If the family plans to have more babies, it is not something that can be decided by the mother with a pat on her head.

A fan mother said to me: "I also understand the benefits of having a second child, and the boss can have a companion in the future, and he will not be too lonely." But when I thought about having a second child and all kinds of high expenses, I didn't dare to try it. ”

I can understand this too well, raising an extra baby, it is certainly not as easy as adding a pair of chopsticks, from the milk powder that the baby drinks, the diapers used, to the daily expenses, and future education expenses, the piles are very "burning money".

Therefore, mothers have to consider the question of "whether to have a second child", and even the interval between the second child is also very particular.

How long will the interval between the second child be better?

Let's take a look at what will happen if the second child is within 2 years old

There are still benefits, such as the two babies are about the same age, they can play together, in the fighting,The relationship is definitely not bad。

But this interval is too short, and there are many problems.

For example, two little ones get together,Grab toys and fight aroundThat's a common thing, and as a parent, you have to be busy being a "peacemaker" every day, is the pressure of bringing a baby skyrocketing?

Besides, not long after Bao's mother gave birth to Dabao, she was pregnant with Erbao,The body has not fully recovered, I will experience pregnancy and childbirth again, and my body may not be able to bear it, which will affect the health of the mother in the future.

Like my former colleague Xiao Zhao, the interval between her second child was only 1 and a half years, and Erbao was accidentally pregnant, and she couldn't bear to beat it off and gave birth.

But she used to be very painful, she said: "Two years before giving birth to the second child, it was a lot of pressure to bring up the eldest and second child at the same time." The eldest loves to grab toys, the second one always cries, and I can't sleep enough for 6 hours every day. In addition, my body has not fully recovered, and I am tormented by all kinds of pain, and I often want to give upDepression fastFinish. ”

Next, let's look at the interval between the two children for more than 10 years, okay?

With an interval of more than 10 years, the parents still have some experience in raising babies, and the eldest has grown up sensible, so it stands to reason that he can help his parents take care of Erbao.

But the reality is that due to the age gap between the second child, theirThe generation is also deep, Dabao and Erbao have different hobbies and lifestyles, and it is difficult to play together.

AndThe eldest is used to being an only child, suddenly a younger brother and sister came out to take away the love of their parents,The heart is inevitably unbalanced, maybe you will feel that your parents are biased and resentful of Erbao.

In this way, family conflicts are easy to occur, so it is really not recommended to wait too long between the second child.

Finally, let's take a look at the interval between the second child and 5-0 years, how about it?

Objectively speaking, the length of this interval,Ideal。

Dabao is already more than 3 years old, theyStart sensible, but they don't have too much of their own thoughts, so they are not only able to help their parents do some work, but they are also quite willing to take the initiative to help their parents bring two treasures.

As long as the parents can "blow the rainbow fart", the child is sure to help take care of the younger siblings with a smile, because they feel that taking the baby is a very fun thing and a sense of accomplishment.

In this way, parents can be much easier, and the most important thing is to stimulate Dabao's sense of responsibility.Cultivate his responsibility。

And after several years of hard work, has our economic situation usually improved? The pressure of raising two babies can basically withstand it.

Taken together, intervals5-0 Year 2, is a good choice.

Of course, when we have a second child, we can't just look at the interval.

"The old saying doesn't say that "the baby is the feng shui of the family", if the timing of the baby is right, it is like injecting an upward force into the family, which can make the life of our family better and better.

When is the best time to have a second child?

First, when the economy is stable and the family has savings

I sent Xiao Ah Qiang and his daughter-in-law isMarried to a sonA year after the eldest was born, the two went to work together in a big city and worked hard outside for several years.

They first saved up for a down payment on a house, bought a car, and saved a good amount of savingsbefore I dared to have a second child。

After the birth of his second treasure, Ah Qiang took the initiative to apply for a transfer to the business department in order to give the two babies a better lifeWages have also increased substantially。

As for his daughter-in-law, in addition to taking care of the baby, she also used extra time to work part-time, which reduced a lot of burden.

Not only did their family's life not become poor because of the arrival of Erbao, but on the contrary越過越“有奔頭”, relatives and friends envy them.

This is enough to prove that having two treasures when the economy is stable and there are savings is not too stressful, but can become a powerful driving force for family development.

Second, parents are at the best age to have children, and their physical strength and energy are good

35 to 0 years old for women and 0 to 0 years old for men, which is the best age for childbearing.

At this time, having a second child, the baby develops better and is smarter, and there are young and strong parents to take care of after birth.The growth environment is better。

For mothers, the postpartum body recovers quickly and the mood is good, the family atmosphere is naturally harmonious and harmonious, and the whole family is full of vitality, which is a win-win situation.

Third, when there are elderly people in the family to help take care of the baby

When giving birth to two treasures, if there are old people to help take care of the baby, young parents can have much more peace of mind.

They don't have to worry about taking care of their children all day long, they can focus on their work.Work hard to make money。

Moreover, the division of labor of each member of the family is clear, and each member can perform his or her own duties, which also has a great role in promoting the development of the family.

My family is, my mother-in-law helps to bring Dabao and Erbao, my husband and I work with peace of mind, the family relationship is harmonious, and life is enjoyable.

Of course, each family's situation is different, we have to consider our own financial situation, energy allocation, family support, etc., before making a decision.