Children are the treasures of their parents, whether it is the joy and frustration in the process of growing up, or the pressure and challenges of society in the future, they are inseparable from the guidance and support of their parents. And in the process, some parents often say hurtful words, making their children feel frustrated and lost. Today I would like to share a positive story: when this mother quit five sentences, she found that her child slowly became more confident, courageous and positive.

First sentence: You are doing it wrong

We all know that mistakes are inevitable in daily life, but if you are directly blamed every time and there is no encouragement or help, it is easy for children to feel that they can only do wrong things and have negative emotions. It's also important to tell them the right way and praise them for trying the new way.

Second sentence: You can never learn

All of us have new skills, new knowledge, and it takes time to adapt and understand. If we use negative language to evaluate what a child is trying to master, it can undermine their confidence in future progress and new skills.

The third sentence: It's very simple, why don't you understand it?

On the contrary, "This sounds a bit complicated, how do you understand it?" "Can I explain it to you?" and other expressions are more warm and friendly.

Sentence 4: Don't interfere with my time

As a parent, you do need to maintain some level of attention to the pending matters in your work and private life, but if you are not able to answer your child's questions immediately every time you encounter a problem, it is easy for your child to feel ignored or feel that their questions are meaningless, and may even affect the sense of intimacy.

Fifth sentence: I'm too busy to play with you

Companionship is more important to children than anything else, including spending time with them and participating in play. Therefore, when parents are unable to accompany them due to work or other reasons, they can choose to arrange a reasonable plan and emphasize their commitment to their children in other ways.

In this case, the mother decided to change the way she said negative language and use more affirmative language when communicating with her daughter, such as: "Thank you for taking the time to do your homework", "I see you putting in the effort to learn", "You have to go through failure to succeed". These positive words can be an effective way to encourage her daughter to keep trying, accept failure, and seek constructive feedback.

Since then, she has noticed that her daughter is beginning to show more courage, confidence, and patience. She begins to try new things and is willing to accept failure; At the same time, he has gradually demonstrated good qualities such as proactive thinking about problem-solving solutions and developing creativity. Slowly, the mother continued to communicate with her daughter like this for two years and found that it was very worthwhile." I am so happy to see my daughter become a woman who has the courage to pursue her dreams and face the unknown. ”

To sum up, the strategy of "replacing negative language with positive language" is feasible and effective. You should pay attention to your voice and attitude when passing on your message, and remember to guide your family members forward by encouraging rather than blaming. This will promote a good relationship with each other, so that you and your loved ones can succeed together!

Proofread by Zhuang Wu