What are the components of happiness?

If the perfect score is 10, then 0% is from childhood, 0% is from self-actualization, and 0% is from love.

A child's childhood happiness index will affect his happiness throughout his life.

Many people say that today's children are a happy generation.

In fact, they are also a hard generation.

Happiness lies in the convenience of life and abundant resources; The hard work is due to the fierce competition and the constant exams, and even the short ten minutes between classes have to be squeezed very little.

If you ask your child if they are happy or not, you can see the answer to the question on their faces.

In Emile, Rousseau wrote:"Nature wants children to be like children before they become adults.

If we disrupt this order, we will result in some early-ripening fruits, which will grow neither plump nor sweet.

And it will soon rot, and we will make some young doctors and old children. ”

Education is like a rubber band, the tighter you pull it, the easier it is to break.

Sometimes, if you loosen the rubber bands properly, the child can reap greater surprises.

01Allow learning to be less "full"

Nowadays, there are several cram schools per child.

But judging from the actual data, not every child can improve by leaps and bounds through cram school.

Not to mention the tiredness of the child's parents, it will even lead to the opposite effect, aggravating the child's disgust with school.

There is an old saying: "When the water is full, it overflows." ”

The key to tutoring is not quantity, it's quality.

In order to really improve a child's grades, tutoring is one thing, and more important is the child's learning foundation and learning efficiency.

Concentration is the foundation of all learning. The better the concentration, the higher the learning efficiency and the better the academic performance.

No matter how many "Xueba Cultivation Posts" you read, you can finally find that these Xueba have a very obvious thing in common, that is, super focus.

Ning Xiangdong, a professor at Tsinghua University, once said:

"People with strong concentration will focus on doing something they like, and if they stick to it, they will definitely have a future, and those who can achieve long-termism have concentration and continuity."

A child's attention is mainly related to the development of the frontal lobe, which together with the dorsomedial nucleus of the thalamus constitutes the perceptual system, which is the most important place for mental activity.

The function of the frontal lobe is to exchange output samples, and to illuminate the consciousness of the mound through the connection path. The prefrontal lobe and the dorsomedial nucleus of the thalamus establish a connection path through contact fibers, and the sample is illuminated by the connection pathway.

The prefrontal lobe is our rational center, which is more responsible for organization, execution and coordination, which is an important part of the brain.

It helps children learn to plan, think, and control impulsive behaviors, and guides us to reject temptations.

The prefrontal lobe plays the role of "director", and it directs the plot. If the prefrontal lobe is damaged, then there will be certain problems in his attention, he cannot concentrate on observing and thinking about problems, let alone careful logical reasoning, he is helpless against unexpected events, he is always forgetful about things, he is slow to react to behavior, he is paranoid, withdrawn, mood swings, and moody.

If we want to help children improve their concentration and efficiency, we can do it with the help of EEG biofeedback.

According to the actual situation of the child, formulate a personalized improvement training plan, through professional instruments, real-time feedback on the child's brain state during training, display the biological activities that we cannot see through accurate data, and adopt a multi-faceted training mode to conduct targeted training on the child's relevant brain regions and improve the monitoring ability of the prefrontal cortex of the brain.

According to the actual needs of the child, targeted exercises are carried out on the relevant brain regions of the brain. The multi-point training mode allows for a more comprehensive development of the overall brain connection.

In the learning process, children can independently regulate their learning state, control time and learning tasks in a more orderly manner, and develop good habits of efficient learning.

02Allow some useless "hobbies"

In the book "Shadow of a Dream", it is written:

“花不可以無蝶，山不可以無泉，石不可以無苔，水不可以無藻，人不可以無癖。 ”

In this life, it is very important to have a hobby, which can give people a sense of strength.

Love will bring perseverance and courage to children to persevere.

When children are committed to something they are passionate about, they will not only enjoy it, but they will also be filled with self-affirmation.

Because they know how to work hard, how to achieve their goals, and they don't give up easily.

Only with enough love can we have a strong enough mentality to overcome difficulties and turn the "gritted teeth" in the eyes of others into "happy persistence".

The coach of diving champion Quan Hongchan said in an interview:

"Every time she makes a new move, she is always the first to do it, and after training, she trains herself."

If it was just to win the championship, it was unlikely, and it can be seen from her smile and words that she has a real love for diving.”

Studies have shown that:

After entering primary school, in addition to subject knowledge, skills such as drawing and handicraft will help children improve their ability to observe, imagine, and aesthetically please.

Many seemingly "useless" hobbies are a source of stress release.

A hobby that a child is interested in can not only help children get adjustment in the heavy extracurricular work, but also cultivate children's diversified skills and adapt to future development.

Throughout the history of science, most discoveries that have proven to be beneficial to humanity have come from useless interests.

From the time of Galileo, Bacon, and Newton, seemingly useless hobbies were a typical feature of the modern era.

Throughout the history of human development, strong hobbies have been unstoppable, and the less practical considerations there are, the more likely these seemingly non-existent hobbies are to contribute to human well-being.

03Allow every "try"

Jack Welch, CEO of American Electric Corporation, had a bit of low self-esteem as a child because of his stuttering.

But his mother told him:

"Talking stumbling because your mouth can't keep up with your clever brain, try to do something with your intelligence."

It was because of his mother's encouragement that he was able to achieve remarkable achievements on the subsequent road.

The best way to develop your child's abilities is to allow him to be bold and experimental.

The experience and experience of adults are also honed in all kinds of matters, and only after experiencing various attempts can they become familiar with the events in daily life.

Only after bold attempts can children truly learn to observe, do, experience, and review, and they will learn and grow from them.

Shakespeare once said:

本來無望的事，大膽嘗試，往往能成功。

Success doesn't happen in a vacuum, it's something that comes from trial after attempt.

Only when you really experience and feel it, when you face the unknown, you can learn to solve it with your previous experience.

For children, trying is not only an experience, but also an opportunity to learn, only the courage to try, children will be more aware of the essence of everything, but also faster to find out the way to adapt to society.