In interpersonal interactions, people often appear as kind and lovable, and their virtues are often revealed through words and deeds. However, when the purpose is achieved, their worst side may come to light, giving us a glimpse of their true nature. Understanding this is not about holding a grudge, but about reminding yourself to be vigilant and avoid being deceived again.
Almost no one is evil, most of them have good intentions in their hearts, and what we usually feel when we interact is the good deeds and cooperative spirit of the other party. These good qualities make us feel good about the other person, especially when the other person gives us help or touches us.
As the relationship deepens, the two parties work closely together in pursuit of more common interests, and the level of intimacy increases. In this closeness, people tend to let their guard down and show their truer selves.
However, this true side sometimes hides negative qualities, and they may no longer hide their shortcomings and even act in front of us to hurt us. At such times, their true nature contrasts with our previous impressions.
When we become aware of the other person's malice, especially when they have gained far more from us than we have lost, we will begin to protect ourselves, remembering this side to avoid being victimized again.
When it comes to not holding grudges, many people mistakenly think that it means agreeing with the other person's wrongdoing. In fact, not holding grudges does not mean accepting evil deeds, but rather reminding us to be more vigilant in our dealings with people.
We hide the true side of the other person in our hearts, and only I can see it. In our relationships, we will use these unpleasant experiences to remind ourselves to be vigilant, so that we can face each other more calmly.
Sometimes, in order to maintain a superficial friendship, we may ignore the other person's inappropriate behavior, but this will only make the other person more presumptuous. If we decide to disown the other person, we need to be prepared to face a complete break. Therefore, when the influence of the other party is less than the cost of breaking off relations with them, a moderate amount of distancing is necessary.
Our relationships with others are based on mutual understanding. Only by truly understanding the essence of the other party can we get along calmly and leave no regrets. Even if we find each other's shortcomings, as long as we don't turn the other party, we can still calmly remind the other party to correct them.
In relationships, we need to have a tolerant heart. If you can't accept each other's shortcomings, it will be difficult to maintain a relationship. Don't just see the shortcomings of others, but learn to appreciate their strengths.
Conclusion: In relationships, accepting imperfection is a sign of maturity. We should learn to recognize and appreciate the good in others, and be tolerant of their shortcomings. Such a mindset not only helps us understand others more fully, but also serves as a reminder to ourselves.