When Xiao Ming's parents heard the head teacher praise him for his cleverness,When sensible, they felt a burst of joy in their hearts.
But the next chat surprised them: Xiao Ming did well in school,Good grades，However, the head teacher mentioned that his potential for communication and cooperation is particularly prominent。
This makes them think:Is it true that a child's growth is not just about grades?？
RecentlyA friend shared her troubles with me.
Every time her daughter Xiaoya comes home on a business trip,It's going to be very clingy, and even vexatious.
This made the friend a little overwhelmed,Grandma also often said that Xiaoya was well-behaved and sensible when she took care of her。
After some reflection and communication, my friend realized that Xiaoya was expressing her dependence and trust in this way.
A child's "vexatiousness" in front of her parents is actually a sign of trust, because she knows that she is tolerated and understood by her parents.
This sense of security is an important cornerstone of a child's development.
On the contrary, if the child is not willing to unpack the "disguise" in front of his parents,That's the signal to be wary of。
We often see children chattering and curious in public.
They always have endless questions,Seems to be interested in everything in the world。
My neighbor is such a motherShe always patiently answers a series of questions from her children and never feels annoyed.
Research has shown that language ability and the development of thinking go hand in hand.
By encouraging children's desire to express, parents can not only develop their children's language skills,It also stimulates their breadth of thinking。
Those children who are considered "noisy".，It is often the group of people who can calmly deal with complex problems in the future。
A child with good popularity will not only get more support and help in school,It will also benefit a lot later in life。
The children in the class are willing to play with Xiaoyu because she is always helpful and never overbearing.
This not only makes her popular,It also shows that she has honed her emotional intelligence。
A friend once talked to me about the child's circle of friends.Said she deliberately arranged several family gatherings，It is hoped that children can exercise their communication skills in a variety of social situations。
Well-informed children will be more confident in the face of various challenges,It is also more possible to find a circle that suits you in dating。
I don't know if you also have such an experience, when the child reaches the rebellious period, everything has to be reversed.My cousin said she had never had a problem with that。
She said the secret is to communicate on an equal footing and make children feel that every conversation is a discussion rather than an indoctrination.
She shared a conversation about her child coming home from school。
Seeing that my daughter was depressed, she did not directly repounce,Instead, choose companionship, trying to understand what is going on, this gentle way of communicating wins the child's heart.
In fact, sometimes you want your child to be obedient,Not by coercion, but by the communication of the heart.
When they grow up, many people will have a feeling of reluctance to go home.But if a child's attachment to home is consistent, which means that the atmosphere at home must be warm and harmonious.
Another friend of mine talked about what she looked forward to every time she came home.In fact, it comes from the warmth of the familyI always feel like I'm always there for support.
Home is more than just a place to live,It's a source of emotion。
When children feel the warmth of family, they will naturally tend to go home, even if they are out and about.It is always inseparable from the longing for home。
In the process of children's growth,Indeed, we should not focus solely on a single indicator of achievement。
Every child is a unique individual.Their all-round development requires our patient care and wisdom guidance。
When we begin to focus on our children's sense of security, language development, social skills, and attachment to the family,You can cultivate a truly healthy person、Happy kids，thus laying a solid foundation for their future。
And this kind of heart-based understanding and support may be the true essence of modern parenting.