerner once said:

"We can't change the past, but we can change how the past affects us."

Since what has already happened is a foregone conclusion, no matter how hard you try, you can't change it.

And you have to recognize that the pain and sorrow of those past has long since dissipated.

No matter how much you try to find excuses or justifications to cover it up, you can't change its essence.

Instead of letting those obsessions that shouldn't exist continue to torment us, we should learn to let go, disconnect, and enjoy life in time.

Your life is passing, and you only have one life in it.

Only by letting go of obsessions can you move forward easily, live a fulfilling life, and give yourself a richer life experience.

Douglas Macyaser once said:

"To let go of obsession is to give yourself a new chance in life."

If you want to get a chance to happiness.

Then, it is necessary to break the obsession with the past.

Only in this way will we not waste the present time that should be our happiness because of an unhappy past.

Life is a spiritual journey that aims to make us happier and happier.

Only by disconnecting right and wrong, leaving good memories and surrounding yourself, to feel the rare happy moments in life.

In this way, by cutting off bad factors, leaving unsuitable people, releasing past obsessions, and learning to be kind to yourself, you can finally cherish the present, live a wonderful life, and live the rest of your life well.