Tao Xinran unexpectedlyThe official announced his divorce.

On Weibo, she ended this marriage that had lasted for nearly ten years with one sentence:

"Yes, it's been a while since I was separated, and I haven't been in sync with everyone because of the protection of my children.

There is no bloody plot, for, we, separated become, you, I, I'm sorry! ”

It's very decent, and it's also very embarrassing.

The marriage of female celebrities comes to an end, often accompanied by some blessings and some ridicule.

Some people want her to fly higher and higher, others sayWhen a woman starts a career, it means that divorce is not far away.

This conclusion may be a little biased, but it does slowly prove the marriage process of female stars in recent years.

Especially for Tao Xin,All this was even foreshadowed.

Tao Xinran and ex-husband He Jianze, probably a model of low-key love in the entertainment industry.

Before getting married, Tao Xinran hadn't even starred in "The Legend of Zhen Huan".An Lingrong, they met in 2006 years, loveLong-distance running for 9 yearsOnly in 2015 years did he get married.

Tao Xinran told the story of their encounter, which is also a very idol drama.

One night, Tao Xinran, who was asleep, was called to KTV by a friend on a phone call, and she sat in the corner of the K room with an unkempt face.

After a while, the door opened, and a handsome guy came in, it was He Jianze.

After meeting in the middle of the night, I also had to go to Beijing on a business trip the next day, and I met again on the high-speed train.

Both felt that it was fate.

There are too many coincidences in this pair, they didn't become famous at that time, they were still small actors, and they were all more traditional.

After running together for four or five years, no one still mentions marriage, and both of them feel that marriage is a lifelong affair and cannot be too child's play.

Just a walk away2015 years"Yes, on 18/0, Tao Xinran posted his marriage certificate with actor He Jianze, with the text "I have won a single heart, I hope that the white head will not be separated", He Jianze responded "Hold the hand of the son, grow old with the son".

After marriage, Tao Xinran once turned his focus to the family, and even his daughter's name was taken from the surnames of the two-He Tao.

There's no denying that they've had a great time.

Tao Xinran's social platform is full of warm pictures of a family of three: He Jianze plays the piano with his daughter, Tao Xinran posts a loving breakfast made by her husband, and the family of three celebrates her birthday, full of fireworks.

This kind of life can still be seen on her social platforms until the first two years.

But behind it lies a scene that many people ignore.

For more than two years after giving birth, Tao Xinran livedOnly the family, the husband, and the daughter remained.

15 months of exclusive breastfeeding, pushing off most of the work, even if you have to workOnly take daytime workShe had to rush home that night.

She has An Lingrong in hand, and she has more job opportunities than He Jianze, so she leaves more time to the other party, and she is a working mother.Take care of the baby while working.

There was also an episode at that time.

The "Rouge" she filmed after giving birth was launched, and she played the agent Feng Manna who suffered online violence because of her role blackening, and some people even cursed her daughter, so angry that she spoke out on Weibo.

She is a mother again, and she has to fight.

It wasn't until 2018 that she officially made a comeback to take over the play, and at that time, the bonus period of "The Legend of Zhen Huan" had long passed, because there were too many jobs that were pushed off, and she didn't act for too long, and there were very few directors who could think of her.

She has to start from scratch,Interviews hit a wall everywhere, go to the performing arts variety show to brush your face, and train yourself as a newcomer.

The crack appeared in 2023 years, Tao Xinran faintly collapsed in the variety show, she said that she called her husband and criedI can't balance work and family.

But she never gave up, Tao Xinran has continued to make efforts in acting and variety shows in the past two years.Finally out of the woods, at the same time, He Jianze's career came to a standstill-None of them again after 2023 years.

This"Women are strong and men are weak"The pattern gradually tears apart the intimate relationship.

TheyThe last time in the same frameIt was to celebrate his daughter's birthday in 9/0, and He Jianze's public interaction with Tao Xinran dates back to earlier.

Later, theyNo more interaction, mutual closure.

