Dietary problems have a crucial impact on children's physical development, so parents are very concerned about their children's eating problems, hoping that children can eat well and take in enough nutrients to grow up strongly.

However, in terms of how to let children "eat well", different parents have different practices, some parents like to "feed", and some parents like to use other ways to promote their children to eat more on their own.

The difference between children who are "fed" and those who "eat by themselves" from an early age is obvious when they grow up

"How can a child not be fed when he eats?" When it comes to feeding children, Granny Zhang said very directly that a responsible parent should feed his child, and if he does not feed his child, he is not responsible.

"How can a child know how to eat by himself when he is so young?" In Granny Zhang's view, it seems that parents who don't feed their children are just "arguing" with their children, or they don't realize that they are already parents.

Therefore, when Granny Zhang helped her son and daughter-in-law take care of the baby, she always fed the child.

"You see, how strong the child is brought by me", indeed, the baby who was fed by Granny Zhang all day long looks very healthy, "I just said that the child has to be fed." ”

Unlike Granny Zhang, when the neighbor's Xiao Cai was taking the child, he only fed the child during the child's supplementary food period, and when the child had the ability to eat independently, he would no longer feed the child.

"You can't do this, you don't feed the child well, the child's body grows slowly", when Granny Zhang had nothing to do and Xiao Cai talked about the child, she seemed to be very enthusiastic to remind Xiao Cai, "If you don't have time, give me the child at the meal, and I will feed you, first, they are all neighbors, and secondly, I have nothing to do except take care of our grandchildren." Granny Zhang said very enthusiastically.

Regarding Granny Zhang's kindness, Xiao Cai said "I understand it", the child is her own, or bring it yourself, how can it be hard to be a mother.

However, although Xiao Cai said so, he actually disagreed with Granny Zhang's feeding behavior in his heart.

Part of the reason why Xiao Cai doesn't feed her children comes from Xiao Cai's own childhood experience.

When he was a child, Xiao Cai was often fed, but as soon as Xiao Cai was about to eat, his mood unconsciously became bad, and he didn't want to eat much when he saw things, and even had a great fear of eating.

And this psychological shadow did not slowly subside until Xiao Cai went to high school and lived in college.

It can be said that Xiao Cai is very aware of the psychological impact of "feeding" on herself, so she doesn't want her children to have this experience.

In the blink of an eye, both children have grown up.

So, what is the difference between children who are "fed" from an early age and children who "eat by themselves" from an early age, and children who grow up?

Gap 1: Different states of development

Children who are often fed by their parents tend to be more obese, because many parents are worried that their children are "not really fed".

Therefore, they will constantly chase after the child to eat, which leads to the child's frequent overeating, and the situation of overnutrition occurs.

And those nutrients gradually accumulate in the body, leading to obesity in the child. Children who take the initiative to eat by themselves are generally relatively normal.

In addition, because obesity can cause a variety of diseases, it is also a potential cause of many "wealth diseases".

Therefore, children who are fed by their parents to a certain extent are generally not in good health, and this situation will gradually worsen over time.

In short, children who eat on their own are relatively healthier, while children who are fed are relatively less healthy.

Gap 2: Different eating habits

Although they are all eating, there is a world of difference between children eating by themselves and being fed by their parents.

Children who eat on their own are born out of their own instinctive need for nutrition.

Therefore, they are often enthusiastic at the dinner table, take the initiative to eat, and have a positive perception of eating.

On the other hand, children who are fed are in a state of passive feeding for a long time, and their enthusiasm is difficult to be mobilized, and they have a negative attitude when eating, and even resist food.

In the long run, children who are fed are more likely to have picky eating and anorexia, and are also easily distracted and difficult to concentrate when eating.

Children who eat independently from an early age can better grasp the rhythm of eating, develop healthy and regular eating habits, and lay a solid foundation for good health.

Gap 3: Self-confidence is different

In daily life, it is not difficult to find that children who eat by themselves tend to have stronger self-confidence than children who are fed.

For children who eat on their own, from the moment they learn to hold a spoon and eat independently, they have successfully mastered a life skill.

Every time they finish a meal independently, it is a small victory on the road to growth, and they gain a full sense of accomplishment and honor in the process, and this self-confidence also takes root.

On the other hand, children who are fed by their parents not only miss the opportunity to learn life skills such as using utensils, but also find it difficult to experience the sense of accomplishment brought by independent eating due to the long-term work they have been working on their behalf.

In such a state for a long time, they often lack self-confidence in the face of new challenges, and their inner confidence and self-confidence are obviously insufficient compared to children who eat independently.

If you don't feed the food, and the child doesn't eat it himself, what should I do?

Many parents admit that they know that there are many benefits to letting children eat independently. But the reality is very helpless, and the child is unwilling to eat by himself at all.

If parents don't feed, the child will be hungry, and it will affect the child's normal development, what should I do?

In fact, it is not complicated to solve this problem, and parents can guide their children to fall in love with independent eating by doing the following three points.

(1) Parents should pay attention to maintaining the diversity of ingredients, and learn more different cooking skills and methods, master richer recipes, and cook for their children every day, so that children will have more appetite in the face of different foods.

(2) The taste and texture of the meal should be suitable for the child's acceptance. For example, when the child is very young, he should not make spicy, sweet, fatty and other dishes, and he also needs to ensure that the child's chewing ability can control the meal. This allows the child to eat happily and avoid digestive problems.

(3) Provide a good dining environment for children, including preparing special tableware for children, setting a good example for children, and establishing a suitable catering scene for children, so as to help children develop a good habit of focusing on eating.

Educator Sukhomlinsky once said: "What children try to do when they grow up, they should be allowed to do it, and give children an environment for free development to help children grow better." ”

The same is true when it comes to children's meals.

Feeding may be a short-term solution, but in the long run, it deprives children of the opportunity to explore and grow independently.

Therefore, it is recommended that parents should actively cultivate their children's ability to eat independently when appropriate.

Let children enjoy food at the same time, exercise their ability, gain health and self-confidence, parents also have peace of mind, why not!

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