My cousin Xiaoyu had just given birth to a baby, and she shared some interesting stories with me two days ago.
She said that when she returned to the ward after giving birth, when the nurse put her infant daughter beside her, the heart-rending child, who was crying a second ago, suddenly quieted down.
Not only that, when Xiao Yu leaned his face over, the baby's eyes squeezed out a slit hard, and then glanced at it with a smile.
Xiaoyu said that the feeling was like a baby telling himself: Mom, I know it's you.
Later, she asked me, they all said that from the beginning of pregnancy, a magical connection has been established between the mother and the baby, is it this internal connection that allows the baby to accurately recognize the mother?
Although this is somewhat "metaphysical", it cannot be denied that even when the baby can't speak, they can indeed recognize their mother in various ways.
This innate ability to discern is also the warmest bond between mother and child.
So today we will talk about how babies "recognize" their mothers, even if the children can't express them, but they must know what to do.
During the pregnancy period in October, although the baby can't see the five fingers and the body organs do not have any ability, they are very familiar with the mother's heartbeat.
And the rhythm of the mother's heartbeat can make the fetus feel safe and comfortable.
Psychologists have done corresponding experiments before:
The researchers asked newborns to listen to different heartbeat sounds, and found that when the mother's heartbeat rhythm was played, the baby cried less and fell asleep more easily.
The well-known "kangaroo care" on the Internet is based on this.
It means that if the premature baby is placed in the mother's arms so that they can hear the mother's heartbeat, then the child's breathing, body temperature and mood will become more stable.
Therefore, as a mother, if the child will cry in the future, you may wish to hold him in her arms and let him listen to the most familiar rhythm of life, which can play a better role in comforting.
As we all know, the baby is a "little myopia" when he is born.
Their vision is blurry, black and white, and they can only see near objects.
Although their vision is impaired, they have a very sensitive sense of smell and are able to distinguish their mothers by smell soon after birth.
Especially breastfeeding mothers, there will be a special milky smell on their bodies, which will make it easier for children to identify.
But even if the baby is not breastfed, it can be identified by the natural smell on the mother's skin or body.
For example, there was a famous "smell preference experiment", in which researchers asked newborns to smell different women's clothes or breast milk, and found that:
Babies will take longer to turn to their mother's scent.
This way of identifying smells is like a contract between mother and child, which has been quietly signed during pregnancy.
This is why some babies stop crying as soon as they come into contact with their mothers.
Generally speaking, the fetus has already had hearing from 6 months, and at 0 months, it is basically the same as the hearing of adults.
The School of Nursing, University of Toronto, Canada, once did a study:
They played three different sounds to the baby for 20 seconds and then watched the baby's head turn.
The results showed that the fetus was more sensitive and responsive to the mother's voice.
So in this case, after the baby is born, they already have a deeper memory of the mother's voice, as long as the mother speaks, they can naturally accurately distinguish it.
Of course, it is worth mentioning that because the fetus has hearing in the mother's womb, it is clear what parents usually say little secrets.
In fact, although children are just born, they do not have some of the abilities and cognitions that we adults have.
But over the course of evolution, they have been able to find their mother's direction through smells, sounds, and heartbeats.
This is like the "Cupid Doll Effect", which is a skill that an individual must master in order to survive.
Of course, this is also a magical bond between mother and child.
If the next time your baby hears your voice, he becomes quiet, or turns his head to look at you, don't forget that he is telling you in his own way: Mommy, I know you.