Life is a long and complex journey, and in the process, each of us is constantly learning, growing, and correcting ourselves.

However, on the road to growth, there are often delusions that can mislead our behavior and judgments, which can affect our relationships and career development.

This article will explore three common misconceptions in life: mistaking pampering as capital, mistaking meanness for honesty, and mistaking offside for dutifulness.

By deeply analyzing the nature of these illusions, we can gain a clearer understanding of ourselves and the world, and thus make more informed choices.

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Mistaking pampering as capital

In the process of many people's upbringing, especially in the family environment, excessive pampering often causes individuals to misjudge their own abilities and values.

When a person is accustomed to being pampered, he may mistakenly regard this pampering as a long-term capital, believing that this pampered state can be unconditionally converted into social success and smooth interpersonal relationships.

Pampering is not a long-term capital.

Although the pampering of the family can provide a certain sense of security, it does not directly translate into the ability to solve real-world problems.

When these people enter society and try to establish themselves in the workplace or other social settings, they may find that the outside environment is not as tolerant and inclusive as the family.

This transition from pampering to reality often brings them great psychological pressure and frustration.

To avoid this illusion, individuals need to learn to think for themselves and increase themselves.

Understand that pampering is just an expression of emotion in the family environment, not a master key to solving all problems.

Individuals should strive to develop their own independence and problem-solving skills rather than relying on the pampering of others.

Accumulating real social capital through self-improvement and practical actions is the key to getting rid of this illusion and achieving personal growth.

2

Mistake being mean

Frankness and outspokenness are valuable qualities in interpersonal communication, as it helps people communicate ideas quickly and clearly, saving time and energy.

However, some people mistake meanness and rudeness for a sign of honesty, believing that it shows off their individuality and straightforwardness.

This behavior is not only easy to hurt others, but also to damage one's own image and relationships.

刻薄不等於率真。

True honesty should be based on respect and understanding for others, not on the straightforward expression of ignoring the feelings of others.

Honest people know how to be honest while also taking into account the impact of the way they communicate on others.

They are able to find a balance between honesty and sensitivity, and communicate their opinions effectively without causing unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts.

To correct this delusion, it is necessary to improve self-awareness and emotional intelligence, and learn to find the right balance between candor and caution.

When expressing personal opinions, you should give more consideration to the way you say your words and the feelings of the other party, and avoid the negative effects caused by mean and bitter language.

By cultivating good communication skills and interpersonal skills, you can communicate with others more effectively and build strong and harmonious social connections.

3

錯把越位當盡職

In the workplace or in any organization, everyone has their own roles and responsibilities.

However, some people, in order to show their ability and presence, often go beyond their responsibilities and step into areas or tasks that do not belong to them, mistakenly believing that this is a sign of due diligence.

This excessive involvement may not only interfere with the work of others, but may also cause discord and conflict in the workplace.

Offside is not due diligence.

True due diligence is to do the best in one's own area of responsibility, rather than gratuitously intervening in other people's areas of work.

A person who understands their roles and responsibilities will focus on their tasks and demonstrate their abilities by improving the efficiency and quality of their personal work.

At the same time, they will respect the scope and function of others and avoid unnecessary friction caused by excessive interference.

To correct this misconception, individuals need to be clear about their roles and responsibilities, learn to respect the work of others, and maintain appropriate professional boundaries.

At work, you should demonstrate your ability by improving the quality and efficiency of your work, rather than pursuing superficial results by offside.

Understanding and respecting the boundaries of teamwork helps to build a good working atmosphere and interpersonal relationships.

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Illusions in life are often formed in specific circumstances and experiences, and they affect our judgment and behavior.

Recognizing these misconceptions and adjusting your way of thinking and acting in a timely manner is the key to personal growth and professional success.

Although the three major illusions of mistaking pampering as capital, mistaking meanness as honesty, and mistaking offside as dutiful, these three delusions are common, but as long as we take them seriously and make positive adjustments, we can achieve better results in life and work.

Through continuous self-reflection and learning, we can understand ourselves more clearly and truly achieve all-round personal development.