During the storm of adolescence, adolescents are facing a dramatic physical and mental transformation, and hormonal fluctuations often make it difficult for them to control themselves, and they are often irritated even when they try to stabilize their emotions. In this case, if parents fail to give in in at the right time, family harmony may be affected.
Children face the high school entrance examination at the age of 17, and have to cope with the college entrance examination at the age of 0, and every step is full of challenges. In order to maintain the emotional stability of the child, parents must keep their voice down, avoid direct conflict with the child, and be in a state of extreme humility.
Adolescent children seem to have become a different person, the original meekness and intimacy seem to have disappeared, and they have become covered with thorns, making people afraid to approach easily.
However, adolescence is not only a growing point that ends after the college entrance examination, and even when children enter the university campus, conflicts between children and their parents still exist. Parents may think that their children are mature, but in fact, they still need a few years of careful care and support.
1. Avoid hard bumps and overcome rigidity with softness
Adolescent teenagers and girls are like thorny roses, and if they are treated strongly, they will only lose both. They react strongly to any unpleasant remarks and are even more tempered than their parents. Unless it is a matter of principle, parents should choose to be tolerant and understanding, and be a solid haven for them by calming their irritable minds with patience and tenderness.
If a child takes a strong stance to win the battle for victory, hoping to establish absolute authority, and the child is self-conscious and unwilling to give in, then conflict between the two parties is inevitable and may eventually lead to the parent-child relationship falling to a freezing point. A discordant family environment will seriously affect the child's mood, and the lack of love and understanding may cause the child to seek emotional sustenance from the outside world, leading to emotional estrangement from the parents.
2. Embrace the changes of adolescence
Children excel in elementary school, but may decline when they enter junior high school. This may be due to the increased workload of coursework, fierce competition among classmates, and lack of mental capacity, and a lack of positive and enterprising attitude. Lack of perseverance in the face of strong opponents, coupled with improper learning methods, may lead to a sharp drop in grades and difficulty in staying at the top.
The high pressure of middle school and the physical and psychological changes of adolescence make children anxious. If they get through this period, they will be able to continue their enthusiasm for learning. A parent's job is to help, not hinder. Adolescence is a critical turning point, and children are susceptible to family and outside influences; Once the stress leads to a psychological breakdown or school boredom, both parents and children will suffer greatly.
3. Multi-Behavior, Minor-Language
When there are adolescent children in the family, parents should talk less and do more. Stay silent and give silently, without worrying too much about your children. As long as the parent-child relationship established at an early age is strong and strong, they will feel the expectation and support of their parents, even in the face of various manifestations of adolescence.
Although sometimes children verbally say that they do not need to intervene, in reality they are still dependent on the help of their parents. When a child needs help, parents should not be sarcastic, but sympathetic and supportive.
While there may not be much help in learning skills, parents can communicate with teachers to assist their children in making progress when facing academic difficulties. Every child has a deep desire to excel, especially when faced with the pressure of important exams. Academic success also promotes harmony among family members.
Write at the end
The careful behavior of seemingly humble parents in front of their children is actually valuable; Helping children through the challenges of adolescence through inclusion and understanding, and allowing them to grow happily and emotionally stable every day, are already ahead of many of their peers. Because many adolescent children have a tense relationship with their parents, they often have arguments; But if you can communicate intimately and share your thoughts without barriers, your child's adolescence will be more stable and the future will naturally be bright.