It's natural for children to make mistakes and parents to criticize them, but you know what? If you don't choose the right time to criticize, not only will it be ineffective, but it may also make your child more and more rebellious. As soon as some parents are in a hurry, they begin to count their children regardless of the occasion or time, and as a result, the children are even more unconvinced and even resistant.

To educate children, it is not enough to be "strict", but also to pay attention to "timing". Today, let's talk about the 3 "taboo" time of criticizing children, as well as the "five non-responsibilities" in the wisdom of the ancients.

1. Don't criticize when you get up in the morning

Morning is the beginning of the day, and the emotional state of the child directly affects his learning and performance throughout the day. If the child is reprimanded early in the morning and is depressed, he may not be able to keep up his energy all day, and even affect his concentration in class.

1. The brain has not been "turned on", and the criticism effect is poor

When the child first wakes up, his brain is not fully awake, and when he criticizes him, he may not listen at all, but feel irritable.

2. Affect the mood of the day

When children are scolded in the morning, they may go to school with negative emotions, affecting their learning status and even resisting their parents.

Suggestion: If your child is struggling in the morning, you can replace criticism with a reminder, such as "Hurry up, or you'll be late" instead of "Why are you so slow, every day!" ”

2. Don't criticize when eating

"Dinner table education" is a habit of many parents, and they always feel that their children can't run away during meals, so they can just "talk about it". But in fact, criticizing children during meals not only affects digestion, but also may make children have a psychological shadow on eating.

1. Emotions affect digestion

When a person is angry or nervous, the gastrointestinal function will be affected, and in the long run, the child may suffer from indigestion and even anorexia.

2. Destroy the family atmosphere

Eating is supposed to be a warm and relaxing time, and if you criticize your child at the dinner table, your child may be afraid to eat with his family, or even deliberately eat fast to avoid being lectured.

Suggestion: Try to talk about light-hearted topics at the dinner table, and save criticism for after the meal.

3. Don't criticize before going to bed

At night, before going to bed, children are most emotionally sensitive. If criticized at this time, the child may fall asleep with grievances and anger, affecting the quality of sleep, and even having nightmares.

1. Affect sleep quality

Negative emotions can make it difficult for children to fall asleep and even wake up in the middle of the night, which may affect growth and development in the long run.

2. It is easy to have an inferiority complex

When criticized before bedtime, your child may think back and forth that he feels "bad" and become less confident over time.

Tip: If your child makes a mistake at night, give a simple reminder, such as "We'll talk about it tomorrow," instead of a long reprimand.

"Five non-responsibility" - the wisdom of the ancients, modern parents should learn more

In addition to avoiding 3 "taboo" times, the ancients also summarized a set of "five non-responsibility" principles to remind parents to be restrained when criticizing their children to avoid hurting their children's self-esteem and mental health.

1、當眾不責

Children also have self-esteem, and criticizing him in front of outsiders and classmates will make him feel embarrassed and even rebellious.

2、生病不責

When the child is unwell, his emotions and resistance are relatively weak, and criticizing him at this time will not only have a poor effect, but may also aggravate the condition.

3. Regret is not responsible

If the child has recognized the mistake and shows guilt, the parents should stop blaming, otherwise it will discourage him from correcting himself.

4. Don't blame before going to bed

As mentioned earlier, bedtime criticism can affect a child's mood and sleep, and the benefits outweigh the losses.

5. Don't be responsible when you're happy

When the child is happy, he is suddenly criticized, and the emotional gap is too large, and it is easy to have psychological resistance.

Criticize your child, don't forget these points

1. Be calm first, and then pass through

When you are emotional, you often don't speak rationally, and wait until you calm down before talking to your child.

2. The right thing is not the right person

When critiquing, say "this is not the right thing to do", not "why are you so stupid".

3. Give your child a chance to explain

Sometimes children make mistakes for a reason, listen to his thoughts first, and then decide how to guide them.

To educate children, criticism is necessary, but the way is more important than the content. Only by choosing the right time and mastering the method can the child really listen, instead of the more critical he is, the more rebellious he becomes. The next time your child makes a mistake, try these methods and it may have unexpected results!

Tips: The medical science knowledge in the content is for reference only, does not constitute a medication guideline, does not serve as a basis for diagnosis, do not do it yourself without medical qualifications, if you feel unwell, please go to the hospital in time.