Tao Xinran is frequently photographed picking up and dropping off her daughter alone, and her husband is not seen at important moments such as her 40th birthday, Women's DayThe painting was also given to herself by her daughter.

Now, I finally waited for her to say a word to end her 10-year marriage.

From "Model Couple" to "Decent Farewell", which can be regarded as in line with her independent female image.

It's very reassuring to know thatTao Xinran has been his own master.

Their 10-year marriage has always been dominated by Tao Xinran.

She once said on the show that marriage is adoptedgo Dutch, living expenses and daughter's tuition fees are also paid half, and childcare responsibilities are borne in turn.

This family model has been endorsed by many people, but it has also attracted a lot of criticism.

Some people say it's like roommates, but now it seems that AA marriages are more soA kind of equal sharing of responsibilities, Tao Xinran said that this move is forFeel each other's hardships.

But their AA system is not completely equivalent, Tao Xinran explainedThe ratio of AA is determined based on the current income of the two people.

She redefined marriage as:"Phased Life Partnership."

Now it seems that the contract expires and everyone says goodbye with dignity.

Behind the official announcement of the divorce, she even deleted a lot of previous loving photos and interactions, on the one handIn order to protect her daughter's privacy,On the other hand, I do my bestReduce the aftershocks of this marriage.

Because of the practice of such marriage rules, Tao XinranI worked hard for myself and my family.

sheRestructured career and family relationshipsMarriage is a result of love, but it is by no means the end.

To this end, she constantly challenges tradition, and AA marriage is her first outlet,Parenting anxiety was transformed into nourishment for her career.

A few years of painful experience as a stay-at-home mom left herConcern for vulnerable women.

In 2024 years, she spent all her savings to make moviesBetween the Cracks, for the first time, he has multiple identities such as producer and star.

The movie is about:Li Qingcao, a single mother, and left-behind childrenThe story is very close to the current social issues, and in the end the box office was miserable, but she thinks"It's more important to have their voices heard."

In recent years, she has indeed been doing various women-related work, playing different female roles.

Played in the documentary "Phoenix: Her Legend".LI Qingzhao,As soon as she appeared, there was the shadow of Li Qingzhao.

Tao Xinran's tenacity is really very suitable for Li Qingzhao's affectionate and righteous image.

At this time, Tao Xinran has completed the identity transition from actor to producer.

So she dared to say, "The market has not surpassed "The Legend of Zhen Huan",But I can surpass Tao Xinran. ”

Coming to this point, you will find that Tao Xinran has embarked on a path that is different from that of the heroine of domestic entertainment.

From being a supporting actress in a hit drama, to being marginalized, to being back on the table for dinner.

Some people say that her growth trajectory over the years has been deducedThe awakening of the modern woman.

在AA制婚姻中，陶昕然始終Maintain business autonomy and economic capacity。

So she has the key bargaining chips to choose to restart her life.

The different roles and positioning in life made her understand the focus of her career, and she saw that in order to create more socially meaningful roles, she had to grasp the right to speak.

In the end, she successfully proved that the plight of women can also be an incision for career breakthroughs.

Tao Xinran is so persistent, she once mentioned a small thing that surprised me, once her daughter told her, "Mom, I want a sister." ”

Her answer was"But my mom also loves my job."

Marriage can't compromise her, and neither can her daughter.

Therefore, instead of discussing "female celebrities engaging in careers = marital crisis",It's better to look at them who have gone through the crisis and walked out of it.

Remembering a few years agoZhao LiyingWhen divorced, many people said that they were entertainedThe "age of divorce" has arrived。

Indeed, thenZhang Ziyi, Sun Yi, Wu Qian, Li Xiangand other female stars' marriages have become the focus of new topics.

While we are undertaking a huge change in public opinion, we are also feeling the change in society's perception of the value of women.

Everyone finally realized thatThe true decency of a woman does not lie in maintaining the perfection of the appearance of marriage, but in having the courage to restart life at any time.

Remember, marriage is not a destination, you are the whole thing.