Recently, Han Geng and Lu Jingshan's new dynamics are really a bit "hot"-
In the latest season of the newly launched veteran husband and wife variety show "Wife's Romantic Trip", the two really showed their affection, which amazed the audience.
After all, whether it was the official announcement of their relationship, marriage, or the crystallization of love, they did not escape the discussion of everyone's blessings and doubts.
After all, no matter how you look at it, these two people don't look like people from the same world, but they are directly in love, married, and have children, which is really shocking.
However, 5 years have passed, and the two are still sweet, and even their daily relationship is much beyond the "imagination" of outsiders, which makes people sigh and be surprised.
There is such a scene in the program "Wife's Romantic Trip":
Han Geng wore an apron and stir-fried spatula in the kitchen, while Lu Jingshan sat cross-legged at the mahjong table in the living room, playing mahjong with the elders and laughing about family life.
And Grandpa Han commented sharply:"This is a typical Northeast man, how can he not cook?"
This scene was laughingly called by netizens"The ultimate mix and match of a son-in-law in the Northeast and a daughter-in-law in Hong Kong"。
After that, Lu Jing hid it from Han Geng, and personally planned a small surprise in the Russian restaurant, and the puzzle on the clue card was designed by her, and the starry sky light string in the farmhouse courtyard was arranged by her overnight.
When he pushed the door and saw all this, the Northeast man, who called himself the "straight man of steel", had red eyes:"I thought romance was my task, and it turned out that she had stolen my script a long time ago."
Later, Han Geng also responded to his wife's affection with his heart - he found a way to "resurrect" Lu Jingshan's late parents with AI technology.In the cyber virtual world, he silently said the sentence "I love you" by crossing life and death.
Back to the beginning of the relationship between the two, this relationship was not favored by the outside world.
It is difficult not to suspect that the two have very different growth backgrounds, and the culture and three views of the two after falling in love collide.
Coupled with the fame gap between them at that time and Han Geng's past scandals and controversies, outsiders put a big question mark in their hearts.
Unexpectedly, the most unoptimistic pair seems to be "the most competitive": the relationship between the two is actually more natural and smooth than many people imagine.
Since the official announcement of their relationship, there has been no hype or scandal, and they are like many ordinary people, loving passionately and firmly.
The marriage between Lu Jingshan and Han Geng is just one of the thousands of lights, but it illuminates a truth:
Difference is never a minus of love, but a root system that allows two souls to grow symbiosis in the collision.
Someone asked:"Can two people who are very different really be happy?"The answer is hidden in the parable of simplicity:
“兩塊一包的鹽能配上萬元一桌的菜，但若少了鹽，盛宴也不過是難以下咽的模型。”
The most precious thing in marriage is never to eliminate differences, but to learn to boil differences into nutrients that nourish the relationship.
Just like the northerners are obsessed with biting spring cakes in the beginning of spring, and the southerners are guarding the winter solstice to cook rice balls;
When two souls growing back to back decide to join hands, they must know how to leave a light for each other in their respective solar terms.
Those contradictions bred by cultural differences are just sandpaper handed by life - smoothing the edges and corners, but making the sincerity more and more transparent.
True tolerance is not a compromise that seeks perfection, but an understanding of initiative and revival.
There is a concept of "emotional translation" in psychology:When your partner's mindset is across the Pacific Ocean from you, what you need to do is not to reclaim land, but to learn to express love in the other person's language.
I met a couple whose wife was accustomed to digesting emotions with silence, and the husband always used an American-style straight ball to express concern, and later they invented the "emotional barometer" to write directly about their feelings at the moment, without the need to guess.
This kind of tacit understanding with clumsiness is more moving than any mountain alliance and sea oath. After all, the highest level of love is not to change the other person, but to find a third balance in differences.
The deepest practice in marriage is to temper the conflict into a contract of love.
Just like the rigor of Chinese education meets the freedom of Western-style stocking, the end point of the dispute is not victory or defeat.Instead, they jointly explored the "elastic band education method" - both rules and circles, and they can also be freely swayed.
And those couples who were once predicted to "not be able to go on" often develop higher wisdom in the course of their years.
They understand that:The so-called cultural differences may be more like a puzzle game.
This process of mutual decoding makes marriage no longer a simple two-person turn, but a mutual visit between two civilizations.
Someone asked, "Isn't such a marriage tiring?" But "real exhaustion is to live like an iceberg that refuses to melt." ”
Those rifts caused by cultural collisions will eventually be coated with time and become the most unique annual rings in marriage.
This may be the gift of difference to marriage – it allows us to discover another untamed self in the cultural territory of the other person.
It's like two trees with entangled roots, each growing towards a different sky, but sharing the same spring deep in the soil.
Don't be afraid of those love with accents, you have to believe that all the hearts that need to be translated will be boiled into an unspoken understanding in the slow stew of time.
After all, marriage is never about looking for perfectly matched gears, but about letting two souls with raw edges give birth to a warm light in polishing each other.
Difference is not the end of love, but teaches us -The real consummation is never to eliminate differences, but to embrace each other over the mountains and mountains, and make the mountains and seas the way home.