There is a son at home, although he is lively, he is not worry-free.

Boys are naturally energetic and curious, and they explore the world with action, but they are also prone to hitting a wall in recklessness.

In the process of parenting, parents should not only guide them to release their nature, but also need to use firm language to build a ladder for them to grow, and cultivate self-confident and resolute, responsible, warm and bright boys.

Every word of the parents is a compass in the son's heart. There are boys in the family, please keep these words on your lips often.

01

Teach your son to be brave and responsible

"Don't panic if you fall, pat the soil and see where you can help"

Many boys have been labeled as "solid" and "bold" since childhood, but if they insist on "no crying" and "no fear", it will make them suppress their true emotions and even cover up their vulnerability with recklessness.

True bravery is the courage to admit difficulties and be able to take responsibility in difficult situations.

As a parent, always say these things to him:

"Broken toy? Don't worry, think about how to fix it. (Guiding Problem Solving Rather than Running Avoidance)

"My brother is crying, you can help him wipe his tears and ask him what he needs." (Cultivating a sense of responsibility from an early age)

"It's okay to lose a game, but it's not manly to run away from training." (Emphasizing that persistence is more important than winning or losing)

"It's not terrible to make mistakes, it's terrible to pass them on to others." (Church Honesty and Responsibility)

"You can be afraid, but when you are afraid, you have to clench your fists and move forward." (Accept emotions and strengthen action)

Key takeaway: The boy's bravery is not a rampage, but a sense of responsibility and a light in his eyes.

Teach him the word "responsible" so that he can be a trustworthy partner in the crowd.

02

Teach your son to face challenges head-on

"It doesn't matter if you win or lose, but you have to do your best before admitting it"

Boys are competitive by nature, but excessive pursuit of "winning" can easily breed impetuousness, and even give up trying for fear of losing.

The real strong man is not always standing at the top, but being able to get up with a smile after falling and say, "Do it again!" ”

As a parent, always say these things to him:

"Do you think math is hard? Then let's practice one more question every day and take our time. (Split the target, reduce the pressure)

"Overtaken by classmates? Don't just stare at your opponent, see how much you've improved from yesterday. (Focus on self-growth)

Don't dare to raise your hand to answer? It's okay to be wrong, the classroom is where you can make mistakes. (Encourage Classroom Participation)

"Lost playing basketball? But you look so handsome when you're desperately trying to grab the ball on the field! (Affirming the process, not the result)

"It's easy to give up, but it's really cool to grit your teeth and stick to it." (Use "cool" to stimulate inner motivation)

Key takeaway: A boy's sharpness needs to be sharpened, not suppressed.

Teaching him to enjoy the process of hard work, rather than obsessing over temporary victories and defeats, will allow him to go further.

03

Teach your son to respect others

"Fists can't solve problems, but understanding and listening can"

Boys' bluntness is often misunderstood as "rough lines", and if they are allowed to express their emotions with their fists or yelling, they will only develop a domineering and selfish nature.

True masculinity is the ability to stand firm in principle and bend over to listen to the voices of others.

As a parent, always say these things to him:

"Quarreled with my sister? Take a deep breath and talk about why she's angry. (Cultivating empathy)

"You can disagree, but you can't interrupt someone." (Respect for the right to expression)

"The classmate cried, and handing over a tissue is more face-saving than ridiculing." (Convey kindness through action)

"Don't like the teacher's criticism? Then prove that he is wrong about you. (Turning emotions into motivation)

"If you joke, the other person will also find it funny, otherwise it will hurt." (Building a Sense of Boundaries)

Key takeaway: A boy's "power" should not be the capital to oppress others.

Teach him respect and empathy, so that he can win genuine recognition in his relationships.

04

Teach his son to be independent and resolute

"If you carry your own backpack, the road will become more and more stable"

Many parents over-arrange their sons, thinking that "rough boys" are just laissez-faire, but in fact they ignore the cultivation of independent ability.

A real man is not relying on his parents for everything, but being able to cover his own life.

As a parent, always say these things to him:

"The bag is messed up? Organize it yourself, and if you can't remember it, draw a list and stick it on the wall. (Exercise organization from small things)

"Don't have enough pocket money? Try helping your neighbor pick up a courier to earn some extra money. (Stimulates proactive problem solving)

"Lost? Look at the road signs first, but you can't find them before calling. (Cultivating the ability to respond calmly)

"You can ask for help, but make it clear what help you need, not just 'Mommy'!" (Clarify the division of responsibilities)

"Which course to choose?" Mom and Dad give advice, but the decision is yours. (Gradual decentralization and establishment of a sense of autonomy)

Key takeaway: Independence is not about "leaving it alone", it's about teaching boys to take responsibility for their own choices.

When he can carry his backpack steadily, he will have the confidence to face greater wind and rain in the future.

05

Teach your son to be warm and principled

"Be righteous to your brothers, but you can't let the bottom line be half a step"

A boy's righteousness is often seen as "hot-blooded", but if it is not bound by principles, it is easy to evolve into blindly following the trend or currying favor with others.

True warmth is not only the sincerity of protecting friends, but also the sobriety of distinguishing between right and wrong.

As a parent, always say these things to him:

"A friend cheats and lets you cover up? Rejecting him is a true brother. (Sticking to the bottom line is more important than face)

"It's okay to help, but first ask yourself, 'Is this right?' Will I get hurt? (Rational assessment of risk)

"Isolated? A true friend won't force you to do something against your will. (Rejection of flattering socializing)

"You can share snacks, but you don't have to give up the last piece of cake." (Rejection of self-sacrificing kindness)

"Someone else bullied you? Protecting oneself is not cowardice, smart people know how to outwit first. (Wisdom with Strength in Softness)

Key takeaway: A boy's "righteous spirit" needs the guidance of wisdom.

Teach him to guard the principles, so that his kindness can be sharp, and warmth is not cheap.

Write at the end:

The parents' mouths are the energy field of the son's life.

Raising a boy, the most taboo is to imprison him with the shackles of "men can't ......". Wise parents will inject strength into him with words:

When he flinched, tell him, "You're stronger than you think!" ”

When he is impetuous, remind him: "Slow is fast, and you can win by playing steadily." ”

When he made a mistake, pat him on the shoulder: "Remember to grab a handful of sand if you fall, don't step on this pit next time." ”

May every boy grow into a tall mountain, a rushing river, and a warm fire in the words of his parents—both to carry his own heaven and earth, and to light the way for others.

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Proofread by Zhuang Wu