You still remember Han Anran, right?

was jokingly called "the only marriage evaluation blogger on the whole network" by netizens, only 26 years old, but the richness of his life experience made most people unreachable.

At the age of 6, he was addicted to plastic surgery, and he had more than 0 surgeries on his whole body, and he had 0 nose repairs alone.

Married 3 times, divorced 0 times, bring these people together, and you can get together at a table.

gave birth to the first child and started the live broadcast; The day after giving birth to the second child, the live broadcast was launched again, and her husband Song Haoran held the child to sell goods.

Recently, she was getting a divorce again, accusing her husband Song Haoran and her mother-in-law in the live broadcast room-

婆婆在彩禮上厚此薄彼，大嫂18.8萬元，自己只有8.8萬元；

The mother-in-law is partial to her granddaughter Youmi, which is not good for the little pig sister;

Faced with this situation, her husband Song Haoran chose to stand on his mother's side, saying: "Between you and my mother, I will only choose my mother." ”

But things soon turned around.

Song Haoran denied the divorce, saying that the contradictions were complicated, and he would try his best to solve the contradictions between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the problem of parenting.

No matter where Han Anran's marriage ends up, and no matter how many turmoil there will be in her life in the future, as a woman and a mother, I have 3 very intuitive feelings and want to talk to you.

01

A girl from a bad family of origin is prone to emotional suffering

Han Anran comes from a restructured family. After her parents divorced, she followed her mother to remarry to a new home.

The impression of her classmates is: "Not bad for money, I have changed several Apple mobile phones a month." ”

But she has a very bad temper, and she throws things and loses her temper at every turn, especially after learning that her mother is pregnant with her second child, she feels that she doesn't love herself anymore.

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When her sister was born, she fought against her sister and fought with her parents, causing trouble in the family.

After Han Anran became famous on the show, he began to toss all kinds of things, one second he was still showing affection, the next second he was fighting and breaking up, and he got married frequently, and each marriage did not exceed 1 years, and it ended in divorce.

Now the fourth marriage with Song Haoran has a long shelf life.

Looking back at her life in the past 16 years, although she has rich experience, she is still a 0-year-old immature girl in her bones.

She lacks the warmth of her family and does not have a high level of education. Therefore, under the domination of insecurity, you can only rely on one man after another as instinctively.

She always falls in love with the men around her easily. A few sweet words and a little gift make me feel like I have met the "love of my life".

As everyone knows, love is a very luxurious thing, which requires the collision of hearts and the verification of time.

Her definition of love is very superficial, equating money with love, and the way to express her love is to show off a lot of luxury goods and go out to eat and drink.

Some people criticized Han Anran, saying that she was a love brain. There are also suspicions that she suffers from emotional hunger.

What is the situation, as outsiders, it is difficult for us to judge, but one thing is certain: the unfortunate girl from the original family has to take a lot of detours emotionally and suffer a lot of hardships that should not be suffered.

02

The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a fatal injury in marriage

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may be the most difficult problem in the world to solve.

According to a survey, nearly half of the divorced couples in China's divorce are caused by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Han Anran's accusation this time pointed directly at the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and Song Haoran's reaction was also consistent with that of most men in real life: standing on his mother's side, rather than protecting his wife.

On the one hand, the mother-in-law has no sense of boundaries and intervenes too much in the life of the young couple.

In particular, since ancient times, China has paid attention to the concept of a big family, so many old people who are deeply influenced by traditional concepts believe that their son's home is their own home.

Many mothers-in-law have this mentality, and their sons and daughters-in-law's rooms can enter as much as they want; The relationship between the son and daughter-in-law was closer, so he cried that he married his daughter-in-law and forgot his mother; even interferes with how people spend money and how to raise babies......

On the other hand, the husband is unclear, so that the parent-child relationship between himself and his mother is above the relationship between husband and wife.

But Han Anran's luck is that Song Haoran quickly realized the harm of this practice, chose to stand with her, and decided to arrange for his mother to return to his hometown.

No matter what the follow-up is, at least for now, Song Haoran has done not to be invisible.

As Professor Gottman, the "Pope of Marriage", noted:

"Husbands and wives need to build a sense of 'we' or unity. Husbands must be on the wife's side, not their mother's side, so that they are better off and let the family know that they and their spouse are close family. ”

And this is also the attitude of the pillow person that many women need.

03

Marriage is not child's play, and you should be cautious no matter how you choose

Netizens always ridiculed Han Anran as a "marriage evaluation blogger", envied her for daring to love and hate, and felt that it was very courageous for her to mention divorce when she was unhappy.

But I still want to say that marriage is not child's play, and you should be cautious about marriage or divorce.

Especially for Han Anran, she has 2 children.

She herself grew up in a restructured family, deeply affected by her parents' unhappy marriage, and became rebellious because she hated her mother's remarriage, and gradually came to her current situation.

If she is still willful and divorces hastily if she doesn't agree, then for her 2 daughters, she will also experience a changing and chaotic family environment, and her stepfather will pop up anytime and anywhere......

Is this kind of growth environment really good? The answer is self-explanatory.

The child is innocent. So I also hope that Han Anran can truly realize the responsibility of marriage.

Since you have chosen the other party, you must take this relationship seriously and take the family you have formed.

The chickens and dogs of life are in pieces, and they face each other hand in hand, rather than choosing to walk away.

Source: Egg mother accompanies the baby