In Doudou's famous book "The Distant Savior", there is such a thought-provoking discussion:

"The art of survival consists in two essential elements: the ability to endure what others cannot endure; The second is to be able to do what others can't. The space between these two points is your realm of survival. ”

At the end of the day, if you want to excel in life, the key is to challenge yourself and surpass yourself.

This challenge and transcendence comes from an extremely strict attitude towards oneself.

Only by truly being ruthless to oneself can we deeply understand and perceive the underlying logic of world development and the essence of human nature.

Subsequently, you will have a clear idea of how to survive and become more determined, disciplined, and courageous.

This will open up a wider space for your livelihood and life.

Always believe that if you are strict with yourself earlier, the better life you expect will come sooner.

01 About making money

Wealth is the foundation of a good life.

Living in a real society, no one can be separated from material needs.

Therefore, if you want to improve your quality of life, it is important to master at least one money-making skill.

Once you get the hang of making money, it will not only energize your life but also boost your spirit.

When it comes to money, be strict with yourself as well.

Many people have great business ideas, but often lack the motivation to act, which leads to lost opportunities.

As a result, they miss out on opportunities and their incomes are dwindling.

Writer Li Gang once said:

"It's not difficult to make money, you just need to read one more book, work an hour, close a customer, and think more about problems than ordinary people."

Behind all success, there are rules to follow, traces to follow.

For example, through continuous efforts and improvements.

In this way, you can accumulate more experience and skills by working harder than others.

Ultimately, if you can keep working hard, you will be able to become the best in your field and achieve success.

02 If you want to be harmful, you have to be ruthless

To be extraordinary, you need to not only be yourself, but also maintain certain boundaries with others.

In this complex and ever-changing world, being overzealous can reduce your value in the eyes of others.

As Osamu Dazai mentions in "Human Disqualification":

"Excessive enthusiasm can make people feel cheap."

Unbridled enthusiasm and kindness only make people feel easy to bully and take advantage of.

A true master of interpersonal communication, who is not only strict with himself, but also knows how to treat others appropriately.

This allows them to maintain their independence and peace of mind even in the face of adversity.

Gradually, they will achieve self-growth through personal efforts and find a lifestyle that suits them.

As they become more sober and far-sighted, they will be able to take control of their own destiny and the direction of their lives.

Remember, keeping a moderate distance from yourself and others will reduce trouble and pain.

As stated in the movie "The Godfather":

"Unbounded tolerance can only lead to encroachment on the part of others; Unprincipled kindness will make the other person unscrupulous. ”

Therefore, become stronger, self-reliant, and no longer at the mercy of others.

In the end, through their own efforts and growth, they can realize their self-worth, protect and enjoy their lives.

03 secretly precipitates behind the back

There is a saying in "Zhuang Zi Sex Weaving":

“非其時而命大困者，宜深藏不露，靜待時機，是為存身之道。 ”

When faced with difficulties or confusion, the best thing to do is to silently accumulate strength.

This means taking deep roots, preparing silently, preserving one's strength and gaining experience.

Really strong people are always themselves.

They work silently behind the scenes, never show their edge, work steadily, keep silent, and truly be restrained and radiant.

In the second half of life, we should learn self-control, do not indulge, and only in silent self-cultivation can we truly achieve long-term development.

Learning to hide one's edge is a rare ability.

The more capable people are, the more modest and low-key they are, and they have a more far-reaching vision and pattern.

In the face of the peaks and troughs of life, their hearts are always calm and calm, and they are becoming more and more perfect.

No matter what stage of life you are in, you must secretly raise your requirements for yourself and make yourself better.