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Do you know the effect of suggestion on a person? For example, if you always say that one is bad, then he really becomes a bad person. If you always say that the child is stupid, the child may really become a stupid person. If you yell at your child from time to time, your child may become a guy who throws away the pen whenever he encounters a problem, and he is completely unable to face the problem and solve the problem by himself.

So, for children, we need to learn positive cues. Here are some ways to stimulate your child's internal drive.

1. I know you're annoying, and that's how I came over, and I understand you very well

When you talk like this, you empathize with your child. They will feel that you understand him, and they will feel that Mom and Dad are people they can rely on. At the same time, they will also be able to manage their emotions like their parents, so that they can slowly calm down and make them feel understood and cared for.

Second, I am very pleased that you have fewer mistakes now, the speed is fast, and the progress is very great

When you say this, the child's mind will change, and they will no longer have a lot of psychological pressure. For example, those parents who say that their children are stupid, this kind of child will have a stronger heart in the future, and the motivation for internal drive will be stronger.

So, smart parents are helping their children turn negative emotions into positive ones. Let my child understand that I can, I can do it, and I will make better progress every time I try.

3. You see, you can do the questions that your parents don't know, and it's really better than blue

Parents who talk like this know how to protect their children's self-esteem and their ability to solve problems on their own. They know that the human brain can be changed by the control of language. Therefore, smart parents will pass on their expectations to their children, instead of blindly suppressing and denying their children, but let their children see better and feel better.

If you say I can't memorize these words, and I can't use them for my children at critical times, then it's okay, you can say "don't" to your children less in your life.

What don't waste time, don't drop the rice on the table, don't ..... All of these can cause your child to release more and more of his or her own problems.

We might as well try to talk to our children well. Changed "don't cry" to "Mom hug, tell me why I'm sad?" Change "don't waste time" to "Let's make tasks together and complete them together, okay?" ”

Of course, if you are worried that your child will not like to learn, then create an environment for your child to learn addictively early. Start with simple, easy-to-complete goals to help your child achieve their goals and create a sense of pleasure in completing tasks.

When the child completes it, or completes it ahead of schedule, the child must not take advantage of the victory to pursue, but give timely encouragement. In this way, children's interest in learning can be slowly accumulated.

Proofread by Zhuang Wu